# How often do you single people get laid?

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [June 22, 2005, 1:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350 "2005-06-22T13:07:06Z")\
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**Author:** ![Omniscient](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/omniscient/32/3290_2.png) [@Omniscient](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Omniscient)\
**Post date:** [June 22, 2005, 8:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/41 "2005-06-22T20:32:46Z")

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> [@Indygrrl](#):
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> I am ruled by the id. 😃

Nice Id, baby…

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**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\
**Post date:** [June 22, 2005, 8:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/42 "2005-06-22T20:35:30Z")

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> [@Indygrrl](#):
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> I get why you’d want the STD check, but why the complete list of partners?

References. 😃

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**Author:** ![descamisado](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e480ec/32.png) [@descamisado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/descamisado)\
**Post date:** [June 22, 2005, 8:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/43 "2005-06-22T20:56:53Z")

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> [@Greathouse](#):
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> Because I asked that those sort of things be excluded in the OP. I am interested in the amount of spontanious sex a single person has. We all have people that we can call in a clinch when we just need to get laid. I was wondering about meeting **women** in bars or by other means, not regular “on demand” sex.
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> 😃

Well, if you’re talking about this guy having sex with women, my answer to your post topic is “I never get laid.”

But, if you’re talking about with guys, I’d said average about once every 3-5 weeks. 😃

I’d do it more, but to me, it’s a lot of damn work.

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**Author:** ![descamisado](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e480ec/32.png) [@descamisado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/descamisado)\
**Post date:** [June 22, 2005, 9:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/44 "2005-06-22T21:02:50Z")

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> [@5-4-Fighting](#):
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> Well, if you’re talking about this guy having sex with women, my answer to your post topic is “I never get laid.”
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> But, if you’re talking about with guys, I’d said average about once every 3-5 weeks. 😃
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> I’d do it more, but to me, it’s a lot of damn work.

A lot of work to hook up, not the sex!

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**Author:** ![EarthStone777](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7ab992/32.png) [@EarthStone777](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EarthStone777)\
**Post date:** [June 22, 2005, 9:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/45 "2005-06-22T21:37:32Z")

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I’d like more clarification from the OP as to what counts or not in terms of a ‘regular booty call’ VS a ‘fuck buddy’.

I was under the impression the OP specifically wanted one night stands, not ‘friends with benefits’ type hookups.

For myself, I’ve never had casual sex. In fact I have never had sex with anyone who I have known for less than 6 months. (Not that it’s a rule of mine, but just how it turns out to have happened so far). I have to be emotionally involved with someone to have sex with them. Therefor, in terms of the OP, I think my answer is ‘never’.

I do however have long term friends who I sleep with on occasion. There have been many long stretches between SO’s where I was ‘single’ but still occasionally having sex with a friend. Heck, for 6 months or so I had a friend (who I had dated 7 years previously) who would call me up every couple weeks, come over, and jump my bones for the night. Then she found a new SO and stopped doing it. We went back to our previous routine of her calling me every couple weeks, coming over, and watching a movie and talking about our lives.

So if that counts (and other situations less regular than it), then _on average_ I’d say about I had sex once a month when between SO’s.

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**Author:** ![phouka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/c5a1d2/32.png) [@phouka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/phouka)\
**Post date:** [June 22, 2005, 9:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/46 "2005-06-22T21:43:19Z")

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_sigh_ ☹

I broke up with my last boyfriend six years ago. I have not gotten laid since then. I’ve had a few opportunities, but nothing where I felt both the attraction and the trust I have to have to make it happen.

And now I live with friend who are neoconservative Republican Orthodox Christians. Not like I can bring a guy home on some random evening.

_sigh_ ☹

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**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\
**Post date:** [June 22, 2005, 10:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/47 "2005-06-22T22:11:43Z")

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Let’s see. I had a policy until I entered college (four years late) of never having casual sex, and had only had sex with boyfriends or girlfriends until then. When I started college in 2001, I had three random hookups in a three-month span, then nothing but fooling around until 2004, when I had a one-night (well, one afternoon 😃 ) stand. Then nothing until this April. Then nothing until…the 16th of this month. The situation looks to be shaping up to be a summer fling. I don’t normally do that kind of thing but it’s actually rather enjoyable.

