# How many sex partners is too many? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 20, 2014, 6:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sex-partners-is-too-many/684172 "2014-03-20T18:17:49Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 7
**Author:** ![Foggy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/foggy/32/1082_2.png) [@Foggy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Foggy)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2014, 11:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sex-partners-is-too-many/684172/122 "2014-03-22T23:36:54Z")
For me 1 was too many. I wished I had stuck with my plan to be celibate. My ex estimates the number of his sex partners is in the 4 digits. (sex clubs, bath houses, backroom bars, public restrooms, bus stations, parks…):eek: ---
**Author:** ![Baker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bb73d2/32.png) [@Baker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baker)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2014, 11:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sex-partners-is-too-many/684172/123 "2014-03-22T23:39:16Z")
Is the poll asking how many partners are to many at one time or in succession? ---
**Author:** ![scootergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e99b99/32.png) [@scootergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scootergirl)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2014, 11:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sex-partners-is-too-many/684172/124 "2014-03-22T23:49:24Z")
Enough to know that what I may have considered good sex at one point, really wasn’t. It was just…OK. There were a few good ones, but it took this long to really feel sexually satisfied and content. I’m 50 years old. Life is good these days 😃 ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2014, 12:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sex-partners-is-too-many/684172/125 "2014-03-23T00:13:08Z")
> [@pulykamell](#): > > In an abstract sense, it doesn’t really matter to me, but I think somebody with a number higher than 20 or 30 probably wouldn’t be a great fit for me as a mate. I’m not even sure I’ve met more than 20 or 30 women I’d want to sleep with. But if they’re not in a romantic relationship with me, it makes no difference. I see 20 to 30 women I’d like to sleep with on the way to work every day. ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2014, 12:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sex-partners-is-too-many/684172/126 "2014-03-23T00:30:44Z")
> [@msmith537](#): > > I see 20 to 30 women I’d like to sleep with on the way to work every day. Well, I think that would be the more usual male condition. I mean, there’s a lot of people I’d say that about in a casual “yeah, I’d hit it” sort of manner, but only a very few I would actually act on. Maybe 20-30 is an understatement, but not by much. I’m just not a fan of hook-ups with relative strangers, and even with women I was not emotionally involved with, it’s just not been satisfying for me. I’m wired a bit differently when it comes to that, I guess. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2014, 1:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sex-partners-is-too-many/684172/127 "2014-03-23T01:23:11Z")
> [@Baker](#): > > Is the poll asking how many partners are to many at one time or in succession? There’s a brothel in Bangkok that is famous even by Bangkok standards, the French-owned and -operated Eden Club. The girls are bisexual, and you have to take at least two, only one is not allowed, but there is no upward limit. In an interview with the local New Zealand columnist Stickman (slightly NSFW: [http://www.stickmanweekly.com/Weekly2006/weekly281.htm](http://www.stickmanweekly.com/Weekly2006/weekly281.htm)), there is this exchange with the founder Marc: > [@](#): > > **What is the record number of girls a guy has taken upstairs, or out?** > > Inside the club, 20. An Irish guy! We still have the picture to be seen in the club. At this time we used the room with the 13 square metre bed! > > Outside the club, 11. We used to call this guy The Doctor. He was spending 50 to 100,000 baht at least a day throughout Bangkok making everybody believe that he was very rich. That day 3 Mercedes Benzes from a famous Bangkok hotel came to pick up the ladies in front of the club. It came out later that this guy was just spending his life savings. > > **That’s the guy who had 580 girls?** > > Yes, in 8 months! > > **That is incredible!** > > It’s true! You ask any of the ladies who are still in the club today if they remember the Doctor and believe me, they will remember him! > > This poor guy, drinking a lot, abusing 2 to 300mg of Viagra everyday, just finished in a Bangkok Hospital where some member of his family came to take him back to the States. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2014, 1:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sex-partners-is-too-many/684172/128 "2014-03-23T01:30:08Z")
> [@Foggy](#): > > My ex estimates the number of his sex partners is in the 4 digits. > (sex clubs, bath houses, backroom bars, public restrooms, bus stations, parks…):eek: Yes, the same number, in the same type of places. And at the time I was pretty much “on the outside looking in.” I do believe there were a lot of guys into 5 digits. If I went to a place maybe once a month, and saw the same guys there every time, I have to conclude they were there most of the time I wasn’t. 5 digits easily. ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2014, 2:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sex-partners-is-too-many/684172/129 "2014-03-23T02:23:49Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > Yes, the same number, in the same type of places. And at the time I was pretty much “on the outside looking in.” I do believe there were a lot of guys into 5 digits. If I went to a place maybe once a month, and saw the same guys there every time, I have to conclude they were there most of the time I wasn’t. 5 digits easily. Wow. I just wonder how people have energy for that. That’s just an incredible number. That’s one a day for about 28 years. (And I realize multiple are possible each day.) That’s just…wow. That’s _professional_. ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2014, 3:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sex-partners-is-too-many/684172/130 "2014-03-23T03:18:26Z")
Wait, we are including paying for it in the number? That kind of feels like cheating to me. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2014, 3:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sex-partners-is-too-many/684172/131 "2014-03-23T03:50:30Z")
> [@msmith537](#): > > Wait, we are including paying for it in the number? That kind of feels like cheating to me. Only if you’re married. ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2014, 12:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sex-partners-is-too-many/684172/132 "2014-03-23T12:37:51Z")
> [@pulykamell](#): > > Well, I think that would be the more usual male condition. I mean, there’s a lot of people I’d say that about in a casual “yeah, I’d hit it” sort of manner, but only a very few I would actually act on. Maybe 20-30 is an understatement, but not by much. I’m just not a fan of hook-ups with relative strangers, and even with women I was not emotionally involved with, it’s just not been satisfying for me. I’m wired a bit differently when it comes to that, I guess. I’m talking about a casual “yeah I’d hit that”. I don’t hit on all those women! ---
**Author:** ![TreacherousCretin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/treacherouscretin/32/476_2.png) [@TreacherousCretin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TreacherousCretin)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2014, 5:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sex-partners-is-too-many/684172/133 "2014-03-23T17:58:44Z")
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