# How much tongue is too much? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 19, 2001, 2:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-tongue-is-too-much/94202 "2001-11-19T14:49:07Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![bobkitty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/c67d28/32.png) [@bobkitty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bobkitty)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2001, 2:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-tongue-is-too-much/94202/1 "2001-11-19T14:49:07Z")
(an homage to **Rue de Day** with a semi-serious question buried within) Now, I’m not talking about tongue that used to be part of an animal but is now residing in Your Local Grocer’s meat display. In that case I wouldn’t even need to ask how much is too much… the obvious answer is ANY. I have always eschewed former-animal-tongue, partly because I can’t stand the thought of something being viserally able to taste _me_ as I’m tasting _it_, and partly because I wouldn’t have a clue as to what to do with it. Do you chop it into pieces? Fry it? Boil it? Cover it in shake-n-bake? I’m shuddering just thinking about it. No, this is about people tongue. Specifically, people tongue being used on you in an arousing manner. The tongue is still attached to its original owner, BTW. If it wasn’t it’d be even more creepy than wandering down the meat case, looking for a good slab of roast for dinner, and be suddenly faced with a pale, bloated, former-animal tongue. I’m beta-reading some writings of a friend of mine. It’s a really good story… got action, adventure, intrigue, romance. And of course the suggestions of the best beta around (the reader, not the fish, 'cause fish can’t read). But some of the romance parts… disturb me. And as I was lying in bed last night, it suddenly dawned on me why. Too much tongue. Once I had this minor epiphany (it wasn’t really a major epiphany, since I didn’t sit up in bed and yell ‘Ah-HA!’, which is good, because Mr. Bobkitty HATES it when I do that), I realized just how prevalent the over-use of the tongue is. And I started thinking (well, I’d been thinking before then, but now I just let the old mind out to wander)… am I the only one who thinks that the tongue, in certain situations, is over-used? WAIT. I _know_ the tongue is a Good Thing[sup]tm[/sup], so don’t just react and yell ‘OF COURSE THE TONGUE IS GOOD!! THE TONGUE IS SACRED!!’ I’m talking about _select_ situations. Okay. Let me walk you through this (I spent a very long time thinking this out last night, when I should have been sleeping. You owe me a little bit of patience). Kissing is Nice. Add in a little tongue, and it’s not bad at all. Not too much tongue, though, 'cause then the drool comes which just eliminates all arousal. So a little tongue, not a lot, is a Good Thing. Nibbling on the ear is Very Nice. But introduce the tongue, and it all falls apart. I can’t stand to have someone stick their tongue in my ear. So any tongue, in that situation, is a Bad Thing. Little feather kisses over the face is also Very Nice. But NO TONGUE. How many people out there actually LIKE being licked on the face by another human??? (I’m leaving out animals again, because ironically I allow my dogs to lick my face without a problem) Tongue in this situation is a Bad, Evil, Nasty Thing. Yet it seems some people enjoy it… or enough that it appears in movies and stories as an arousing technique. So, to sum up… Any area below the jawline is okay for tongues. Mouth, okay. Not the face, not the ear. Am I alone in this? Are there others out there who also have a ban on Too Much Tongue? Or am I a total freak who just can’t understand the inherent benefits of being licked on the face? Your thoughts (on this matter, cause there are other posts for you to put your other thoughts in, or you can just make up your own) are appreciated. -BK ---
**Author:** ![galen\_ubal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/galen_ubal/32/4440_2.png) [@galen\_ubal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/galen_ubal)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2001, 3:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-tongue-is-too-much/94202/2 "2001-11-19T15:08:11Z")
Ditto, though the occasional nip on the ear (when not expected) is cool. But a tongue trailed along the throat - makes me all jello-ish. Almost as good as a blowjob (standing or not) ---
**Author:** ![Medea\_s\_Child](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8baadc/32.png) [@Medea\_s\_Child](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Medea_s_Child)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2001, 3:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-tongue-is-too-much/94202/3 "2001-11-19T15:11:04Z")
It depends on the situation, but in general I agree with you. Generally it narrows down to drool is bad. With a damp, not drooly, tongue a tiny lick on the edge of the earlobe isn’t a bad addition. Likewise, when goofing around I don’t mind a playful nose lick (think puppy). (Goofing around being not always foreplay playfulness and laughter.) But yea, other than those exceptions, tongue is not arousing. (Drool is bad) ---
