# How often are you "hit" upon by the opposite sex, out of the blue?

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**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [December 31, 2011, 5:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-are-you-hit-upon-by-the-opposite-sex-out-of-the-blue/607963 "2011-12-31T17:48:55Z")\
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**Post date:** [January 2, 2012, 3:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-are-you-hit-upon-by-the-opposite-sex-out-of-the-blue/607963/58 "2012-01-02T03:19:59Z")

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> [@MichaelEmouse](#):
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> How do you handle yourself with assholes like that?

Direct eye contact, and a look that says, “I’m not the one.” If they keep up after that, I tell them to fuck off. The main thing is that I let them know that I’m not embarassed, and I’m not afraid to confront them about their behavior. But let me be clear, that’s not an attitude I take with very many guys, only the ones who are boldly rude, like the ones I was talking about in my anecdote.

> [@Best Movie Musical Numbers?](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/best-movie-musical-numbers/73649/6):
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> You “the man’s gotta do the chasing” women are just hoisting yourselves by your own petard.

That’s interesting, because it’s always worked just fine for me. I would certainly give a man the right kind of response if I was interested, but when I was single I always let the man do the asking out, calling first, etc. And I would even say that being too “available,” in that regard, is where a lot of women go wrong when it comes to men. I’m not saying a woman should never try to make plans, or call a man, but when it comes to the first month or so of dating, I think it’s better to let the man do the chasing, for sure. Call me old fashioned, but again, it always worked for me.

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