# How often do you give/get oral sex (honestly) **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 12, 2002, 3:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-give-get-oral-sex-honestly/113579 "2002-06-12T03:08:58Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Chekmate](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/46a35a/32.png) [@Chekmate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chekmate)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2002, 3:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-give-get-oral-sex-honestly/113579/1 "2002-06-12T03:08:58Z")
give: 1-2 times/month get: 3-7 times/month ---
**Author:** ![Eva\_Luna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/e495f1/32.png) [@Eva\_Luna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eva_Luna)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2002, 3:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-give-get-oral-sex-honestly/113579/2 "2002-06-12T03:18:56Z")
Recently, not at all. Oh well; I have high hopes for the future. ---
**Author:** ![Gundy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/b782af/32.png) [@Gundy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gundy)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2002, 3:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-give-get-oral-sex-honestly/113579/3 "2002-06-12T03:19:22Z")
I give 5-6 times a month. I get…maybe once or twice a month. ---
**Author:** ![Melandry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8797f3/32.png) [@Melandry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Melandry)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2002, 3:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-give-get-oral-sex-honestly/113579/4 "2002-06-12T03:24:30Z")
I give about twice a month. I get…never. But I’m OK with that. Honestly. ---
**Author:** ![Squish](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/8797f3/32.png) [@Squish](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Squish)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2002, 3:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-give-get-oral-sex-honestly/113579/5 "2002-06-12T03:29:19Z")
I don’t like to be on the receiving end, but I love giving it, so I get it never, and give it about once a week. ---
**Author:** ![Kilvert\_s\_Pagan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/c37758/32.png) [@Kilvert\_s\_Pagan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kilvert_s_Pagan)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2002, 3:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-give-get-oral-sex-honestly/113579/6 "2002-06-12T03:29:47Z")
Oh, about 30-40% of the time, always as prelude to deeper things. ---
**Author:** ![seawitch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a587f6/32.png) [@seawitch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/seawitch)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2002, 3:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-give-get-oral-sex-honestly/113579/7 "2002-06-12T03:33:07Z")
Get - 2 or 3 times a month. Give - 2-3 times a week. Great. Now that I’m keeping score, I’m all bitter and everything. ---
**Author:** ![Batsinma\_Belfry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ea5d25/32.png) [@Batsinma\_Belfry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Batsinma_Belfry)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2002, 3:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-give-get-oral-sex-honestly/113579/8 "2002-06-12T03:38:25Z")
Give- 3-5 times a month Get- 1-3 times a year ---
**Author:** ![bouv](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bc8723/32.png) [@bouv](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bouv)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2002, 3:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-give-get-oral-sex-honestly/113579/9 "2002-06-12T03:42:46Z")
Get: 3-4 times a month Give: 3-4 times a week Now, these numbers don’t seem to shocking at first…until one steps back and sees my big, honkin’ penis. Yup, I’m in that rarity of males that give far more than I get, and I’m fine with that. I love giving, and she loves getting, and we both think that a penis in one’s mouth is…kinda icky. I always (well…90% of the time) bring her to orgasm, but she never brings me that far, it’s just used for foreplay, I prefer to orgasm during sex. Maybe I’m just odd… ---
**Author:** ![zorch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/50afbb/32.png) [@zorch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zorch)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2002, 4:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-give-get-oral-sex-honestly/113579/10 "2002-06-12T04:05:21Z")
I only post this to skew the statistical sample of the first few posts–a holdover from my younger days when I was a big fan of chaos; [now I just find it confusing] Anyway--------------------------------- ----------------------I have neither ever given nor received oral sex, but, naturally I’m looking forward to both. And I’m not calling for any ‘volunteers;’ I have someone in mind, and for now, I wait. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Mermaid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a183cd/32.png) [@The\_Mermaid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Mermaid)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2002, 4:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-give-get-oral-sex-honestly/113579/11 "2002-06-12T04:16:52Z")
