# How many sexual partners have you had? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 26, 2006, 5:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sexual-partners-have-you-had/370340 "2006-08-26T17:32:07Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![FormerMarineGuy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/65b543/32.png) [@FormerMarineGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FormerMarineGuy)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2006, 5:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sexual-partners-have-you-had/370340/1 "2006-08-26T17:32:07Z")
Some guys (and a gal) were at work the other day talking about our sexual past. It started with being in the Marines, so they assumed that we just have sex with everyone. Anyway, we got talking about numbers, and we were all pretty far apart. First of all, I believe I was the only one being honest. Second, I think the guys were embellishing their numbers a little. Third, I think the girl was being a LITTLE conservative. So, for the hell of it. 1. How many sexual partners have you had in your life? 2. How old are you? 3. Are you male or female? 4. Are you gay or straight? For the bonus question, which really has nothing to do with my super-scientific study, what was your best and worst? I will go first: 1. Around 125 partners. 2. 30 years old. 3. Male 4. Straight Bonus: The worst was this one girl in Australlia, who had no idea what the hell she was doing, even though I believe she was on the experienced side. She just laid there, moaning and moaning (I believe she even came) with her legs straight on the bed while her friend videotaped us. The best is my current wife, who is a fucking freak. I love it. ---
**Author:** ![devilsknew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/4da419/32.png) [@devilsknew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/devilsknew)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2006, 5:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sexual-partners-have-you-had/370340/2 "2006-08-26T17:57:36Z")
1. 6 woman that I have actually had sex with. But I have had various sexual experiences with 4 more that didn’t involve actual intercourse (does that count?). So, that would be 6 or 10 sexual partners depending on your criteria. 2. 36 years old. 3. Male 4. Straight When you got my numbers, it was all great and memorable sex. Any sex is good sex. ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2006, 6:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sexual-partners-have-you-had/370340/3 "2006-08-26T18:02:58Z")
I hate to sound like a certain ex-President, but…define “sex.” It really makes a difference with the numbers for some of us. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Dunderman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@Dunderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunderman)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2006, 6:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sexual-partners-have-you-had/370340/4 "2006-08-26T18:04:18Z")
1. 1. Exactly. 2. 1. 3. Male. 4. Open to suggestions of any kind or sort. ---
**Author:** ![Dunderman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@Dunderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunderman)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2006, 6:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sexual-partners-have-you-had/370340/5 "2006-08-26T18:05:29Z")
Oh, best or worst. Well, the best was one of them, and the worst was the other one. ---
**Author:** ![FormerMarineGuy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/65b543/32.png) [@FormerMarineGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FormerMarineGuy)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2006, 6:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sexual-partners-have-you-had/370340/6 "2006-08-26T18:05:36Z")
> [@silenus](#): > > I hate to sound like a certain ex-President, but…define “sex.” It really makes a difference with the numbers for some of us. 😃 Well, as you want, I guess. But to make it easier, count oral, anal, hand, intercourse. And up my partner list by about 25. ---
**Author:** ![FormerMarineGuy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/65b543/32.png) [@FormerMarineGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FormerMarineGuy)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2006, 6:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sexual-partners-have-you-had/370340/7 "2006-08-26T18:07:07Z")
> [@Priceguy](#): > > 1. Open to suggestions of any kind or sort. Well, if 2 is your number I guess one of them would be your worst, and one would be your best. Unless they were both at the same time. If so, good for you. ---
**Author:** ![Ludy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/d6d6ee/32.png) [@Ludy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ludy)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2006, 6:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sexual-partners-have-you-had/370340/8 "2006-08-26T18:10:13Z")
1. 5 2. 25 3. Female 4. Straight I was 17 when I first started on my sexual adventures, and I was in long term relationships for four of them. Well, long term meaning 5 months at the shortest, 3 years and counting for the longest. ---
**Author:** ![cruel\_butterfly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/5daacb/32.png) [@cruel\_butterfly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cruel_butterfly)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2006, 6:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sexual-partners-have-you-had/370340/9 "2006-08-26T18:22:51Z")
1.) 30 or so…? (I was kinda wild and indiscriminate for a few years. It’s my best guess.) 2.) I’m 31 3.) Female 4.) Straight (95% of the time). 😉 ---
**Author:** ![RealityChuck](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/realitychuck/32/195_2.png) [@RealityChuck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RealityChuck)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2006, 6:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sexual-partners-have-you-had/370340/10 "2006-08-26T18:25:20Z")
1. How many sexual partners have you had in your life? – 5 2. How old are you? – 54 3. Are you male or female? – M 4. Are you gay or straight? – straight Couldn’t name a best or worst – all were excellent. ---
**Author:** ![FilmGeek](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/b19c9b/32.png) [@FilmGeek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FilmGeek)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2006, 6:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sexual-partners-have-you-had/370340/11 "2006-08-26T18:26:05Z")
1. Intercourse: 2. ‘Other’: maybe 20? 2. 27 3. Female 4. Mostly straight. Best? My husband (and I’m not just saying that). Worst? A guy in my dorm. ---
