# How many sex partners per year have you had... **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 21, 2009, 8:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sex-partners-per-year-have-you-had/518441 "2009-11-21T20:02:37Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2009, 5:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sex-partners-per-year-have-you-had/518441/21 "2009-11-22T05:36:52Z")
> [@black\_rabbit](#): > > I’m not looking for an argument over whether a drunken BJ in a bathroom counts as a partner or not. Personally, I’m just counting intercourse. You may not be looking for an argument, but you’re getting one. What disqualifies the drunken BJ . . . because it’s a BJ or because you were drunk? And if you’re “just counting intercourse,” then I must still be a virgin, in spite of thousands of sexual encounters. And how do I count all those thousands, followed by 22 years of monogamy? ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2009, 6:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sex-partners-per-year-have-you-had/518441/22 "2009-11-22T06:14:05Z")
Nothing disqualifies the drunken BJ. If you read the OP again you’ll see you get to count whichever sex act(s) you like. ---
**Author:** ![Sleel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/73ab20/32.png) [@Sleel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sleel)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2009, 6:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sex-partners-per-year-have-you-had/518441/23 "2009-11-22T06:44:42Z")
Obviously monogamy brings the average down over time. In my teens and twenties it would have been 6+, but now that I’ve been in a committed relationship for years, and married for the last few, the average has gone down since I haven’t been increasing my “score” for that time. ---
**Author:** ![black\_rabbit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/f19dbf/32.png) [@black\_rabbit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/black_rabbit)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2009, 7:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sex-partners-per-year-have-you-had/518441/24 "2009-11-22T07:07:53Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > You may not be looking for an argument, but you’re getting one. What disqualifies the drunken BJ . . . because it’s a BJ or because you were drunk? And if you’re “just counting intercourse,” then I must still be a virgin, in spite of thousands of sexual encounters. > > And how do I count all those thousands, followed by 22 years of monogamy? Sorry for any confusion; I was specifically trying to avoid just that issue. For me, nothing counts for my personal grand total but the lingam and the yoni. Other people, queer and non-queer, may have different interpretations. If you feel that a drunken beej counts as a sex partner, then count it that way. If you don’t, then don’t. For some reason, I don’t see monogamy the same way, even though _discounting_ for it (as RNATB suggests) would have the net effect of doubling my personal average (assuming that’s a good thing.) I don’t really see a way to construct a perfectly rigorous poll other than to have separate polls for straight, gay, and bi males and females, respectively. Since I’m doing this more out of idle curiosity more than anything else, I can’t really be arsed to do it. Feel free, though. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2009, 7:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sex-partners-per-year-have-you-had/518441/25 "2009-11-22T07:12:23Z")
Well then, that brings my average \*\*\*WAY \*\*\*up! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![EvilTOJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee59a6/32.png) [@EvilTOJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EvilTOJ)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2009, 7:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sex-partners-per-year-have-you-had/518441/26 "2009-11-22T07:19:47Z")
I’ll just pick the highest number. I’m not even going to bother doing the math since I’m a huge ho-bag, apparently. ---
**Author:** ![Sanity\_Challenged](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9de053/32.png) [@Sanity\_Challenged](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sanity_Challenged)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2009, 7:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sex-partners-per-year-have-you-had/518441/27 "2009-11-22T07:40:38Z")
What are the minimum number of replacement parts allowed on a Real Doll before she becomes a new partner? ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2009, 1:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sex-partners-per-year-have-you-had/518441/28 "2009-11-22T13:43:08Z")
> [@EvilTOJ](#): > > I’ll just pick the highest number. I’m not even going to bother doing the math since I’m a huge ho-bag, apparently. Me too. I can’t come up with a number without using differential calculus. ---
**Author:** ![Serenata67](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/serenata67/32/10646_2.png) [@Serenata67](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Serenata67)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2009, 3:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sex-partners-per-year-have-you-had/518441/29 "2009-11-22T15:59:09Z")
I had some really slutty years. But I also had a few years where I was in exclusive relationships. It averages out… kinda. I mean, ask me again once I’ve been married for a few years. That average will surely come down. ---
**Author:** ![Hari\_Seldon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hari_seldon/32/5173_2.png) [@Hari\_Seldon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hari_Seldon)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 12:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sex-partners-per-year-have-you-had/518441/30 "2009-11-23T00:55:38Z")
Following instructions, I get 45/45, but eactly 1 wasn’t an option. My wife would be the same. (How do I know? I know.) ---
**Author:** ![mswas](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e99b99/32.png) [@mswas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mswas)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 12:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sex-partners-per-year-have-you-had/518441/31 "2009-11-23T00:59:15Z")
Well I’ve been monogamous for several years now, so that skews my average. Probably 4 or 5 per year prior to that. ---
**Author:** ![Ulf\_the\_Unwashed](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Ulf\_the\_Unwashed](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ulf_the_Unwashed)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 1:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sex-partners-per-year-have-you-had/518441/32 "2009-11-23T01:26:20Z")
One partner. Thirty years (almost). ---
**Author:** ![GuanoLad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guanolad/32/42_2.png) [@GuanoLad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GuanoLad)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 1:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sex-partners-per-year-have-you-had/518441/33 "2009-11-23T01:28:55Z")
I don’t think these stats are going to tell you anything. I am not even going to vote, because my numbers don’t fit onto your scale. ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 2:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sex-partners-per-year-have-you-had/518441/34 "2009-11-23T02:44:34Z")
.4285, roughly. Streaks of player-dom, followed by years of monogamy or celibacy. Of course, one can be [many](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=erRCS8BBRfo). ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 2:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sex-partners-per-year-have-you-had/518441/35 "2009-11-23T02:56:59Z")
Shoot, I passed 6 before I ever even got to Thailand. Settled down now, but I was a randy single lad back in my early days here. ---
**Author:** ![LouisB](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@LouisB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LouisB)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 3:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sex-partners-per-year-have-you-had/518441/36 "2009-11-23T03:05:23Z")
Meaningless poll; I wish I hadn’t voted but I did. So, 1.25 / 55 ---
**Author:** ![Chessic\_Sense](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7c8e57/32.png) [@Chessic\_Sense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chessic_Sense)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 3:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sex-partners-per-year-have-you-had/518441/37 "2009-11-23T03:32:20Z")
14ish/7ish. Unfortunately, 2 is an option in two of the choices. Should I pick M1-2 or M2-3? ---
**Author:** ![dhkendall](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a9adbd/32.png) [@dhkendall](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dhkendall)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 2:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sex-partners-per-year-have-you-had/518441/38 "2009-11-23T14:24:32Z")
If I had a quarter for every girl that I made love to … I’d have ten cents. ---
**Author:** ![badbadrubberpiggy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/57b2e6/32.png) [@badbadrubberpiggy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/badbadrubberpiggy)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 3:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sex-partners-per-year-have-you-had/518441/39 "2009-11-23T15:03:45Z")
> [@Serenata67](#): > > I had some really slutty years. But I also had a few years where I was in exclusive relationships. It averages out… kinda. I mean, ask me again once I’ve been married for a few years. That average will surely come down. Same for me - I mean, I’ve had about 15 in 10 years, but the last 5 of those years, I’ve been with my husband and nobody else. So when I’m single, I can rack 'em up if I want, but if I’m in a relationship, then that’s the only person I’m with. ---
**Author:** ![CalMeacham](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/calmeacham/32/35_2.png) [@CalMeacham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CalMeacham)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 3:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sex-partners-per-year-have-you-had/518441/40 "2009-11-23T15:03:55Z")
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