# How many times would you say you've really been in love?

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**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [July 28, 2005, 2:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-times-would-you-say-youve-really-been-in-love/314512 "2005-07-28T02:48:40Z")\
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**Author:** ![StGermain](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stgermain/32/2868_2.png) [@StGermain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StGermain)\
**Post date:** [July 29, 2005, 4:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-times-would-you-say-youve-really-been-in-love/314512/41 "2005-07-29T16:13:29Z")

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Never. Which is sort of surprising to me. I’m capable of love, of caring, of commitment. But I’ve never been lucky enough to be in love. I’m 43, and although I guess I don’t mind being alone, I wish it were different.

StG

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**Author:** ![Ponder\_Stibbons](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ponder_stibbons/32/343_2.png) [@Ponder\_Stibbons](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ponder_Stibbons)\
**Post date:** [July 29, 2005, 4:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-times-would-you-say-youve-really-been-in-love/314512/42 "2005-07-29T16:18:18Z")

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Never, really. I thought I was once, but it turned out I was wrong. But hey, that’s OK, I make up for it by being bitter.

Ha ha! No, not really. I make up for it via a strong diet of heavy denial.

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**Author:** ![Draelin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ce73a5/32.png) [@Draelin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Draelin)\
**Post date:** [July 29, 2005, 4:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-times-would-you-say-youve-really-been-in-love/314512/43 "2005-07-29T16:56:07Z")

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> [@Ponder Stibbons](#):
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> Never, really. I thought I was once, but it turned out I was wrong. But hey, that’s OK, I make up for it by being bitter.

When I read the question, my immediate answer was “twice.” Then I thought about it. Number one was infatuation–I was nineteen and didn’t know what love _was_. Number two … the more I think about it, the more I think I only loved the _idea_ of him. I spent more time thinking about the things I’d like to change than I did thinking about the things I wanted to stay the same. That’s not love, I don’t think.

So … never. Damn.

I also make up for it by being bitter–I’m good at it. 😉

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**Author:** ![MrsMonkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8e8cbc/32.png) [@MrsMonkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MrsMonkey)\
**Post date:** [July 29, 2005, 5:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-many-times-would-you-say-youve-really-been-in-love/314512/44 "2005-07-29T17:43:57Z")

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Once. He’s it, my best friend, everything.

Thought I was once before, involved for seven years, wow do I see things differently now.

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