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**Author:** ![partlycloudy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/partlycloudy/32/3114_2.png) [@partlycloudy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/partlycloudy)\
**Post date:** [June 23, 2005, 1:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/48 "2005-06-23T01:28:33Z")

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Only had 2 one-night-stands in my life (one was just a week ago! whoo hoo!). I don’t tend to be attracted to guys who are just looking for sex, so I guess that’s why I don’t do it more often. Plus I don’t want to get my ‘number’ **too** high, if ya know what I mean. And if a guy is genuinely ‘cool’ and I see potential, then I don’t want to hook up with him on the first night. The two times it happened, I was just really :ahem: horny. I figure if you’re single and not running around with a slew of STDs, what’s the harm, right?

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**Author:** ![Misnomer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/misnomer/32/14897_2.png) [@Misnomer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Misnomer)\
**Post date:** [June 23, 2005, 2:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/49 "2005-06-23T02:56:31Z")

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> [@LoganDear](#):
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> Plus I don’t want to get my ‘number’ **too** high, if ya know what I mean.

I know what you mean, but I think it’s a silly thing to worry about … after all, what does a number mean? Some people think that 5 is “too high,” others yawn at anything under 20. The only thing that matters is that _you_ are ok with your number. 🙂

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**Author:** ![JRDelirious](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jrdelirious/32/9531_2.png) [@JRDelirious](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JRDelirious)\
**Post date:** [June 23, 2005, 3:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/50 "2005-06-23T03:44:28Z")

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A: This restrictive definition of “getting laid” (=random-stranger casual sex) is most unusual.

B: “people who don’t have sex on call” ?huh? Who has sex “on call”? 'xcuse me, but it happens **if** _the other person_ is up to it, not “on call”.

C: By the OP definitions I’ve never “got laid” in 43 years of life, and neither have I seen myself as having “sex on call”. Too many potential unintended consequences in the random-stranger hookup. And even when I’ve had situations where I got “friendly”, “just-for-fun” no-strings boinking I would have never dreamt of looking at it as having someone “on call”. Sounds disrespectful to me.

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**Author:** ![drewbert](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drewbert/32/15890_2.png) [@drewbert](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drewbert)\
**Post date:** [June 23, 2005, 3:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/51 "2005-06-23T03:52:07Z")

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Define it however the heck you want, it’s been a very very long time.

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**Author:** ![Misnomer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/misnomer/32/14897_2.png) [@Misnomer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Misnomer)\
**Post date:** [June 23, 2005, 3:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/52 "2005-06-23T03:57:18Z")

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> [@JRDelirious](#):
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> B: “people who don’t have sex on call” ?huh? Who has sex “on call”? 'xcuse me, but it happens **if** the other person is up to it, not “on call”.

Geez, no _wonder_ you’ve never gotten laid. :rolleyes: 😉

(I mostly kid!)

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**Author:** ![Lok](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e8c25b/32.png) [@Lok](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lok)\
**Post date:** [June 23, 2005, 8:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/53 "2005-06-23T08:52:41Z")

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> [@Greathouse](#):
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> We all have people that we can call in a clinch when we just need to get laid.

All right! Why didn’t I get a number?!

In regards to the OP, if you are referring to one night stands/casual sex, never. If you mean sex in particular, just over 10 years now. And boy, am I glad to be reminded of that number. ☹

> [@phouka](#):
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> And now I live with friend who are neoconservative Republican Orthodox Christians. Not like I can bring a guy home on some random evening.

Assuming you and your roommate are sleeping in seperate bedrooms, why can’t you bring a guy home? Your roommate may not care for it, but it is your life and you get to live it the way you want. That is the theory in this country anyway. 😛

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**Author:** ![Gundhilde](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/ecc23a/32.png) [@Gundhilde](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gundhilde)\
**Post date:** [June 23, 2005, 12:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/54 "2005-06-23T12:10:44Z")

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Yeah, I was going to suggest to **Phouka** to just try being very, very quiet 😉

As for me, I’m sort of a feast-or-famine type, as someone else mentioned earlier. I’ll tend to go 4-6 months without really getting laid, and then for a month or two, it’ll be a new person every weekend. Then another 4-6 month dry spell before another little slew of people shows up on the doorstep, so to speak.

I’m now un-eagerly anticipating what will probably be my longest dry spell yet, though I would be thrilled to be proven wrong! It started about three weeks ago and ends whenever the gods see fit to let penis and/or vagina ensue.

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**Author:** ![Greathouse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/greathouse/32/2992_2.png) [@Greathouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Greathouse)\
**Post date:** [June 23, 2005, 12:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/55 "2005-06-23T12:47:01Z")

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> [@JRDelirious](#):
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> A: This restrictive definition of “getting laid” (=random-stranger casual sex) is most unusual.