**Author:** ![galen\_ubal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/galen_ubal/32/4440_2.png) [@galen\_ubal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/galen_ubal)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2001, 3:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-tongue-is-too-much/94202/4 "2001-11-19T15:17:08Z")
By the way, **bobkitty** , how _you_ doin’? 😉 ---
**Author:** ![FairyChatMom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fairychatmom/32/22080_2.png) [@FairyChatMom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FairyChatMom)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2001, 3:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-tongue-is-too-much/94202/5 "2001-11-19T15:19:54Z")
Many many many years ago, long before I met my husband, I dated a guy who would occasionally tongue my ear. It most definitely elicited a pleasant response. But he wasn’t particularly drooly either. No one has used that technique on me since then (I just did the math - it’s been over a quarter of a century!!! :eek: ) so I don’t know if it’s still magical. I won’t let my dogs lick my face. I see where they put their tongues… ---
**Author:** ![Kiki](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/dc4da7/32.png) [@Kiki](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kiki)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2001, 4:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-tongue-is-too-much/94202/6 "2001-11-19T16:02:05Z")
I don’t mind a tongue in my ear as long as they’re not filling my ear with spit! As **Medea’s Child** said, drool is bad. Any kind of lip/tongue action on my neck is _more than_ welcome because kisses and moist licks on the back of my neck are an incredible turn on for me. Again, as long as my neck isn’t dripping wet afterwards! ---
**Author:** ![Tranquilis](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tranquilis/32/3639_2.png) [@Tranquilis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tranquilis)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2001, 4:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-tongue-is-too-much/94202/7 "2001-11-19T16:12:02Z")
More on the “Drool Is Bad” bandwagon. I really enjoy having my earlobes nibbled on, but Mrs.Tranq is the only one I’ve ever permitted to _suck_ on them. She has a way of sending me right 'round the bend, that no one’s managed before her. When she’s really turned on, there’s almost nothing she loves more than to have her neck licked: I’ve brought her off this way many a time (sometimes before we even get undressed). However, if she’s not in the mood, her neck is totally off limits. (fortunately, she’s in the mood pretty often… 😃 ) Face licking is fun and playful, once or twice. Provided there’s no drool. Otherwise… EEEeeewww! ---
**Author:** ![GrizzRich](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/7ba0ec/32.png) [@GrizzRich](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrizzRich)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2001, 4:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-tongue-is-too-much/94202/8 "2001-11-19T16:14:08Z")
Of course, ANY tongue action 😛 from a relative WAY TOO MUCH! :eek: \ ---
**Author:** ![Skelji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b38774/32.png) [@Skelji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skelji)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2001, 4:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-tongue-is-too-much/94202/9 "2001-11-19T16:40:18Z")
A sufficiently moisture-free tongue, quickly darted into my ear, is acceptable. However, I do not wish to feel like I just popped up from the deep end of the pool. Also, under no circumstances is a woman to _lick my eyelids!!!_. It’s happened, and I don’t really like it. ---
**Author:** ![Kiki](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/dc4da7/32.png) [@Kiki](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kiki)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2001, 4:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-tongue-is-too-much/94202/10 "2001-11-19T16:48:58Z")
Oh **Dire Wolf** , I completely agree! I’ve had my eyelids licked before and it was disgusting. What possesses someone to do such a thing? Do they actually think it’s sexy? Yuck! ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2001, 7:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-tongue-is-too-much/94202/11 "2001-11-19T19:50:34Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by bobkitty \* > \*\*\ > Little feather kisses over the face is also Very Nice. But NO TONGUE. \ > > -BK \*\* Hee hee - my cat’s name is Feather. And she like to give me little Feather kisses with her tickly little face. Okay, carry on. ---
