# How often do you...ya'know? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 18, 2009, 12:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-yaknow/489821 "2009-03-18T00:58:47Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![gurujulp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/ba9def/32.png) [@gurujulp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gurujulp)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2009, 5:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-yaknow/489821/21 "2009-03-18T17:42:40Z")
Currently not so much- last time was about eight months ago- no SO- but when it happens, intercourse tends to happen multiple times (at least two) per encounter, but the sessions are usually hours, as I really like to make the focus her body, and where making out/foreplay crosses the line into some form of direct sexual act is sometimes difficult to discern when you are really into it. I would rather spend two hours making out/intercourse for however many times- or none, than just go straight to the act… One of the reasons I will often skip the opportunity, as it just isn’t worth it unless there is time to do it right. ---
**Author:** ![Cervaise](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cervaise/32/16693_2.png) [@Cervaise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cervaise)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2009, 6:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-yaknow/489821/22 "2009-03-18T18:10:14Z")
3-5 times a week. Typical pattern is 2-3 over the weekend and then once or twice during the week. It would be more but our schedules are fairly chaotic. On a recent vacation in Mexico, for example, it was usually twice a day. I am very fortunate, and not a little amazed, to have found someone who’s even hornier than I am. > [@davekhps](#): > > Yet another reason to hate biology. The GF can have a week’s worth of orgasms in one sitting, grrr. Only a week? 😛 (Another fortunate aspect of this relationship. She isn’t satisfied until she’s come so many times she forgets her own name, and I’m happy to oblige.) ---
**Author:** ![Hampshire](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hampshire/32/4887_2.png) [@Hampshire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hampshire)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2009, 6:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-yaknow/489821/23 "2009-03-18T18:15:57Z")
I’m in the same boat as [these guys](http://www.aphroditewomenshealth.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=52464&page=1). It sucks really bad. ---
**Author:** ![TheFaerie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c57346/32.png) [@TheFaerie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TheFaerie)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2009, 6:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-yaknow/489821/24 "2009-03-18T18:16:11Z")
> [@ScareyFaerie](#): > > Once or twice a month, if I’m lucky. Me too. me, 42, him, 55, been together 8 years, married 2 years. ---
**Author:** ![Misnomer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/misnomer/32/14897_2.png) [@Misnomer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Misnomer)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2009, 6:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-yaknow/489821/25 "2009-03-18T18:28:09Z")
It ranges from twice a week to once a month. We have different sleep schedules during the week, but we go out each Friday and Saturday night and usually do it when we get home (though sometimes one of us is too drunk/tired). We had kind of a dry spell at the start of the year, though, and were only managing it once a month or so. But a few weeks ago I talked to him about it and we agreed that it had to change. I’ve always had a higher sex drive than him, and I wish he were willing to do it during the week and/or other than at bedtime (I plan to work on that with him sometime), but the minimum acceptable frequency for me is once a week. I’m 37, he’s 35, we’ve been together for a little over 2 years and have been living together for 10 months. [QUOTE=Telperien] my boyfriend [/QUOTE] {hijack} Congrats! 🙂 {/hijack} ---
**Author:** ![I\_Am\_The\_Lorax](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/e19adc/32.png) [@I\_Am\_The\_Lorax](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/I_Am_The_Lorax)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2009, 9:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-yaknow/489821/26 "2009-03-18T21:03:17Z")
Between 2 and 4 times a week. Mid-twenties, married 6 years, together nine. ---
**Author:** ![Atomic\_Mama](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b5ac83/32.png) [@Atomic\_Mama](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Atomic_Mama)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2009, 9:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-yaknow/489821/27 "2009-03-18T21:54:39Z")
The SO and I have been going together for about a year and a half. We. Never. Have. Mitigating circumstances: Age (59 and 66); he has a ferocious condition called Ankyzing Spondosis (something like that) which produces bone spurs ALL OVER THE PLACE … he is unable to turn his head more than 10 degrees right or left, and his back and legs are almost frozen. He’s not in a chair - yet. That being said, the man is an absolute angel. He treats me better than gold (platinum!) and constantly, deliberately spoils me rotten. He’s always been “there” for me, waaaaaaaay above and beyond. I never knew there were men like him; I formerly only attracted cheaters, liars, and lowlifes. What he sees in me, I’ll never know. ---