Dude, lighten up. I’m just wondering how often poeple around here have meaningless one night stand type of sex.

> [@JRDelirious](#):
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> B: “people who don’t have sex on call” ?huh? Who has sex “on call”? 'xcuse me, but it happens **if** _the other person_ is up to it, not “on call”.

Again, lighten up.

> [@JRDelirious](#):
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> C: By the OP definitions I’ve never “got laid” in 43 years of life, and neither have I seen myself as having “sex on call”. Too many potential unintended consequences in the random-stranger hookup.

Thank you for answering my question.

> [@JRDelirious](#):
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> And even when I’ve had situations where I got “friendly”, “just-for-fun” no-strings boinking I would have never dreamt of looking at it as having someone “on call”. Sounds disrespectful to me.

Tomato, Tom_ah_to. If you want to find offense where none was intended then more power to ya. I hope it goes well for you.

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**Author:** ![CalMeacham](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/calmeacham/32/35_2.png) [@CalMeacham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CalMeacham)\
**Post date:** [June 23, 2005, 12:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/56 "2005-06-23T12:50:54Z")

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> [@](#):
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> Yeah, I was going to suggest to Phouka to just try being very, very quiet

"Be vewy, vewy quiet! We’re Scwewing wike wabbits!

Hehehehehehhhh!"

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**Post date:** [June 23, 2005, 4:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/57 "2005-06-23T16:25:48Z")

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About once a week when I was in college.

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**Author:** ![MacGyverInSeattle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/958977/32.png) [@MacGyverInSeattle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MacGyverInSeattle)\
**Post date:** [June 23, 2005, 5:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/58 "2005-06-23T17:33:28Z")

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I have been a lurker for many years now, reading and laughing on the message boards, but this thread has finally drawn me out.  
I finally shelled out my membership fee and became official. So hi all.

I don’t drink or use drugs or party or do much non-geek type activities so my chance of meeting quick lay type females was nonexistent.  
Then I discovered the sex clubs. The one I joined is well run and is a non-profit org specifically for quick sex and other similar activities (SAFE SEX ONLY).  
Members do not have to use their real names and there are many beds in little rooms right in the building. You must wash the sheets after or bring your own!  
No drink or drugs in the building, go outside to smoke, anyone who doesn’t believe no means no is banned.  
They have pot luck parties and special events most nights of the week with occasional weekend getaways where we all chip in and rent a hotel or beach or park.  
I am more into alternative activities so I joined a club catering to that type of thing.  
I have since found lots of clubs like this on the internet with many like minded women whom I have met with very nice results.

So my answer to the OP is as often as I felt like going there, 1-2 times a week, time permitting.

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**Author:** ![Greathouse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/greathouse/32/2992_2.png) [@Greathouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Greathouse)\
**Post date:** [June 23, 2005, 5:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/59 "2005-06-23T17:50:36Z")

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> [@MacGyverInSeattle](#):
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> I have been a lurker for many years now, reading and laughing on the message boards, but this thread has finally drawn me out.  
> I finally shelled out my membership fee and became official. So hi all.

Welcome.

> [@MIS](#):
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> I don’t drink or use drugs or party or do much non-geek type activities so my chance of meeting quick lay type females was nonexistent.  
> Then I discovered the sex clubs. The one I joined is well run and is a non-profit org specifically for quick sex and other similar activities (SAFE SEX ONLY).  
> Members do not have to use their real names and there are many beds in little rooms right in the building. You must wash the sheets after or bring your own!  
> No drink or drugs in the building, go outside to smoke, anyone who doesn’t believe no means no is banned.  
> They have pot luck parties and special events most nights of the week with occasional weekend getaways where we all chip in and rent a hotel or beach or park.  
> I am more into alternative activities so I joined a club catering to that type of thing.  
> I have since found lots of clubs like this on the internet with many like minded women whom I have met with very nice results.
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> So my answer to the OP is as often as I felt like going there, 1-2 times a week, time permitting.

Interesting. Seriously.

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**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\
**Post date:** [June 23, 2005, 6:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/60 "2005-06-23T18:59:41Z")

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> [@MacGyverInSeattle](#):
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> I have been a lurker for many years now, reading and laughing on the message boards, but this thread has finally drawn me out.  
> I finally shelled out my membership fee and became official. So hi all.

Welcome and… You’ve lurked for many years and _this_ is the subject that got you to join and post?! Seriously?!?! :dubious:

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