# How many partners have you had? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 1, 2003, 11:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192 "2003-02-01T23:55:27Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 7
**Author:** ![SkeptiJess](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ea666f/32.png) [@SkeptiJess](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SkeptiJess)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2003, 12:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/121 "2003-02-06T12:52:45Z")
1. 30ish. Commencing, oddly enough, at age 20. 2. Female. 3. 1. BTW, I’m blaming it on the '80s, too. Jess (who had a pretty good time in the '80s, big hair notwithstanding.) ---
**Author:** ![Edward\_The\_Head](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ce73a5/32.png) [@Edward\_The\_Head](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Edward_The_Head)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2003, 1:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/122 "2003-02-06T13:01:18Z")
8, but if you want to use that stupid broad deffintion then I’ve played with 5 or so other women. No woman that I haven’t had sex with has done anything but kiss me. hetro male 29 ---
**Author:** ![Mith](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e36b37/32.png) [@Mith](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mith)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2003, 1:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/123 "2003-02-06T13:17:49Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by pulehoopo \* > \*\*If this isn’t too personal or too much of a hijack, could some of the younger people with the higher numbers describe (not in great detail) some of the situations where sex occurred. Specifically how it happened. I’d like to put myself into similar situations. \*\* If you are just wanting sex (not a relationship) my advice would be; be direct and honest. Nothing is wrong with politely asking for what you want. And yes, I know you’re male, and for good or bad, there is a finer line between being direct and being what some girls will think is rude. But as a woman, I would prefer THAT to insincere flattery/romance and games. ---
**Author:** ![Delirium](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/3e96dc/32.png) [@Delirium](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Delirium)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2003, 1:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/124 "2003-02-06T13:23:30Z")
1: 9 women, I’m more or less certain of that. Details are blurry but I did a visualisation experiment. 2: Male 3: 30 In my case, some years in the 90s went by really fast, but I was generally too drunk for much to happen. ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2003, 1:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/125 "2003-02-06T13:34:24Z")
1. 74 (if you count goats. 0 if you don’t) 2. Billy-goat 3. 2 1/2 (that’s 14.34629 recurring in goat years) ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2003, 1:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/126 "2003-02-06T13:52:22Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Debaser \* > \*\*pulehoopo, join a fraternity, and make them laugh. > > The girls, not the fraternity, of course. \*\* You know, I read that, and thought, “If you make the guys in your fraternity laugh, they’ll get you laid? Cool fraternity…” ---
**Author:** ![dorkusmalorkusmafia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dorkusmalorkusmafia/32/7266_2.png) [@dorkusmalorkusmafia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dorkusmalorkusmafia)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2003, 5:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192/127 "2003-02-06T17:26:23Z")
How do we know how many there are? Well, I don’t know exactly. I know basically all the people I have bottomed for or at least could recognize their face. I took it as an average of how many people I tended to sleep with in a month. Some days as many as around 10. On the days when I wasn’t slutting around I had a steady 1 that would be there for my usual fun. I averaged maybe 10 or so a month with it fluctuating between 0 and 20 (not counting repeats) but I am not exactly sure of that either. So that is roughly 120 a year for 8 years, a year and a half of monogomy and now I have slowed down to 4 repeated sex partners with an extra thrown in every few months for the last few years. So that would be roughly 960 over an 8 year time span, plus the 12 or so from before I turned 17 and became really sexually active, plus about 15 more from the last couple of years. Totalling 987. That number may be high or low. That includes anything from a handjob on up. If I just count oral sex on up the number would be about half. If I only count intercourse it would be maybe half that again. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-partners-have-you-had/152192.md?page=6)