# How often do you single people get laid? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 22, 2005, 1:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350 "2005-06-22T13:07:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![MacGyverInSeattle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/958977/32.png) [@MacGyverInSeattle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MacGyverInSeattle)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2005, 4:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/81 "2005-06-24T16:15:05Z")
> [@AndrewL](#): > > I have heard of similar sex clubs here in New Jersey, but they all either ban single men outright, or charge them a steep entry fee. With what you said about a for-profit club being in danger of immediatly being shut down, I wonder how they get away with it. I assume different citys / states have different rules. This club was not cheap. It was $300 yearly and $25 - $40 every event. You could donate mattresses, sheets, towels and washer and dryers and things as well to defray the cost. I did a lot of maintenance for them. > [@AndrewL](#): > > I still suspect that a not-for-profit club must end up turning down the vast majority of the single men who apply. I’m also curious if the one you belong to has any requirements as far as proof of STD free status or mandatory safe sex rules. If you read my original post (SAFE SEX ONLY). STD testing was up to the people, they had posted lists of places you could be tested and get cards. I am paranoid about bugs and stuck to VERY VERY SAFE SEX card or no. ---
**Author:** ![Unintentionally\_Blank](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/unintentionally_blank/32/5418_2.png) [@Unintentionally\_Blank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Unintentionally_Blank)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2005, 4:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/82 "2005-06-24T16:25:52Z")
> [@kimera](#): > > I also have very selective tastes in sexual partners which makes finding one a huge pain in the ass. This tells me you’re doing something wrong. {rimshot!} Uh, no pun intended. {slinks outta thread and sobs at the married sex ratio} ---
**Author:** ![kimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/f0a364/32.png) [@kimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kimera)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2005, 12:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/83 "2005-06-25T00:52:03Z")
> [@Indygrrl](#): > > but why the complete list of partners? If my guy had asked me to get tested, I would have agreed with no problem. But if he wanted a list, I’d have to say that was none of his damn business. I’d want to know how recently he/she’s been sexually active and about how many total partners she’s/he’s had. I don’t need names and phone numbers and all that stuff, just amount and dates. I can see how people might say it’s none of my business, but I disagree. I regard sex as very personal, and with all the negative draw-backs it has, I would rather be extra safe and nosy than sorry. I would not be offended at all if a guy asked me the same question before sex. ---
**Author:** ![phouka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/c5a1d2/32.png) [@phouka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/phouka)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2005, 3:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/84 "2005-06-25T03:01:38Z")
> [@Lok](#): > > Assuming you and your roommate are sleeping in seperate bedrooms, why can’t you bring a guy home? Your roommate may not care for it, but it is your life and you get to live it the way you want. That is the theory in this country anyway. 😛 They (husband and wife) are my landlords, not my roommates. They’ve been kind enough to rent a bedroom to me and have waived rent a couple of times due to my not-having-a-job thing, so much as I would appreciate and revel in a very quiet yet very vigorous Beast-With-Two-Back festival, I’m not doing it under their roof. It’s a respect/really don’t want to get thrown out on my ear sort of thing. ---
**Author:** ![rutabaga22](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/b19c9b/32.png) [@rutabaga22](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rutabaga22)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2013, 12:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/85 "2013-02-14T00:48:38Z")
Let’s see, 25 women between my 19th birthday and my 25th. Three of those were real relationships (the last one is my wife), so 22 women in about 36 months of being truly single works out to a little more than once every two months. So call me a slut. It’s still not that much sex. I would have had more fun with fewer partners and more times per partner. ---
**Author:** ![Pooty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Pooty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pooty)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2013, 1:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/86 "2013-02-14T01:38:24Z")
My “girl” roommate in college brought home a different guy every week. Sometimes 4 different guys a week, I couldnt beleive it! Thankfully, she never tried anything with me… Kinda sad, I didn’t get that experience in college 🙂 guess she doesn’t like girls. ---
**Author:** ![Wesley\_Clark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wesley_clark/32/20581_2.png) [@Wesley\_Clark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wesley_Clark)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2013, 1:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/87 "2013-02-14T01:57:15Z")
This thread is depressing. I wish I had better social skills and options. ---
**Author:** ![Jragon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e19b73/32.png) [@Jragon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jragon)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2013, 2:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/88 "2013-02-14T02:06:01Z")
Never. I’m not interested in casual sex. It’d be tempting to sleep with somebody I was interested in dating already, but if they made it clear they only wanted a casual encounter I’d have to turn it down because it’s not really my thing. Random hook-ups? Absolutely not. Not that I could if I wanted to anyway, I don’t like alcohol (not a moral thing, I hate the feeling of being buzzed and the taste makes me gag) so I don’t go to bars, and I’ve never been to a party and wouldn’t know how to find one if I wanted to so… ---
