# How much of a "looker" were/are you? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 2, 2025, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-of-a-looker-were-are-you/1012494 "2025-01-02T18:40:51Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2025, 9:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-of-a-looker-were-are-you/1012494/101 "2025-01-05T21:32:04Z")
> [@DocCathode](#): > > > [@I\_Love\_Me\_Vol.I](#): > > > > I was thinking of posting that pic but I see no one else is putting up so… meh. > > Due to the aforementioned chronically low self esteem, I rarely let anybody take photographs of me. Doing some quick searching, I found a photograph of me from Halloween 2023. Please Note- I had just moved. All my costume supplies had either been thrown out or were boxed up. The move was expensive and I had very little money to use on a new costume. I didn’t have much time either. > > [Imgur: The magic of the Internet](https://i.imgur.com/win87z2.jpeg) Good work on the helmet. ---
**Author:** ![DocCathode](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doccathode/32/18773_2.png) [@DocCathode](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DocCathode)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2025, 9:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-of-a-looker-were-are-you/1012494/102 "2025-01-05T21:35:39Z")
Yeah, the only reason I am in that photo at all is that when I said “Roman from Robot Monster!! Can I take your picture?” He said “Why don’t you stand next to me and make it a photo of the two of us?” My Tomorrow Knight costume was pretty good in its first iteration, to nearly winning the Most Spectacularly Amazing category. Sadly, I don’t have any photos of it. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2025, 9:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-of-a-looker-were-are-you/1012494/103 "2025-01-05T21:52:42Z")
That’s a problem. I have a rather limited pool. 🙂 I’m glad to hear some men like her. ---
**Author:** ![beowulff](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beowulff/32/542_2.png) [@beowulff](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/beowulff)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2025, 10:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-of-a-looker-were-are-you/1012494/104 "2025-01-05T22:00:06Z")
ISWYDT (And, yes discourse, that was a complete sentence!) ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2025, 12:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-of-a-looker-were-are-you/1012494/105 "2025-01-06T00:00:57Z")
Those men sound to be of the “her knees are crooked” type. I just cannot understand a universe where she is not considered a stunner. ---
**Author:** ![scabpicker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scabpicker/32/8268_2.png) [@scabpicker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scabpicker)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2025, 12:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-of-a-looker-were-are-you/1012494/106 "2025-01-06T00:14:18Z")
> [@I\_Love\_Me\_Vol.I](#): > > I was thinking of posting that pic but I see no one else is putting up so… meh. Heheh, here’s the most flattering pic of me from my youth I can easily find that doesn’t have me nude. I’m on the right. [![](https://tunes.drawerdevils.com/tunes/dda3.jpg) ](https://tunes.drawerdevils.com/tunes/dda3.jpg) Here’s one of me from just a few years ago. Again, I’m over on the right. [![](https://tunes.drawerdevils.com/tunes/d-magazine-nightlife-record-store-day-at-good-records-2017-042217-bret-redman-022-1200x801_1_orig.jpg) ](https://tunes.drawerdevils.com/tunes/d-magazine-nightlife-record-store-day-at-good-records-2017-042217-bret-redman-022-1200x801_1_orig.jpg) ---
**Author:** ![P-man](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/p-man/32/3606_2.png) [@P-man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/P-man)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2025, 2:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-of-a-looker-were-are-you/1012494/107 "2025-01-06T02:31:30Z")
[https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=299660618830&set=t.779084018&type=3](https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=299660618830&set=t.779084018&type=3) Not sure if this will work or not; it’s one of my favorite photos of me and Ms. P together. ---
**Author:** ![DSeid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dseid/32/20194_2.png) [@DSeid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DSeid)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2025, 3:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-of-a-looker-were-are-you/1012494/108 "2025-01-06T03:08:47Z")
I’ll play. [[Album] imgur.com ![](https://i.imgur.com/bNWfpWH.jpeg?fb "imgur.com") ](https://imgur.com/a/mn6YA6r) I cropped out my wife as I know she would not consent but at our 40th wedding anniversary dinner celebrated about three months ago. [[Album] imgur.com ![](https://i.imgur.com/Ju4uGb1.jpeg?fb "imgur.com") ](https://imgur.com/a/DaDenaM) Now with fuller beard. A bit more Santa like now! (On preview in screen is distorted but clicking link shows normal. Not understanding why.) ---
