# How often do you get PMs on here? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 23, 2016, 12:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-get-pms-on-here/775412 "2016-12-23T00:11:19Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Idle\_Thoughts](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/838e76/32.png) [@Idle\_Thoughts](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Idle_Thoughts)\ **Post date:** [December 23, 2016, 12:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-get-pms-on-here/775412/1 "2016-12-23T00:11:19Z")
I get many, but that makes sense since I’m a mod. I get about one or two a day…and that’s from people who send me one initiating it, not in reply to PMs I’ve sent them. As for sending PMs…heh. Well, let’s just say I have a tendency to PM posters that I like, randomly, for many different reasons. I’ve lost track of how many I’ve PMed on here over the many years. Most of the time I will get a reply back and then we’ll talk for a bit. Sometimes I won’t, though…and that’s okay too. How often do you get or send PMs? ---
**Author:** ![snfaulkner](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/snfaulkner/32/433_2.png) [@snfaulkner](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/snfaulkner)\ **Post date:** [December 23, 2016, 12:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-get-pms-on-here/775412/2 "2016-12-23T00:19:23Z")
I only get them when playing mafia, or when I get a warning for making a joke that doesn’t go over so well. Oh and then there was this one jerk who randomly wanted to be my friend. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![dalej42](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/67e7ee/32.png) [@dalej42](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dalej42)\ **Post date:** [December 23, 2016, 12:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-get-pms-on-here/775412/3 "2016-12-23T00:19:59Z")
Probably one or two a month, outside of August which is fantasy football draft season. I play fantasy sports with SDMB members and we discuss things via PM. I also PM mods with SDMB related questions. ---
**Author:** ![beowulff](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beowulff/32/542_2.png) [@beowulff](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/beowulff)\ **Post date:** [December 23, 2016, 12:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-get-pms-on-here/775412/4 "2016-12-23T00:36:25Z")
Rarely, usually when I want to discuss something “off-line” with a poster. On average, around once every few months. ---
**Author:** ![Sattua](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sattua/32/11906_2.png) [@Sattua](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sattua)\ **Post date:** [December 23, 2016, 1:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-get-pms-on-here/775412/5 "2016-12-23T01:00:18Z")
Years can pass between them. ---
**Author:** ![Quimby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/22d042/32.png) [@Quimby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quimby)\ **Post date:** [December 23, 2016, 1:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-get-pms-on-here/775412/6 "2016-12-23T01:25:33Z")
Very few. In fact I had not even noticed they existed for the first few years. The bulk of the ones I received were some very nice responses to a thread I started when I lost my dog after 17 years. It was a bad time for me so it was sweet of people to care. ---
**Author:** ![Procrustus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/procrustus/32/2994_2.png) [@Procrustus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Procrustus)\ **Post date:** [December 23, 2016, 1:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-get-pms-on-here/775412/7 "2016-12-23T01:27:26Z")
> [@Sattua](#): > > Years can pass between them. Me too. Four in all my time here. One was an April Fools joke, one was a warning. Two were interesting. ---
**Author:** ![Biotop](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/biotop/32/321_2.png) [@Biotop](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Biotop)\ **Post date:** [December 23, 2016, 1:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-get-pms-on-here/775412/8 "2016-12-23T01:32:57Z")
No valentines for me, alas. ---
**Author:** ![Wesley\_Clark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wesley_clark/32/20581_2.png) [@Wesley\_Clark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wesley_Clark)\ **Post date:** [December 23, 2016, 2:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-get-pms-on-here/775412/9 "2016-12-23T02:29:17Z")
3-6 unsolicited PMs a year. ---
**Author:** ![Kamino\_Neko](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kamino_neko/32/34_2.png) [@Kamino\_Neko](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kamino_Neko)\ **Post date:** [December 23, 2016, 2:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-get-pms-on-here/775412/10 "2016-12-23T02:34:21Z")
Once or twice a year. ---
**Author:** ![dtilque](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/d6d6ee/32.png) [@dtilque](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dtilque)\ **Post date:** [December 23, 2016, 3:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-get-pms-on-here/775412/11 "2016-12-23T03:12:49Z")
I’ve never bothered to empty my PM folder and it says I’ve had 8 total. Does that count the ones I’ve sent or just received? I can’t remember. Anyway, since I’ve been here 17 years, that’s about 1 every other year. ETA: Just rechecked and noticed it was 3 received and 5 sent. But for the other question: I don’t think we’ve had any Prime Ministers here at all. ---
**Author:** ![Poysyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f4b2a3/32.png) [@Poysyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Poysyn)\ **Post date:** [December 23, 2016, 3:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-get-pms-on-here/775412/12 "2016-12-23T03:17:29Z")
I get bursts of communication, then nothing. I have a few people I count as friends on here, it’s nice to hear from them time to time. ---
**Author:** ![Drunky\_Smurf](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drunky_smurf/32/449_2.png) [@Drunky\_Smurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drunky_Smurf)\ **Post date:** [December 23, 2016, 4:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-get-pms-on-here/775412/13 "2016-12-23T04:07:41Z")
> [@dtilque](#): > > But for the other question: I don’t think we’ve had any Prime Ministers here at all. I’m a Prime Minister of socks. And in such an important position I receive several PMs a century. Also I’ve gotten a couple from some random posters about either how funny I am, I got a whole 1 of those and I think that is a world record for me, and a couple others having to do with business dealings usually stuff I was buying off of other posters and we had to exchange info. I feel blessed. ---
**Author:** ![Thudlow\_Boink](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thudlow_boink/32/320_2.png) [@Thudlow\_Boink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thudlow_Boink)\ **Post date:** [December 23, 2016, 4:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-get-pms-on-here/775412/14 "2016-12-23T04:12:55Z")
I’m a guy. I don’t get PMS, here or anywhere else. ---
**Author:** ![Omega\_Glory](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/7c8e57/32.png) [@Omega\_Glory](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Omega_Glory)\ **Post date:** [December 23, 2016, 4:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-get-pms-on-here/775412/15 "2016-12-23T04:24:35Z")
Less than once a year. I’m not a very active poster. ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [December 23, 2016, 4:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-get-pms-on-here/775412/16 "2016-12-23T04:46:46Z")
I’ve got a friend on the board that we are in contact IRL, and we exchange PM. I sometimes get questions about Japan. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [December 23, 2016, 5:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-get-pms-on-here/775412/17 "2016-12-23T05:19:28Z")
Once in 16 years. ---
**Author:** ![Shagnasty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9dc877/32.png) [@Shagnasty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shagnasty)\ **Post date:** [December 23, 2016, 5:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-get-pms-on-here/775412/18 "2016-12-23T05:42:02Z")
I have gotten about 100 in 16 years and sent slightly less than that. Many of them were not real board members but people that just found something I wrote and I wanted more info. A few were confrontational or stalker-ish. ---
**Author:** ![Shagnasty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9dc877/32.png) [@Shagnasty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shagnasty)\ **Post date:** [December 23, 2016, 5:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-get-pms-on-here/775412/19 "2016-12-23T05:45:18Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > Once in 16 years. I think you have messaging blocked. I tried to send you a 2nd message of all time saying that I appreciated your posts (which is true) but the option isn’t even there. ---
**Author:** ![GuanoLad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guanolad/32/42_2.png) [@GuanoLad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GuanoLad)\ **Post date:** [December 23, 2016, 7:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-get-pms-on-here/775412/20 "2016-12-23T07:12:04Z")
Two or three per year, not counting ongoing conversations that may evolve from them. Online as in life. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-get-pms-on-here/775412.md?page=2)