# How many partners have you had? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 1, 2003, 11:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192 "2003-02-01T23:55:27Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Tomcat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Tomcat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tomcat)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2003, 8:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/81 "2003-02-04T08:58:39Z")
1. 35 - 40 depending on definitions, more if you count re-runs with old flames as new… 2. Male 3. 32 ---
**Author:** ![mswas](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e99b99/32.png) [@mswas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mswas)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2003, 10:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/82 "2003-02-04T10:49:15Z")
Lezaza: In English it’s “Asexual” ironically. And yes that’s the definition of rape. 1. 12 (10 female 2 male) 2. Male 3. 25 (sexually active since 19 married and monogomous for 2.5 of that. So that means that 11 of those partners happened in the 3 years prior and subsequent to my marriage.) I also had a long love affair with acid, where I more or less didn’t even bother with girls, even when they hit on me. This lasted about a year. Erek ---
**Author:** ![GuanoLad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guanolad/32/42_2.png) [@GuanoLad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GuanoLad)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2003, 12:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/83 "2003-02-04T12:35:00Z")
_sigh_ 1 Male 33 I am soooo lonely. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Vixenation](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/278dde/32.png) [@Vixenation](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Vixenation)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2003, 2:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/84 "2003-02-04T14:31:27Z")
0 (virgin) female 19 ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2003, 2:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/85 "2003-02-04T14:46:30Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Rubystreak \* > Wow. I feel like a total tramp now. I have to say, maybe it’s just a fast crowd I hang with, but I’m upwards of 10 partners and so are most of my friends, having been sexually active now for over a decade. > > Maybe it’s just b/c none of us are married, so you do start to **rack them up** over the years. Not sure. I do envy people who found one person and stuck with it. Out of my seemingly-many partners, if I could go back, I’d winnow out all but 6, and even THAT seems like a lot… > > Feeling abashed now… heh heh… rack them up… Well, with 65 responses with actual numbers so far, and 5 (heh) abstaining, the average is about 27, so you can feel a little less abashed… ---
**Author:** ![Who\_me\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/958977/32.png) [@Who\_me\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Who_me_1)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2003, 2:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/86 "2003-02-04T14:47:35Z")
56 Male 45 ---
**Author:** ![Aro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b3f665/32.png) [@Aro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aro)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2003, 4:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/87 "2003-02-04T16:56:06Z")
1: 25 to 30 depending on the boundaries of definitions. 2: Male 3: 27 ---
**Author:** ![Montgomery\_Burns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/db5fbb/32.png) [@Montgomery\_Burns](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Montgomery_Burns)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2003, 6:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/88 "2003-02-04T18:09:27Z")
1. 2 2. Male 3. 45 ---
**Author:** ![SteveSteve](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/67e7ee/32.png) [@SteveSteve](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SteveSteve)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2003, 6:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/89 "2003-02-04T18:50:51Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Legomancer \* > \*\*1) Four. David Caruso, Jimmy Smits, Rick Schroeder, and that guy from Saved by the Bell. > 2) Male > 3) I’m a cop. \*\* I like reading funny posts, makes me happy. 1)40ish 2)Male 3)31 (I hate being this old) ---
**Author:** ![Morgainelf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/71e660/32.png) [@Morgainelf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morgainelf)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2003, 8:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/90 "2003-02-04T20:02:37Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Maastricht \* > \*\* > It seems, that about 2/3 of the women that respond to this thread are rather experienced. \*\* I think the definition of “experienced” doesn’t hinge on number of sex partners. For the record: 1. 3 2. Female 3. 35 So, although I’ve only had 3 partners (one long term boyfriend, and two husbands;)), I don’t feel inexperienced in the least. Quality over quantity, baby! ---
**Author:** ![Hyperelastic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a3d4f5/32.png) [@Hyperelastic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hyperelastic)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2003, 8:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/91 "2003-02-04T20:49:37Z")
1. The Monroe Doctrine 2. Wax beans 3. Approximately 1.414 ---
**Author:** ![Debaser](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/3da27b/32.png) [@Debaser](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Debaser)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2003, 10:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/92 "2003-02-04T22:13:16Z")
1. 30ish. 2. Male. 3. 1. I second the notion of “experienced” vs “been around”. Someone who has lots of one night stands may know a lot less about sex than a person who has only been in a couple relationships that were long term. In fact, I would argue that this is likely. ---
**Author:** ![ratatoskK](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ratatoskk/32/2987_2.png) [@ratatoskK](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ratatoskK)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2003, 10:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/93 "2003-02-04T22:16:46Z")
1. around 10 2. female 3. 1. But the count of 10 was attained 20 years ago. :(( ---
**Author:** ![Waverly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/57b2e6/32.png) [@Waverly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Waverly)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2003, 10:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/94 "2003-02-04T22:20:03Z")
Don’t mind me, I’m just here collecting names… Alright, fine: 30ish, male, and 30ish ---
**Author:** ![mswas](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e99b99/32.png) [@mswas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mswas)\ **Post date:** [February 5, 2003, 2:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/95 "2003-02-05T02:01:42Z")
I definitely agree with the quality over quantity sentiment. Something that I found helped me out early on was online relationships. When I was a teenager I made some relationships with older women and just asked them incessant questions about pleasing a woman, and it definitely paid off. In fact one of those women became one of my partners after many years and I was able to put give her the benefit of her teachings. 😉 However I do think that an averaging can help. Because you can learn different things from different people, so having a few long term quality relationships will probably teach you a great deal that you might not have learned otherwise. In the end it’s all a trade off, because I am sure there is something extraordinarily special about being with just that one person period your entire life. However, that wouldn’t have worked for me I don’t think. Erek ---
**Author:** ![ladyfoxfyre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ad7895/32.png) [@ladyfoxfyre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ladyfoxfyre)\ **Post date:** [February 5, 2003, 2:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/96 "2003-02-05T02:13:06Z")
1. 2, one I was with for around 2 years, one I still never even dated. 2. Above legal consenting age. ---
**Author:** ![ladyfoxfyre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ad7895/32.png) [@ladyfoxfyre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ladyfoxfyre)\ **Post date:** [February 5, 2003, 2:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/97 "2003-02-05T02:15:06Z")
Now how did I manage that? This was the intended post: 1. 2, one I was with for around 2 years, one I still never even dated. 2. Female 3. Above legal consenting age. -foxy ---
**Author:** ![Quonk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/ed655f/32.png) [@Quonk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quonk)\ **Post date:** [February 5, 2003, 4:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/98 "2003-02-05T04:49:29Z")
1. 0 coitus, 1 oral 2. Male 3. 17 ---
**Author:** ![Mith](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e36b37/32.png) [@Mith](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mith)\ **Post date:** [February 5, 2003, 5:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/99 "2003-02-05T05:02:03Z")
40 ish female 25 ---
**Author:** ![maikai](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/53a042/32.png) [@maikai](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/maikai)\ **Post date:** [February 5, 2003, 6:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/100 "2003-02-05T06:25:44Z")
1. 0 2. hetero male 3. 23 in about a month If this isn’t too personal or too much of a hijack, could some of the younger people with the higher numbers describe (not in great detail) some of the situations where sex occurred. Specifically how it happened. I’d like to put myself into similar situations. Although I agree with the “quality over quantity” statement, I’d like some quantity. 🙂 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192.md?page=6)