**Author:** ![Kalypso](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/df705f/32.png) [@Kalypso](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalypso)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2006, 6:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sexual-partners-have-you-had/370340/12 "2006-08-26T18:36:28Z")
1. Nine 2. 32 3. Female 4. I’m…hetero-bent. My worst: A voyeur who lasted about 5 seconds when we actually got down to it, embarrassedly excused himself and never saw me again. My best: My current mate. He’s very well endowed, an artist, a long distance runner, and just as intellectually geeky as me. You can imagine how amazing the sex is. ---
**Author:** ![Licentious\_Ectomorph](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/5e9695/32.png) [@Licentious\_Ectomorph](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Licentious_Ectomorph)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2006, 6:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sexual-partners-have-you-had/370340/13 "2006-08-26T18:37:26Z")
1. Hundreds; Stopped counting a _long_ time ago. 2. 35 3. Male 4. Gay Hard to pick a best and worst; nothing stands out at the moment. ---
**Author:** ![pendgwen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/3da27b/32.png) [@pendgwen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pendgwen)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2006, 6:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sexual-partners-have-you-had/370340/14 "2006-08-26T18:37:30Z")
> [@FormerMarineGuy](#): > > 1. How many sexual partners have you had in your life? > 2. How old are you? > 3. Are you male or female? > 4. Are you gay or straight? 1. 1 2. 28 3. female 4. straight Best and worst don’t really apply in my situation. ---
**Author:** ![FormerMarineGuy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/65b543/32.png) [@FormerMarineGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FormerMarineGuy)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2006, 6:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sexual-partners-have-you-had/370340/15 "2006-08-26T18:45:00Z")
> [@Licentious Ectomorph](#): > > 1. Hundreds; Stopped counting a _long_ time ago. > 2. Gay > > Hard to pick a best and worst; nothing stands out at the moment. Hundreds and stopped counting? NOT to hijack my own thread, only asking for a response from you (to keep this thread on subject), but do you find gays more promiscuous than straights? Or is that a stereotype? ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2006, 7:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sexual-partners-have-you-had/370340/16 "2006-08-26T19:03:36Z")
> [@FormerMarineGuy](#): > > 1. How many sexual partners have you had in your life? Upwards of a hundred women; one man, but that was when I was a child and rape. > [@](#): > > 1. How old are you? 1. > [@](#): > > 1. Are you male or female? Male > [@](#): > > 1. Are you gay or straight? Mostly straight. I think David Boreanez & Mandy Patinkin are cute, though, so who knows? > [@](#): > > For the bonus question, which really has nothing to do with my super-scientific study, what was your best and worst? The best was a woman I spent an afternoon with about four years ago; it was just lovely, passionate, energetic, and a lot of other good adjectives. The worst was the rape. ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2006, 7:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sexual-partners-have-you-had/370340/17 "2006-08-26T19:03:39Z")
1. 17 maybe. I lose count when we get to the “other than intercourse” numbers. 2. 51 3. Male 4. Straight (except for Alton Brown and Robert Redford, but they never call) The best: my wife by far. The worst: it involved tequila and a virgin co-ed, but even that was pretty good. ---
**Author:** ![Licentious\_Ectomorph](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/5e9695/32.png) [@Licentious\_Ectomorph](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Licentious_Ectomorph)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2006, 7:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sexual-partners-have-you-had/370340/18 "2006-08-26T19:09:45Z")
> [@FormerMarineGuy](#): > > Hundreds and stopped counting? NOT to hijack my own thread, only asking for a response from you (to keep this thread on subject), but do you find gays more promiscuous than straights? Or is that a stereotype? Hmm. I have a feeling this is going to turn ugly no matter how diplomatic I try to be. But… I daresay, when taken as a unit, gays are more promiscuous than straights. This is not to say all of them are, or even most. The number is skewed because there is a sizeable contingent of gays who frequently cruise for sex in clubs, online, etc. Bear in mind there is also a (possibly larger, I wouldn’t know) contingent of gays who are partnered and monogamous, who don’t go to clubs, and whose lives don’t resemble “Queer as Folk.” Obviously they’re not as visible. If I had to hypothesize as to why gays as a group tend to be more promiscuous, I’d say it’s because (warning: another possibly un-PC generalization ahead) guys are horndogs. Straight guys get the short end of the stick because women either aren’t as libidinous or are just socially conditioned not to act on every impulse. OTOH, when men are attracted to other men, and everyone is equally willing to “put out,” they’re going to go for it. In other words, I wouldn’t be at all surprised if straight men would be more promiscuous if straight women were as well. ---
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2006, 7:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sexual-partners-have-you-had/370340/19 "2006-08-26T19:20:56Z")
1. **How many sexual partners have you had in your life?** For intercourse, there have been three. For everything else; well, I’m a recovered Fundamentalist and unfortunately, I haven’t really kept count. 2. **How old are you?** 38 3. **Are you male or female?** Female 4. **Are you gay or straight?** Straight, but if Kate Winslet… **For the bonus question, which really has nothing to do with my super-scientific study, what was your best and worst?** Uh, just going on the first have of my answer from question one, I’d have to say my most recent (like 2 years ago) ex was the best, due to an enormous amount of stamina. Sadly, the worst was my eventual-to-be-ex husband. ☹ Great, great, great at oral, not so at much else. ---
**Author:** ![Captain\_Carrot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f0a364/32.png) [@Captain\_Carrot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Captain_Carrot)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2006, 7:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-sexual-partners-have-you-had/370340/20 "2006-08-26T19:25:29Z")
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