**Author:** ![wolfpup](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wolfpup/32/10618_2.png) [@wolfpup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wolfpup)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2025, 3:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-of-a-looker-were-are-you/1012494/109 "2025-01-06T03:11:37Z")
> [@iamatractorboy](#): > > I agree. Those men must have very high standards! > [@pulykamell](#): > > Indeed. Those men are completely insane if they hate Kelly Reilly’s looks. She is an easy 10/10. Reilly doesn’t do anything for me. Not a bit. There’s nothing wrong with “high standards” if those standards mean that your concept of attractiveness is very selective, but not necessarily conventional. My concept of attractiveness in women is a combination of personality and something about their appearance that is often undefinable. Yes, I have high standards, but I will also say that, for instance, every single Playboy model I’ve ever seen doesn’t do anything for me, either, and nor do most conventionally “gorgeous” Hollywood stars. I want a partner that’s physically attractive (to me), but not in that superficial way. If they happen to be considered attractive by conventional standards, that’s fine, but it’s not the primary concern. ETA: I’ve always disliked the word “looker”. According to the conventions of English morphology, a looker is “one who looks” – i.e.- an observer or spectator. ---
**Author:** ![solost](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/solost/32/11776_2.png) [@solost](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/solost)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2025, 5:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-of-a-looker-were-are-you/1012494/110 "2025-01-06T17:56:23Z")
In my early-mid 20s I was constantly compared to Pierce Brosnan, except nobody remembered the actor’s name-- they all said “you look just like Remington Steele”; and later “you look like James Bond”. Other than having dark hair and blue eyes I didn’t think I looked much like him, and not as handsome. But I didn’t mind the comparison at all 😏 Now at 60, I still have all my hair, and it still has a lot of dark in it, though it’s gray at the sides and my beard is almost fully gray. I’ve put on weight and my face has filled out some, so these days I probably look more like the portrait of Hemingway in his older years, the one in the fisherman sweater, than present-day Brosnan. ---
**Author:** ![Al128](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/al128/32/16541_2.png) [@Al128](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Al128)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2025, 7:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-of-a-looker-were-are-you/1012494/111 "2025-01-06T19:14:26Z")
not too shabby, either … [![](https://savagegentleman.com/cdn/shop/products/HemingwaySweaterPortrait_700x.jpg?v=1603320469) ](https://savagegentleman.com/cdn/shop/products/HemingwaySweaterPortrait_700x.jpg?v=1603320469) ---
**Author:** ![Nars\_Glinley](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/nars_glinley/32/8177_2.png) [@Nars\_Glinley](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nars_Glinley)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2025, 7:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-of-a-looker-were-are-you/1012494/112 "2025-01-06T19:17:18Z")
I’ve honestly never considered myself attractive but my son, who I’m told looks just like me, is frequently told by strangers how handsome he is. So obviously I have no idea. ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2025, 8:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-of-a-looker-were-are-you/1012494/113 "2025-01-06T20:29:43Z")
> [@Strenger](#): > > Is this for real? > > I don’t spend hours making detailed sketches of myself nude, but, yeah, I’m a good looking dude. Tall, got a lot of hair, not much grey, brush my teeth, and shave and shower when I feel like it. And dress appropriately. Talk good when called for. Can do some things. When I feel like it. Good manners. When I want to. All that. > > But, honestly, what guy with any self respect is going to say anything except ten out of ten? Out of ten! Out of a thousand! Arm-wrestle! Fine, two out of three! You know what I mean. Well, I think most men can objectively evaluate whether or not they are Brad Pitt or Chris Harmsworth. Then again, in my 20s I was closer in stature and appearance to Paul Rudd and that dude was voted “sexiest man alive” at one point, so who knows. I’m good looking enough that women aren’t repulsed when I talk to them, but I still need to be funny and charming. ---
**Author:** ![Strenger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecae2f/32.png) [@Strenger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Strenger)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2025, 8:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-of-a-looker-were-are-you/1012494/114 "2025-01-06T20:47:26Z")
> [@msmith537](#): > > Then again, in my 20s I was closer in stature and appearance to Paul Rudd and that dude was voted “sexiest man alive” at one point, so who knows. I’m going for the mugshot Nick Nolte…that’s my goal for when I truly become ancient. Hey, he was People Magazine’s sexiest man alive…in like 1994 or something! Now…he has…character…I suppose! ---
