# How often do you kiss/hug your spouse?

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**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [May 21, 2021, 12:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-kiss-hug-your-spouse/942585 "2021-05-21T00:09:21Z")\
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27 and a half years. Not nearly as often as I should.

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**Author:** ![Procrustus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/procrustus/32/2994_2.png) [@Procrustus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Procrustus)\
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We each say “I love you” at least 10 times per day. We touch whenever we’re close, and often hold hands. We don’t actually kiss too often (outside of sexy time) or hug a lot.

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**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\
**Post date:** [May 21, 2021, 4:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-kiss-hug-your-spouse/942585/23 "2021-05-21T16:00:26Z")

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Living together in sin \>15 years, \<20 years. Multiple times during the day, more so if her mom is around.

Her mom is German, and she blames her ethnicity for her reserved nature. When my gf and her two brothers were growing up, her mom never showed affection, saying that they knew she loved them and PDAs were gross. The first time I hugged my MIL the rest of the family erupted with laughter, and ever since it has been “a thing” to hug&kiss each other to make up for lost time. It gets goofy when one of her her nephews has a new gf who doesn’t know the entire tale.

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**Post date:** [May 21, 2021, 4:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-kiss-hug-your-spouse/942585/24 "2021-05-21T16:08:00Z")

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_Sybil Fawlty:_  
What are you doing, Basil?

_Basil Fawlty (happy because he won a bundle on a horse race):_  
Kissing you, my dear!

_Sybil Fawlty:_  
Well, don’t.

😃

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**Author:** ![Die\_Capacitrix](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/die_capacitrix/32/9_2.png) [@Die\_Capacitrix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Die_Capacitrix)\
**Post date:** [May 21, 2021, 4:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-kiss-hug-your-spouse/942585/25 "2021-05-21T16:57:53Z")

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> [@Jumpbass](#):
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> We have a tradition of always kissing when we’re on an escalator together.

Elevators and car washes for us.

Always when leaving and just before sleeping. When we would go into the office, we’d kiss before getting to the office.

Not so many hugs, but definitely pats on the head/shoulder/butt, etc., also when sitting and watching television.

Married almost 30 years

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**Author:** ![Hari\_Seldon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hari_seldon/32/5173_2.png) [@Hari\_Seldon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hari_Seldon)\
**Post date:** [May 21, 2021, 7:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-kiss-hug-your-spouse/942585/26 "2021-05-21T19:58:15Z")

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Married 57 years and we hug and kiss regularly including before getting out of bed in the morning.

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**Post date:** [May 21, 2021, 8:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-kiss-hug-your-spouse/942585/27 "2021-05-21T20:12:15Z")

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> [@seal\_cleaner](#):
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> Been married 37 years. Several times daily. How about you folks?

First thing in the morning (_always_), last thing at night (_always_), and once or twice during the day (as often as not). Married 51 years, best friends for 52 years. And for whatever it’s worth, still happily childfree by choice.

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**Post date:** [May 22, 2021, 1:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-kiss-hug-your-spouse/942585/28 "2021-05-22T13:59:04Z")

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33 yrs two three times a day, first thing in the am and at night. Hugging whenever I can.

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**Author:** ![Crafter\_Man](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/crafter_man/32/458_2.png) [@Crafter\_Man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crafter_Man)\
**Post date:** [May 22, 2021, 10:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-kiss-hug-your-spouse/942585/29 "2021-05-22T22:22:40Z")

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Married 25 years.

Never.

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**Author:** ![Roderick\_Femm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/roderick_femm/32/14875_2.png) [@Roderick\_Femm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Roderick_Femm)\
**Post date:** [May 23, 2021, 4:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-kiss-hug-your-spouse/942585/30 "2021-05-23T04:22:16Z")

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> [@Roderick\_Femm](#):
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> Coming up on 29 years together. Several times a day.

A little more often since writing this. Sometimes it takes being reminded how happy I am to be with him.

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**Post date:** [May 23, 2021, 6:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-kiss-hug-your-spouse/942585/31 "2021-05-23T18:42:05Z")

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30 years… several times a day.

It’s super cool to see so many other people here who do the same!

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We’ve been married for 39 years and together for 44 years. We kiss goodbye whenever one of us leaves, we kiss goodnight every night, and then just random times when we feel like it. So probably 4 times per day at least.

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**Post date:** [May 24, 2021, 5:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-kiss-hug-your-spouse/942585/33 "2021-05-24T17:30:14Z")

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Multiple times daily. Guaranteed kiss when I come home after work.

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**Author:** ![Rebo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rebo/32/13005_2.png) [@Rebo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rebo)\
**Post date:** [May 24, 2021, 7:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-kiss-hug-your-spouse/942585/34 "2021-05-24T19:32:39Z")

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17 years.

Lots of times daily. Definitely when one of us leaves, and we always kiss goodnight. We like to crowd the other in the kitchen, squeezing by with a hand brush to the butt, saying, “'Scuse me, 'scuse me.” 😛

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