**Author:** ![Tranquilis](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tranquilis/32/3639_2.png) [@Tranquilis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tranquilis)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2001, 8:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-tongue-is-too-much/94202/12 "2001-11-19T20:02:20Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Rachelle \* > **I’ve had my eyelids licked before and it was disgusting.** How about little feather-kisses on the eyelids? No tongue, no drool? ---
**Author:** ![nbcbubba](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/f05b48/32.png) [@nbcbubba](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nbcbubba)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2011, 12:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-tongue-is-too-much/94202/13 "2011-08-14T00:36:41Z")
I am a bit of a tongue fan when kissing! I enjoy the lip and tongue dance when two people are really into it. I’m liable to nibble a lip, nip a neck and lick (very lightly) the outside of the ear. Drool though? Yeah… no thanks! ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2011, 12:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-tongue-is-too-much/94202/14 "2011-08-14T00:38:16Z")
> [@nbcbubba](#): > > I am a bit of a tongue fan when kissing! I enjoy the lip and tongue dance when two people are really into it. I’m liable to nibble a lip, nip a neck and lick (very lightly) the outside of the ear. > > Drool though? Yeah… no thanks! Just to let you know, the previous post to yours was made almost ten years ago. ---
**Author:** ![beowulff](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beowulff/32/542_2.png) [@beowulff](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/beowulff)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2011, 1:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-tongue-is-too-much/94202/15 "2011-08-14T01:15:55Z")
Nothing like a little zombie tongue… ---
**Author:** ![Der\_Trihs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/der_trihs/32/233_2.png) [@Der\_Trihs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Der_Trihs)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2011, 2:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-tongue-is-too-much/94202/16 "2011-08-14T02:02:45Z")
> [@hajario](#): > > Just to let you know, the previous post to yours was made almost ten years ago. A little tongue can get _really_ distracting. ---
**Author:** ![Musicat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/musicat/32/20189_2.png) [@Musicat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Musicat)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2011, 2:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-tongue-is-too-much/94202/17 "2011-08-14T02:13:34Z")
> [@hajario](#): > > Just to let you know, the previous post to yours was made almost ten years ago. And kissing has changed a lot since then. ---
**Author:** ![Becky2844](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@Becky2844](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Becky2844)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2011, 3:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-tongue-is-too-much/94202/18 "2011-08-14T03:05:07Z")
To me, if you’re not emotionally invested in a person, any amount of tongue is too much. But if totally into the other person, the tongue is a deeper “touch.” But sometimes it just tickles. Not in a good way. ---
**Author:** ![Leaffan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leaffan/32/299_2.png) [@Leaffan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leaffan)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2011, 3:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-tongue-is-too-much/94202/19 "2011-08-14T03:06:20Z")
> [@Becky2844](#): > > To me, if you’re not emotionally invested in a person, any amount of tongue is too much. But if totally into the other person, the tongue is a deeper “touch.” > But sometimes it just tickles. Not in a good way. Depends where it’s inserted. ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2011, 8:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-tongue-is-too-much/94202/20 "2011-08-14T20:22:35Z")
Add another situation where there is such a thing as too much tongue: I’ve got rinitis, ok? Which means if you’re trying to use your tongue to check the pH of my stomach, I can’t breathe! Cept for that, the second half of the OP could pretty much have been written by me. A bit of tongue tip can be OK above the neck - licking is not. It’s like the difference between touching and grabbing, or nibbling and biting. And who cares if the thread is a zombie, we get repeat threads for some subjects every three months… [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-much-tongue-is-too-much/94202.md?page=2)