**Author:** ![We\_re\_wolves\_not\_werewolves](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/838e76/32.png) [@We\_re\_wolves\_not\_werewolves](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/We_re_wolves_not_werewolves)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2025, 9:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-of-a-looker-were-are-you/1012494/115 "2025-01-06T21:42:52Z")
> [@msmith537](#): > > I’m good looking enough that women aren’t repulsed when I talk to them, but I still need to be funny and charming. yeah, I mean, I have on very rare occasions had previously unknown women offer to buy me a drink at a bar, but I’ve never succeeded (or even attempted) a “you’re with me leather” maneuver ([You're with me, leather - Wikipedia](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/You%27re_with_me,_leather)) So, maybe a 7? ---
**Author:** ![needscoffee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/needscoffee/32/1076_2.png) [@needscoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/needscoffee)\ **Post date:** [January 7, 2025, 5:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-of-a-looker-were-are-you/1012494/116 "2025-01-07T05:11:56Z")
> [@DSeid](#): > > (On preview in screen is distorted but clicking link shows normal. Not understanding why.) You posted the link to the Imgur album, not the photo itself. Imgur makes it confusing. You have to click on your picture in Imgur so that it opens again, and when you copy _that_ link you’ll see that it ends in “.jpg”. That’s how you know you grabbed the right link. ---
**Author:** ![DSeid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dseid/32/20194_2.png) [@DSeid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DSeid)\ **Post date:** [January 7, 2025, 12:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-of-a-looker-were-are-you/1012494/117 "2025-01-07T12:09:54Z")
[![](https://i.imgur.com/kbdJCPJ.jpeg) ](https://i.imgur.com/kbdJCPJ.jpeg) [![](https://i.imgur.com/eKvQ1qV.jpeg) ](https://i.imgur.com/eKvQ1qV.jpeg) Thanks. ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [January 7, 2025, 1:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-of-a-looker-were-are-you/1012494/118 "2025-01-07T13:43:09Z")
Much nicer than your avatar. ---
**Author:** ![LurkMeister](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/3da27b/32.png) [@LurkMeister](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LurkMeister)\ **Post date:** [January 7, 2025, 4:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-of-a-looker-were-are-you/1012494/119 "2025-01-07T16:16:16Z")
I’ve never thought of myself as particularly good looking. I never seemed to attract female attention. But then, I was always fairly oblivious to attempts to flirt with me. Once after a party I was told by a friend that one of the women there had spent most of her time trying to get my attention, and I had no recollection of it. Definitely one of those “need to be hit over the head with a clue-by-four” types. Also in the “he makes me laugh” category. I once was told that I have “kind eyes”, which I took to mean that I looked compassionate. This sort of fits in with that fact that I seemed to be a magnet for people who needed someone to talk to about their problems. There was a woman who always used to come to me when she was having problems with her boyfriend. When they finally broke up I thought about asking her out, but waited too long. _Sigh_ Missed opportunities. ---
**Author:** ![Strenger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecae2f/32.png) [@Strenger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Strenger)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2025, 12:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-of-a-looker-were-are-you/1012494/120 "2025-01-08T00:06:02Z")
Yeah. Actually, that’s a good looking dude. Great pair of eyeglasses, good grooming (at least about the head portion!), seems fit and has a kind of shrewd, canny intelligence about the eyes and facial composure. No, I won’t be doing a self-portrait here using a camera, but well done! > [@LurkMeister](#): > > I once was told that I have “kind eyes”, which I took to mean that I looked compassionate. That’s an interesting remark. I’ve often been told the color of my eyes are fascinating…always by some random woman I just started talking with…but I never got the “you have a kind face!” thing… That I would kind of welcome, being someone who lacks empathy in general but is generally decent when called upon or when needed and is often trying to do better instead of being a hateful curmudgeon most of the time. IME when a woman takes the time to look into your eyes and thinks to make a comment…that’s showtime, pretty much! If that’s what one is after, of course. At the least, that’s the start of a nice conversation. Therefore, I conclude that many women have indeed considered you deeply and would have been welcome to perhaps a reciprocating comment. No, I’m not going into “dating advice” or whatever…my last girlfriend was about two years ago, and if I’m an expert in anything, it’s how to ruin my own relationships. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-of-a-looker-were-are-you/1012494.md?page=5) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-of-a-looker-were-are-you/1012494.md?page=7)