# How often do you kiss/hug your spouse? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [May 21, 2021, 12:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-kiss-hug-your-spouse/942585 "2021-05-21T00:09:21Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![seal\_cleaner](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e274bd/32.png) [@seal\_cleaner](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/seal_cleaner)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2021, 12:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-kiss-hug-your-spouse/942585/1 "2021-05-21T00:09:21Z")
Been married 37 years. Several times daily. How about you folks? ---
**Author:** ![P-man](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/p-man/32/3606_2.png) [@P-man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/P-man)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2021, 1:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-kiss-hug-your-spouse/942585/2 "2021-05-21T01:09:59Z")
Married almost 25 years. Several times a day here as well. ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2021, 1:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-kiss-hug-your-spouse/942585/3 "2021-05-21T01:18:51Z")
Fifteen years. Once, maybe twice? But we hold hands a lot. ---
**Author:** ![Sir\_T-Cups](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ed655f/32.png) [@Sir\_T-Cups](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sir_T-Cups)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2021, 1:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-kiss-hug-your-spouse/942585/4 "2021-05-21T01:37:30Z")
Married 3-and-a-half years. Kisses multiple times a day (they’re less “romantic” and more “fun”), hugs is much rarer, usually when we’re comforting each other, either sincerely or because we made a joke about the other that went slightly too far ---
**Author:** ![Roderick\_Femm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/roderick_femm/32/14875_2.png) [@Roderick\_Femm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Roderick_Femm)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2021, 3:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-kiss-hug-your-spouse/942585/5 "2021-05-21T03:02:01Z")
Coming up on 29 years together. Several times a day. ---
**Author:** ![burpo\_the\_wonder\_mutt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/burpo_the_wonder_mutt/32/365_2.png) [@burpo\_the\_wonder\_mutt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/burpo_the_wonder_mutt)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2021, 3:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-kiss-hug-your-spouse/942585/6 "2021-05-21T03:06:02Z")
I’ll be honest, here – you all have shamed me; my answer is not nearly enough. I will work on it, pronto! Thanks, SDMB! ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2021, 3:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-kiss-hug-your-spouse/942585/7 "2021-05-21T03:46:25Z")
We’ve been together almost 34 years, and still can’t keep our hands (and other body parts) off each other. ---
**Author:** ![jtur88](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e9c0ed/32.png) [@jtur88](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jtur88)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2021, 4:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-kiss-hug-your-spouse/942585/8 "2021-05-21T04:12:09Z")
My policy for my whole adult life – Never pass within arm’s reach of her without touching as I go by. I once saw a middle-aged couple on a long drive, stop at a rest are to change drivers. As they walked around the front of the car, they touched figertips ---
**Author:** ![GaryM](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/garym/32/241_2.png) [@GaryM](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GaryM)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2021, 4:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-kiss-hug-your-spouse/942585/9 "2021-05-21T04:14:42Z")
Married 51 years, several times a day. ---
**Author:** ![Bullitt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bullitt/32/5725_2.png) [@Bullitt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bullitt)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2021, 4:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-kiss-hug-your-spouse/942585/10 "2021-05-21T04:59:50Z")
Married 19 years. Several times each day. We also hold hands alot. ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2021, 9:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-kiss-hug-your-spouse/942585/11 "2021-05-21T09:25:07Z")
> [@Dung\_Beetle](#): > > Once, maybe twice? A day? A marriage? ---
**Author:** ![Icarus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/icarus/32/72_2.png) [@Icarus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Icarus)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2021, 9:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-kiss-hug-your-spouse/942585/12 "2021-05-21T09:53:33Z")
Sadly for me, nearly never. A close reading of my posts over the years would suggest that I did not choose the right spouse. ---
**Author:** ![Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/qadgop_the_mercotan/32/83_2.png) [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qadgop_the_Mercotan)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2021, 12:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-kiss-hug-your-spouse/942585/13 "2021-05-21T12:06:40Z")
Married almost 40 years now, kisses a few times a day, hugs similar, same for grabbing at fun body parts. ---
**Author:** ![LH75](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lh75/32/4438_2.png) [@LH75](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LH75)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2021, 12:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-kiss-hug-your-spouse/942585/14 "2021-05-21T12:21:11Z")
We went on our first date 49 years ago and kisses and hugs happen often during our day. ---
**Author:** ![Cervaise](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cervaise/32/16693_2.png) [@Cervaise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cervaise)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2021, 12:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-kiss-hug-your-spouse/942585/15 "2021-05-21T12:29:07Z")
Often enough that our kids complain when we do. If only they knew. ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2021, 12:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-kiss-hug-your-spouse/942585/16 "2021-05-21T12:36:12Z")
Once a _day_, I should have said! > [@jtur88](#): > > My policy for my whole adult life – Never pass within arm’s reach of her without touching as I go by. I used to have a boyfriend like that. I really hated the constant contact. I’m glad it works for you guys, but it sure didn’t for me! ---
**Author:** ![TriPolar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tripolar/32/3008_2.png) [@TriPolar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TriPolar)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2021, 1:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-kiss-hug-your-spouse/942585/17 "2021-05-21T13:08:38Z")
We’re getting old but we used to do it every day. Oh wait, you meant that literally. Well, beats me, lot of small hugs, we were never that much into smooching. ---
**Author:** ![Jumpbass](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jumpbass/32/147_2.png) [@Jumpbass](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jumpbass)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2021, 1:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-kiss-hug-your-spouse/942585/18 "2021-05-21T13:34:37Z")
Married 36 years; lotsa kisses and hugs everyday, plus the occasional pat on the tush. We have a tradition of always kissing when we’re on an escalator together. Dunno why. ---
**Author:** ![DMC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dmc/32/18049_2.png) [@DMC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DMC)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2021, 1:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-kiss-hug-your-spouse/942585/19 "2021-05-21T13:36:03Z")
20th anniversary later this year. Several times a day on a sporadic nature, and we have “rules” in place where it should always happen. When one party leaves the house and the other is awake, there is a goodbye kiss. When someone goes to bed, there is a goodnight “tuck-in” including a kiss even if the other is staying up. Hugs are less structured, but still probably average a few a day. ---
**Author:** ![Norse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/a9adbd/32.png) [@Norse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Norse)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2021, 3:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-kiss-hug-your-spouse/942585/20 "2021-05-21T15:18:41Z")
Married for \>30y, been together for \>35y. Whenever we leave each other, a goodbye kiss is compulsory. And then there’s the random hugging whenever one of us needs one, the regular snuggling in bed in the morning before getting out of bed and the occasional touch/grope whenever one of us feels for it. So, basically more than once per day. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-kiss-hug-your-spouse/942585.md?page=2)