# How often do you say 'I Love You' to you SO? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 15, 2005, 12:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-say-i-love-you-to-you-so/284795 "2005-01-15T00:06:37Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![fishbicycle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/aeb1de/32.png) [@fishbicycle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fishbicycle)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2005, 3:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-say-i-love-you-to-you-so/284795/21 "2005-01-15T03:53:37Z")
I’m in with the others - multiple times daily. We’ve been together 8 years, married 6 1/2. Not a day has gone by without us saying it. We were just saying it before I opened this forum and saw this thread! ---
**Author:** ![GingerOfTheNorth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/cdc98d/32.png) [@GingerOfTheNorth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GingerOfTheNorth)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2005, 4:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-say-i-love-you-to-you-so/284795/22 "2005-01-15T04:02:57Z")
Not enough. At least once a day, I would say. I’m just not demonstrative in that way. Married 2.5 years. > [@Avarie537](#): > > All the time. Sometimes, I’ll just walk up to him, give him a hug and a kiss and tell him “I love you.” Or, “I wubba you,” depending on how silly I’m feeling. Married 3.5 years; together over 5. …If you wubba wubba me then I will wubba you. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![racinchikki](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/eada6e/32.png) [@racinchikki](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/racinchikki)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2005, 4:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-say-i-love-you-to-you-so/284795/23 "2005-01-15T04:30:47Z")
Several times a day. Sometimes also “wuvoo.” ---
**Author:** ![kung\_fu\_lola](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/f4b2a3/32.png) [@kung\_fu\_lola](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kung_fu_lola)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2005, 5:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-say-i-love-you-to-you-so/284795/24 "2005-01-15T05:01:16Z")
We’ve been together for 2 years and we’re engaged (take **that** , Ralph Klein!). Maybe 5 - 10 times a day. After waking up, before going to sleep, watching tv, “sneak attacks” when one of us is cooking or on the computer. We sneak a few in when we visit each other at work, too (we’re just one metro stop away from one another). Admittedly, our relationship is still pretty young, but I don’t see us slowing down anytime soon. ---
**Author:** ![Othersider](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/cab0a1/32.png) [@Othersider](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Othersider)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2005, 6:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-say-i-love-you-to-you-so/284795/25 "2005-01-15T06:27:01Z")
All the time. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Lyllyan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/b2d939/32.png) [@Lyllyan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lyllyan)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2005, 6:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-say-i-love-you-to-you-so/284795/26 "2005-01-15T06:36:00Z")
We have been married 22 years, and always say it when ending a telephone conversation, and usually a couple of more times during the day. We also hold hands when we are walking, and sit on the same side of the booth. We hug in public, waltz spontaneously and are basically joined at the hip. It’s enough to make you sick. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![irishgirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/8edcca/32.png) [@irishgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/irishgirl)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2005, 1:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-say-i-love-you-to-you-so/284795/27 "2005-01-15T13:36:57Z")
Been with irishfella 3 and a half years, we probably say it 10 times a day minimum, but then I end telephone calls with my parents and sisters with “love you”, which is probably weird to some people. ---
**Author:** ![Typo\_Negative](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/typo_negative/32/484_2.png) [@Typo\_Negative](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Negative)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2005, 1:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-say-i-love-you-to-you-so/284795/28 "2005-01-15T13:44:19Z")
Several times a day, I will ask MOTL “Have I told you how much I love today?” She will smile and say “No.” I will say “I love you very, very much.” ---
**Author:** ![Anastasaeon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/73ab20/32.png) [@Anastasaeon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anastasaeon)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2005, 1:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-say-i-love-you-to-you-so/284795/29 "2005-01-15T13:48:40Z")
We’ve only been married a year, so I suppose it’s normal that it’s all the time… I don’t see it ever letting up, though, not to sound too starry-eyed. On the phone, in email, in person - always when he wakes up, before he leaves for work, each call he makes from work, when he gets home from work - randomly throughout the rest of the day, and when we go to bed. Rinse, repeat. If it’s how you feel, say it! 😉 No shame in it, IMO. It’s not like we maul each other in public - holding hands or saying “I love you” is pretty tame stuff - not necessarily cutesy-ooogy-wooogy stuff - it’s a fact. “I love you and I’m here for you, and it’s not a secret.” ---
**Author:** ![Anastasaeon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/73ab20/32.png) [@Anastasaeon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anastasaeon)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2005, 2:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-say-i-love-you-to-you-so/284795/30 "2005-01-15T14:10:09Z")
> [@Anastasaeon](#): > > blah blah My apologies for my atrocious sentence structure in my above post… I was typing while listening to my husband talk about where we should go out tonight, checking on my little EQII character that I have running in the background, having my keys handed to me that I left in hubby’s coat pocket yesterday, etc. He did tell me he loved me, though 😃 And also to have a great day. Why, I think I will. ---
**Author:** ![dalej42](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/67e7ee/32.png) [@dalej42](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dalej42)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2005, 2:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-say-i-love-you-to-you-so/284795/31 "2005-01-15T14:22:25Z")
I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 3 years. We probably say it about 10 times per day. Usually in the AM and PM as well as on the phone. ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2005, 2:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-say-i-love-you-to-you-so/284795/32 "2005-01-15T14:24:57Z")
