Bump - I cannot disagree with anything you said there.
I’ll offer two anecdotes in response… Regarding your wife working as an associate with a law firm. I dated a woman through law school in NYC and as she entertained offers from large firms we had that basic math conversation about the salary versus the number of hours she’ll actually be working and how that translates to an hourly wage. Her trump card was by putting in the hours as a junior then senior associate she will be on track to make partner and then the REAL big money comes. Enough so that the 80 hour work weeks would still result in an insane “hourly rate” if you did the math. To me, anyone choosing that career is simply insane (no offense to Mrs. Bump) but for the few that make partner the financial rewards are the prize for that level of sacrifice. It is a tradeoff, not guaranteed naturally, but there is incentive.
Secondly, before I got my degree I was an hourly employee for a national business that had a call center operation in town. I was offered a promotion to assistant manager of a call center customer service department. It was a promotion, salaried, and I took the job. The salary, with extra hours, in the end wasn’t much more than I was making previously BUT again there was the additional skill sets and responsibilities I was developing in the new role. It could have served as a springboard to more opportunity in that field, so the overall lower rate of pay was a sacrifice I was willing to make at that time with a longer view in mind. In the end, I decided to return to college and take a different path but I can somewhat understand those who do take salaried positions that in the big picture are for less money once O.T. pay is removed. There can be trade-offs.