Well I give as well and as often I get and both activities average about 2.5 times a week. And yes the hubby is very very good if I do say so myself. ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2002, 4:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-give-get-oral-sex-honestly/113579/12 "2002-06-12T04:21:06Z")
Give: 0.3-3.5 times a month Get: I tried it either twice or three times a long time ago. :barf smilie: I wouldn’t give really except that she kind of likes it and I like to make her feel good, but it doesn’t do much for me in and of itself. (I gather that for some portion of other people, the giving is in and of itself pleasurable?) My favorite for giving: things I can do with my fingertips My favorite for getting: plain old vanilla “insert tab a into slot b”, preferably after lots of finger play. TMI? ---
**Author:** ![VDarlin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/e56c9b/32.png) [@VDarlin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VDarlin)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2002, 4:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-give-get-oral-sex-honestly/113579/13 "2002-06-12T04:24:15Z")
My answers might really skew the results, since my boyfriend and I don’t even live on the same coast, yet. When we are together, however…ummm…it’s all quite a blur, but I do think that I receive more than I give. My boyfriend really only likes it briefly, as part of foreplay, he does not like it to completion, and I have really bad TMJ problems, and therefore have severely limited range of motion with my jaw. ~V ---
**Author:** ![baltotop](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/f19dbf/32.png) [@baltotop](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/baltotop)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2002, 4:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-give-get-oral-sex-honestly/113579/14 "2002-06-12T04:46:42Z")
I dont give or recieve as much as i would like… Im in a sexualy drought… I have high hopes 4 this weekend. 😃 😃 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Ruffian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/71e660/32.png) [@Ruffian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ruffian)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2002, 5:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-give-get-oral-sex-honestly/113579/15 "2002-06-12T05:05:41Z")
Well, we’re pretty average. For both give and receive, about 1-3 times per month. It’s rather contingent on my TMJ, which right now is so bad I can barely open my mouth to bite into a sandwich, much less…well, open it for other things. You know, like a big throbbing manly DeathLlama penis. (I was going to just say “Llama penis,” but…ewwwwwwww) Um…come to think of it, this sore jaw/swollen/can hardly open thing started around that really fun time in the shower. Dammit! Not that a few other options aren’t available and explored. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![StephenG](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/7feea3/32.png) [@StephenG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StephenG)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2002, 5:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-give-get-oral-sex-honestly/113579/16 "2002-06-12T05:23:08Z")
I have no idea of the frequency /week or month… (It’s a long distance summer.) … however: Get: almost every time Give: Not often enough – I really like giving, but she has a hard time believing that. But I don’t mind convincing her. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![VDarlin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/e56c9b/32.png) [@VDarlin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VDarlin)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2002, 5:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-give-get-oral-sex-honestly/113579/17 "2002-06-12T05:29:01Z")
**Ruffian** , my sympathies with the TMJ stuff. I know that I am not alone with my problem(my brother has it worse than I do, although I doubt he has much interest in mouthing a “big throbbing manly DeathLlama penis” - hehe), but hell if I don’t feel like I’m the only one affected by it a large portion of the time, most especially when the topic of oral sex comes up. It, umm…just makes us have to be more creative in other ways…yeah, that’s it! 😃 ~V ---
**Author:** ![Already\_in\_Use](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a9adbd/32.png) [@Already\_in\_Use](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Already_in_Use)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2002, 6:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-give-get-oral-sex-honestly/113579/18 "2002-06-12T06:41:08Z")
[Monty Python] You lucky bastards. [/Monty Python] ---
**Author:** ![pepperlandgirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f17d59/32.png) [@pepperlandgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pepperlandgirl)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2002, 6:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-give-get-oral-sex-honestly/113579/19 "2002-06-12T06:48:57Z")
Give-once or twice a week Get-maybe once a month. I don’t like it that much so I rarely ask. Though I know he probably would more often if I asked him for it. ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2002, 6:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-give-get-oral-sex-honestly/113579/20 "2002-06-12T06:49:56Z")
I give and/or receive head (usually both) virtually every time I have sex. Leaving aside preferences for giving vs. receiving, this is pretty much SOP for gay guys as far as I can tell. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-give-get-oral-sex-honestly/113579.md?page=2)