**Author:** ![drachillix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/48db29/32.png) [@drachillix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drachillix)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2013, 3:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/89 "2013-02-14T03:32:44Z")
MMMM zombie sex! Although amusingly enough I posted in this thread 7 years ago I was married then, but back in the mix again now…its similar, although far more FWB oriented lately. I have one go to FWB who is always willing… and a few others who I might cross paths with every 2-3 months. I rarely go 2-3 weeks. Still would rather have just one who was a full time workable relationship. ---
**Author:** ![drewtwo99](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/d07c76/32.png) [@drewtwo99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drewtwo99)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2013, 3:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/90 "2013-02-14T03:53:19Z")
That’s an interesting thought, that “everyone has someone they can turn to for sex in a pinch so don’t count that.” I wonder if I know anyone who would always be willing to have sex with me if I were single and willing. I would bet there are a couple. But, it’s not really my thing. When I am single, I am either dating and having sex with the intent to take things further and more seriously, or I am not doing anything at all (just enjoying being single). I _have_ done the random hook up thing but it was only online, never in a bar or anything like that. ---
**Author:** ![rhubarbarin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/eb9ed0/32.png) [@rhubarbarin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rhubarbarin)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2013, 4:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/91 "2013-02-14T04:13:40Z")
Never, by your definition. I don’t have casual sex, or friends with benefits. But I was in serious relationships all through my 20s, we’ll see how things go now that I am 27, single and don’t know anyone boyfriend-worthy. So far, the problem seems to be that I don’t _want_ to sleep with anyone. ---
**Author:** ![April\_R](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3da27b/32.png) [@April\_R](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/April_R)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2013, 4:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/92 "2013-02-14T04:21:10Z")
Zombie thread makes me feel better about my married sex life ---
**Author:** ![boytyperanma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/4491bb/32.png) [@boytyperanma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/boytyperanma)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2013, 4:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/93 "2013-02-14T04:29:13Z")
As a gay man, as often as I want. It’s not hard to find horny guys on the internet. When I was in my slutty phase, 2-3 guys a week, mostly college boys that are bad at sex. These days I don’t bother with hook ups much anymore, I’ve had enough nsa sex, I’d much rather have the strings. ---
**Author:** ![panaccione](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/94ad74/32.png) [@panaccione](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panaccione)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2013, 4:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/94 "2013-02-14T04:30:23Z")
Yeah, it seems like I go about 1-2 years and then hook up with somebody, and then it’s back to the dry spell… ---
**Author:** ![Hilarity\_N.Suze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hilarity_n.suze/32/6223_2.png) [@Hilarity\_N.Suze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hilarity_N.Suze)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2013, 4:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/95 "2013-02-14T04:32:36Z")
I probably wondered this in 2005 and I wonder this now: At what point do you define yourself as single? For me, it was equivalent to “not married.” If I had a boyfriend–I was single. If I lived with someone–still single, although a little more committed. Actually it never meant I wasn’t committed to the relationship. Just that the relationship was not “married.” ---
**Author:** ![drewtwo99](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/d07c76/32.png) [@drewtwo99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drewtwo99)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2013, 4:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/96 "2013-02-14T04:51:16Z")
For legal purposes I am single. For all other purposes I live with and am committed romantically to another person, aka taken. ---
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2013, 5:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/97 "2013-02-14T05:40:53Z")
> [@Hilarity\_N.Suze](#): > > I probably wondered this in 2005 and I wonder this now: At what point do you define yourself as single? > > For me, it was equivalent to “not married.” If I had a boyfriend–I was single. If I lived with someone–still single, although a little more committed. Actually it never meant I wasn’t committed to the relationship. Just that the relationship was not “married.” To me “in a relationship” means not single. To hell with what the IRS says. The thread is so old I went from married to single to in a relationship. Maybe when it comes around again I’ll be in a position to answer. ---
**Author:** ![CalMeacham](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/calmeacham/32/35_2.png) [@CalMeacham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CalMeacham)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2013, 1:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/98 "2013-02-14T13:03:48Z")
Is it significant that this thread was resurrected the day before Valentinre’s Day? You want Zombie Sex/ Go see _Warm Bodies_ ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2013, 3:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/99 "2013-02-14T15:29:19Z")
I find it facinating that my recommendation for getting a Jersey Shore house for regular hookup booty sex predates the TV show by 4 years. ---
**Author:** ![hotflungwok](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/edb3f5/32.png) [@hotflungwok](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hotflungwok)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2013, 3:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350/100 "2013-02-14T15:50:55Z")
No woman has looked at me twice in more than 10 years. I’ve never had the chance to celebrate Valentine’s Day. I’ve had relationships, but none of them lasted long enough to include this holiday. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-single-people-get-laid/309350.md?page=6)