> [@Anastasaeon](#): > > My apologies for my atrocious sentence structure in my above post… I was typing while listening to my husband talk about where we should go out tonight, checking on my little EQII character that I have running in the background, having my keys handed to me that I left in hubby’s coat pocket yesterday, etc. Did penis ensue? Seriously, maybe your malapropisms have less to do with dyslexia or some such than the fact that you’re not paying attention to what you’re typing. Not that I want you to _start_ paying attention…I love you just the way you are. 10 times a day. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Anastasaeon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/73ab20/32.png) [@Anastasaeon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anastasaeon)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2005, 2:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-say-i-love-you-to-you-so/284795/33 "2005-01-15T14:37:38Z")
> [@Green Bean](#): > > Did penis ensue? Seriously, maybe your malapropisms have less to do with dyslexia or some such than the fact that you’re not paying attention to what you’re typing. _That_ would be the ADD kicking in. Sure, I can multitask, but I never said I could do it _well_! 😉 > [@](#): > > Not that I want you to _start_ paying attention…I love you just the way you are. 10 times a day. 🙂 For you, shweetheart, I won’t change a thing. Now I’ll have someone to blame! **Green Bean** loves me juuust the way I am! So there! Penis penis penis penis penis! 😛 [/hijack] ---
**Author:** ![DeVena](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/dec6dc/32.png) [@DeVena](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DeVena)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2005, 2:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-say-i-love-you-to-you-so/284795/34 "2005-01-15T14:42:28Z")
All the time. Multiple times a day. One of the old ladies at church playfully fusses at us because we’re always holding hands and kissing. She says if we’re that lovey-dovey then we should have kids. We say that we’re still lovey-dovey because we don’t have kids. DeHusband and I come from very reserved families. But we’re slowly pulling them over to our side. I never leave family without a hug and “love you”. I may not like them all the time but I do love them. ---
**Author:** ![Indygrrl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/58f4c7/32.png) [@Indygrrl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Indygrrl)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2005, 2:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-say-i-love-you-to-you-so/284795/35 "2005-01-15T14:48:55Z")
Many times a day. Been together almost 2 years. We’re cheesy cuddly cute and all that, we disgust our friends. 😃 And we also have a deal that we will always have \*at least \* one passionate kiss every day. ---
**Author:** ![Graycat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/3ec8ea/32.png) [@Graycat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Graycat)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2005, 2:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-say-i-love-you-to-you-so/284795/36 "2005-01-15T14:56:04Z")
Many times a day. Waking up in the morning. In bed at night. Ending any phone call or e-mail. Whenever we part. Just at random. Married 26 years, still hold hands when we walk. Having two kids hasn’t slowed down the affection, just muted the x-rated portion. No mad living room trysts with kids in the house. ---
**Author:** ![butter\_pie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/aca169/32.png) [@butter\_pie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/butter_pie)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2005, 3:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-say-i-love-you-to-you-so/284795/37 "2005-01-15T15:04:56Z")
Many times a day, mostly I think to see who can be the most annoying about it. The bf frequently will run back in here while I’m trying to get a huge pile of work done, and nearly knock me off my chair and out from behind my desk, while almost yelling it. I have to peel him off of me just to finish what I’m doing. When that happens, invariably I have the scene from a Mickey Mouse _Christmas Carol_ running through my head. You know, the one where Scrooge is sitting there counting his money, when the girl duck walks in, and ends up leaving in tears because he’s too busy working to pay attention to her? It’s not easy working at home sometimes. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2005, 3:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-say-i-love-you-to-you-so/284795/38 "2005-01-15T15:15:52Z")
No SO here. My family is not demonstrative at all, except for my brother and his wife, who made a conscious decision to be demonstrative. They call each other honey and sweetheart and sweetiepie and say “God, how I love you!” the whole time. And I say, good for them! Mom used to complain that we wouldn’t hug or kiss her, but when we _did_ spontaneously hug or kiss her, then she’d look at us with suspicion and ask “ok, what the hell was for? if you’re trying to butter me up for whatever, it will not work!” It’s one of the twenty zillion things we’ve been educating her on, now if you kiss her she returns the kiss and says “thank you”. ---
**Author:** ![Caprese](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a9a28c/32.png) [@Caprese](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Caprese)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2005, 3:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-say-i-love-you-to-you-so/284795/39 "2005-01-15T15:27:23Z")
Not all that much. Couple times a month. My family never said it a whole lot, and then I went and married someone even less demonstrative. I will say it to him, and he will sometimes mumble it back, more likely say ‘me too.’ I know I am loved, but I am never going to hear the words said all that much. (I’ve saved every card he’s ever given me with I Love You written in.) 🙂 He is just not that verbally affectionate; I knew what I was getting into when we married 23 years ago. I did/do make sure to always say I Love You to our sons and they say it back. ---
**Author:** ![Calliope](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@Calliope](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Calliope)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2005, 3:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-say-i-love-you-to-you-so/284795/40 "2005-01-15T15:29:32Z")
In the morning before he leaves for work, every time we end a phone conversation, and at night before going to sleep, at minimum. We don’t say it spontaneously as often anymore, except while making love, but we always tell each other, “I love you” several times a day. We’ve been married 16.5 years. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-say-i-love-you-to-you-so/284795.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-say-i-love-you-to-you-so/284795.md?page=3)