# How often do you do it? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [November 2, 2026, 1:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-do-it/1034337 "2026-11-02T13:50:43Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 10\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![LSLGuy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lslguy/32/5813_2.png) [@LSLGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LSLGuy)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2026, 5:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-do-it/1034337/21 "2026-11-04T17:01:08Z")
> [@Bullitt](#): > > Sometimes I envision, when I’ve moved in to an assisted living facility, that those years might be like I’m back in college and living in the dorms again, and many women will be seeking some intimacy. My understanding is that’s totally true. At least for the independent living facilities. By the time you’re in assisted, there’s a nurse glued to you pretty much all day every day and feeding yourself may be beyond your energy level. The goods are wrinkly, but so are you, and at least both your eyesights are poor. ---
**Author:** ![Bullitt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bullitt/32/5725_2.png) [@Bullitt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bullitt)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2026, 5:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-do-it/1034337/22 "2026-11-04T17:26:22Z")
LOL, dude. LOL. ---
**Author:** ![SuntanLotion](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/suntanlotion/32/16165_2.png) [@SuntanLotion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SuntanLotion)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2026, 6:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-do-it/1034337/23 "2026-11-04T18:01:08Z")
My ex and I did have sex when he was in the nursing home. Of course, he was in his 30s. Staff never walked in. ---
**Author:** ![sboy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ac8455/32.png) [@sboy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sboy)\ **Post date:** [November 5, 2026, 12:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-do-it/1034337/24 "2026-11-05T12:34:27Z")
Long term married male here. (50 + yrs) Something ( blood pressure pills? early life PTSD?) caused my wife to stop our weekly intimacy about 10 years ago. I fumbled along taking care of my own needs as I did prior to getting married. Then a single woman my own age began being nice to me at one of my suppliers. Not flirting just going out of her way to help me, but especially when I was recovering from a broken bone. An email exchange was started. then phone calls,..finally when I was left alone one weekend I asked her to have dinner with me. We shared our lives, we had many of the same memories even though we grew up hundreds of miles apart. At the end of the meal I thanked her for the kindnesses. “It has been a long time since someone treated me as a special person” I said . I walked her to her car and we chatted in the dark parking lot. “Well I better get going” I said, and moved to give her a hug. Instead she threw her arms around my neck and we had this really sensuous kiss. Those went on and one and she began holding me tighter and tighter until I had to lean on her car in order to keep standing. That started an affair that still goes on many years later and having sex once a week. In the beginning it was very hard to trust her, as I had an affair 25 years ago that blew up my life that is still strong in my memory but she respects my marriage and frankly she likes having independence in her home and does what she wants when she wants to. A long way to go to say that after 70 my answer is once a week,… and every 8 weeks twice a week. ---
**Author:** ![Chefguy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chefguy/32/138_2.png) [@Chefguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chefguy)\ **Post date:** [November 5, 2026, 1:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-do-it/1034337/25 "2026-11-05T13:19:22Z")
Things started going south at about age mid-60s, probably because of the meds I take. Tried Cialis, but didn’t like the pressure it caused in my head. So we just decided that that part of our life was over, and honestly, I don’t miss it. I’ll be 80 next year. ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [November 5, 2026, 2:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-do-it/1034337/26 "2026-11-05T14:48:13Z")
> [@sboy](#): > > Long term married male here. (50 + yrs) Something ( blood pressure pills? early life PTSD?) caused my wife to stop our weekly intimacy about 10 years ago. … > > At the end of the meal I thanked her for the kindnesses. “It has been a long time since someone treated me as a special person” I said . I walked her to her car and we chatted in the dark parking lot. “Well I better get going” I said, and moved to give her a hug. Instead she threw her arms around my neck and we had this really sensuous kiss. Those went on and one and she began holding me tighter and tighter until I had to lean on her car in order to keep standing. > That started an affair that still goes on many years later and having sex once a week. In the beginning it was very hard to trust her, as I had an affair 25 years ago that blew up my life that is still strong in my memory but she respects my marriage … I would love to take on a mistress, but they are time consuming and expensive. And you always have that constant risk the wife might find out and use that to end an otherwise shitty marriage, taking half your shit and none of the kids.😉 ---
**Author:** ![LSLGuy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lslguy/32/5813_2.png) [@LSLGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LSLGuy)\ **Post date:** [November 5, 2026, 4:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-do-it/1034337/27 "2026-11-05T16:00:14Z")
> [@Chefguy](#): > > Tried Cialis, but didn’t like the pressure it caused in my head. Silly boy! That stuff is _supposed_ to create increased pressure in your head. Or in one of them at least. 🤪 ---
**Author:** ![Chefguy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chefguy/32/138_2.png) [@Chefguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chefguy)\ **Post date:** [November 5, 2026, 4:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-do-it/1034337/28 "2026-11-05T16:17:05Z")
> [@LSLGuy](#): > > Silly boy! That stuff is _supposed_ to create increased pressure in your head. Or in one of them at least. 🤪 Har. I have a small brain aneurysm that was identified years ago. I didn’t think it was a good idea to have my blood pressure aggravating things. ---
**Author:** ![Eric1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/3bc359/32.png) [@Eric1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eric1)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2026, 7:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-do-it/1034337/29 "2026-11-06T07:50:24Z")
I’m 50 and replied ‘never.’ I’ve always been easily disgusted about having other people’s body fluids on me. Naturally that’s just a natural condition of sex. I have relatives who share my viewpoint. My fifty-year-old married brother-in-law says he feels the same way. Even though he and my sister of course have sex a few times a month, they’re both incidentally kind of grossed out about getting high-viscosity stuff on each other. ---
**Author:** ![CalMeacham](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/calmeacham/32/35_2.png) [@CalMeacham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CalMeacham)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2026, 1:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-do-it/1034337/30 "2026-11-06T13:23:29Z")
When I was young my sex life was virtually non-existent, although I was perpetually horny. It was circumstances. I’m glad to say that it’s much better now, but still restricted by circumstances [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-do-it/1034337.md?page=1)