**Author:** ![Unsquare\_Dance](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/b3f665/32.png) [@Unsquare\_Dance](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Unsquare_Dance)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2009, 10:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-yaknow/489821/28 "2009-03-18T22:43:33Z")
Once a month, or once every other month. I’m 23, he’s 25, been together for two years. He has very little interest in it, and I’ve come to have little interest in it now. It used to really bother me. ---
**Author:** ![Rigamarole](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/77aa72/32.png) [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2009, 10:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-yaknow/489821/29 "2009-03-18T22:49:30Z")
I only see my girlfriend 2 days a week, but when I see her it’s 2-4 times per day. So that’s 4-8 times per week. ---
**Author:** ![kenner116](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/ecb155/32.png) [@kenner116](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kenner116)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2009, 10:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-yaknow/489821/30 "2009-03-18T22:55:30Z")
When I can afford it. ---
**Author:** ![Contrapuntal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e274bd/32.png) [@Contrapuntal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Contrapuntal)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2009, 11:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-yaknow/489821/31 "2009-03-18T23:04:26Z")
> [@Superfreaknduper](#): > > Feel free to comment on the past… So you’re not talking about \*future \*sex, then? ---
**Author:** ![Smeghead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f1d935/32.png) [@Smeghead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Smeghead)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2009, 11:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-yaknow/489821/32 "2009-03-18T23:31:30Z")
We’re trying to get pregnant. It’s a daily chore. ---
**Author:** ![LouisB](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@LouisB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LouisB)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2009, 12:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-yaknow/489821/33 "2009-03-19T00:59:16Z")
I’m 68, Marcie is a few years younger. We each have some health issues and a combination of those issues and the side effects of a couple of medicines have put us on hold for at least the past year. So, our average is currently zero. But sparks flew in the past and, hopefully, will again. In the meantime, thanks for the memories. ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2009, 1:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-yaknow/489821/34 "2009-03-19T01:03:46Z")
Thanks, **Misnomer.** ---
**Author:** ![madmonk28](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/madmonk28/32/20811_2.png) [@madmonk28](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/madmonk28)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2009, 4:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-yaknow/489821/35 "2009-03-19T04:29:41Z")
> [@Smeghead](#): > > We’re trying to get pregnant. It’s a daily chore. Been there, nothing like making sex something that has to be planned out and done on certain dates to keep the spark alive, eh? ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2009, 6:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-yaknow/489821/36 "2009-03-19T06:27:48Z")
Once or twice a day if my partner’s in town; only once a day if he’s not. I’m 63, he’s 43. ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2009, 1:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-yaknow/489821/37 "2009-03-19T13:36:58Z")
> [@Smeghead](#): > > We’re trying to get pregnant. It’s a daily chore. IANAD and all that, but when we were trying, we were told not to do it every day, but every other or every 3rd day. Gotta give the suckers time to multiply sufficiently so there are plenty of swimmers per load. Might make it seem like less of a chore. Although I know what you mean. We have just as much sex now as we did then, but there’s something about knowing that you have to do it that somehow makes you want it less, and it therefore becomes like having to pay bills every other day, or something. ETA: > [@panache45](#): > > Once or twice a day if my partner’s in town; **only once a day if he’s not**. This cracked me up, by the way. ---
**Author:** ![czarcaztic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ec9cab/32.png) [@czarcaztic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/czarcaztic)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2009, 2:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-yaknow/489821/38 "2009-03-19T14:10:26Z")
Relationship Married 32 years Ages Me - 57 Mrs. C - 55 We average about twice a week, I would guesstimate. ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2009, 3:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-yaknow/489821/39 "2009-03-19T15:59:19Z")
It used to be pretty consistant but it’s sort of tapered off to the point where I think I’m probably either going to end the relationship, or start having affairs on the side. ---
**Author:** ![Mojo\_Pin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/6a8cbe/32.png) [@Mojo\_Pin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mojo_Pin)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2009, 4:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-yaknow/489821/40 "2009-03-19T16:14:52Z")
Not even once yet (I’ve got time…) turning 18 in 5 days. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-yaknow/489821.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-often-do-you-yaknow/489821.md?page=3)