# How many partners have you had? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 1, 2003, 11:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192 "2003-02-01T23:55:27Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![\_Sky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/_/b2d939/32.png) [@\_Sky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/_Sky)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2003, 2:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/61 "2003-02-03T02:05:26Z")
1)1 2)Female 3)35 ---
**Author:** ![SpartanDC](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b2d939/32.png) [@SpartanDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SpartanDC)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2003, 3:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/62 "2003-02-03T03:32:20Z")
If we’re including hand jobs and oral sex… 1. 10 (only 5 if it’s just intercourse) 2. Male 3. 24 ---
**Author:** ![Sublight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/439d5e/32.png) [@Sublight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sublight)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2003, 6:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/63 "2003-02-03T06:09:09Z")
1. about 30 (coitus only. About 60 otherwise) 2. male 3. 31 ---
**Author:** ![Walloon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/fbc32d/32.png) [@Walloon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Walloon)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2003, 7:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/64 "2003-02-03T07:20:28Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by SNenc \* > \*\*If we’re including hand jobs and oral sex… > > 1. 10 (only 5 if it’s just intercourse) > \*\* Hand jobs and oral sex _are_ sexual intercourse. So is coitus, which is probably what you mean. See above. ---
**Author:** ![phraser](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a88e4f/32.png) [@phraser](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/phraser)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2003, 7:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/65 "2003-02-03T07:33:57Z")
1. 2 male, 9 female, 1 genderqueer. 2. Og only knows… my current SO calls me a fag trapped in a dyke’s body. 3. I recently turned 21. ---
**Author:** ![phraser](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a88e4f/32.png) [@phraser](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/phraser)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2003, 7:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/66 "2003-02-03T07:36:09Z")
damn, i forgot one. Add another female. So, 2 male, 10 female, 1 genderqueer. ---
**Author:** ![fusoya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ecccb3/32.png) [@fusoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fusoya)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2003, 7:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/67 "2003-02-03T07:47:53Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Xavier \* > \*\* > > Q: > > 1. How many sexually intimate partners have you had in your life? > > 2. Are you male or female? > \*\* 1. 5 (although two of them were one time things) 2. male ---
**Author:** ![fusoya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ecccb3/32.png) [@fusoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fusoya)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2003, 7:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/68 "2003-02-03T07:53:05Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by fusoya \* > \*\*1. 5 (although two of them were one time things) > > 1. male \*\* oh, and since everyone’s doing it…I’m 22 years old ---
**Author:** ![I\_can\_t\_believe\_that\_s\_butter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/8edcca/32.png) [@I\_can\_t\_believe\_that\_s\_butter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/I_can_t_believe_that_s_butter)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2003, 9:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/69 "2003-02-03T09:28:26Z")
1. 2 or so (broad definition of “intercourse”); 0 (coitus). 2. Male, 23. ---
**Author:** ![Lezaza](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7ba0ec/32.png) [@Lezaza](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lezaza)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2003, 10:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/70 "2003-02-03T10:55:32Z")
1. one person. 2. male. 3. 20 years old as of next week. I’m not attracted to girls, not guys either. In swedish we call this “asexuell”, but I have no idea how to translate that word into english. That one person did it to me when I was almost completely passed out (yes, being drunk is a curse)… it was my friend that told me about my “sexual intercourse”. (I wonder if that would count as rape… probably not. ---
**Author:** ![blinx](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/a5b964/32.png) [@blinx](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/blinx)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2003, 11:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/71 "2003-02-03T11:04:00Z")
1. One 2. Male 3. 26 ---
**Author:** ![Indygrrl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/58f4c7/32.png) [@Indygrrl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Indygrrl)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2003, 2:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/72 "2003-02-03T14:18:29Z")
40-50 Female 28 ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2003, 2:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/73 "2003-02-03T14:29:15Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Superdude \* > **1) 7 that I consider. There was Spring Break 1991, when a friend and I went to Florida, and hit every coastal party town. He and I essentially slept with anything that moved during that week, and, in some occasions, no names were even exchanged. So I don’t count those.** … but if you read the link in the OP, that’s the whole _point_ of this survey–trying to establish a baseline of horn-doggedness! Me: 1. 7 ladies, all back in the 80’s (married the last one) 2. Male 3. 42 ---
**Author:** ![Legomancer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/779978/32.png) [@Legomancer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Legomancer)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2003, 3:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/74 "2003-02-03T15:35:05Z")
1. Four. David Caruso, Jimmy Smits, Rick Schroeder, and that guy from Saved by the Bell. 2. Male 3. I’m a cop. ---
**Author:** ![cowgirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8c91f0/32.png) [@cowgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cowgirl)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2003, 3:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/75 "2003-02-03T15:46:33Z")
1. around 20 2. female 3. 26 no one-night stands, I was very fond of all of them (at the time that we were together) - ‘fond’ being broadly defined, of course, there was only one that I was interested in marrying - and I did! all encounters were “safe.” Yes, I enjoyed the 90s. ---
**Author:** ![Gyrate](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gyrate/32/3588_2.png) [@Gyrate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gyrate)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2003, 3:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/76 "2003-02-03T15:58:52Z")
Male (35) here. The vital statistics: [list]\* Including coitus: 1 (one). - More broadly defined: um, still 1 (one). - Made successful passes at: 1 (yes, the same one). - Made unsuccessful passes at: 0 (zero). My pass rate is 100%. Woohoo! - Imaginary partners: 35,147 (lots and lots) ---
**Author:** ![Gyrate](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gyrate/32/3588_2.png) [@Gyrate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gyrate)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2003, 3:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/77 "2003-02-03T15:59:58Z")
Coding screwups: one more. ---
**Author:** ![soulburnz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ec9cab/32.png) [@soulburnz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/soulburnz)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2003, 3:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/78 "2003-02-04T03:00:20Z")
1] 66 2] female 3] 34 ---
**Author:** ![Helen\_s\_Eidolon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/8edcca/32.png) [@Helen\_s\_Eidolon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Helen_s_Eidolon)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2003, 3:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/79 "2003-02-04T03:07:56Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Lezaza \* > \*\*That one person did it to me when I was almost completely passed out (yes, being drunk is a curse)… it was my friend that told me about my “sexual intercourse”. (I wonder if that would count as rape… probably not. \*\* Um, yes. That is rape, very clearly so. ---
**Author:** ![Rubystreak](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e5b9ba/32.png) [@Rubystreak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rubystreak)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2003, 3:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/80 "2003-02-04T03:35:54Z")
Wow. I feel like a total tramp now. I have to say, maybe it’s just a fast crowd I hang with, but I’m upwards of 10 partners and so are most of my friends, having been sexually active now for over a decade. Maybe it’s just b/c none of us are married, so you do start to rack them up over the years. Not sure. I do envy people who found one person and stuck with it. Out of my seemingly-many partners, if I could go back, I’d winnow out all but 6, and even THAT seems like a lot… Feeling abashed now… [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192.md?page=5)