# How old is too old to still be a virgin **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 5, 2010, 12:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-old-is-too-old-to-still-be-a-virgin/549208 "2010-08-05T00:48:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 15\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2010, 5:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-old-is-too-old-to-still-be-a-virgin/549208/101 "2010-08-06T17:27:39Z")
> [@Baron\_Skinley\_Von\_Clipper](#): > > > [@Robot\_Arm](#): > > > > How on earth did you find this out? > > He told me, he is not at all bothered about it and is happy to admit it. It came up in conversation, or he just announced it out of the blue? ---
**Author:** ![Thudlow\_Boink](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thudlow_boink/32/320_2.png) [@Thudlow\_Boink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thudlow_Boink)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2010, 5:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-old-is-too-old-to-still-be-a-virgin/549208/102 "2010-08-06T17:30:20Z")
> [@msmith537](#): > > > [@Tom\_Scud](#): > > > > Learning to use the phrase “begs the question” properly, evidently. > > It’s perfectly acceptable and common usage to use the term “begs the question” as a synonym for “to raise the question”. Your sad attempt to grammarsmith ads nothing to the dicussion and only makes you look like a pedantic jerk. The phrase “begs the question” used to have (and still does, among people who know it!) a very specific and totally different meaning. Then people who were ignorant of what the phrase actually means started using to mean something completely different. If this different meaning is now “perfectly acceptable and common,” it still makes me wince and :smack: whenever I see it—and if that makes me a pedantic jerk, so be it. ---
**Author:** ![6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/6/e19adc/32.png) [@6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2010, 5:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-old-is-too-old-to-still-be-a-virgin/549208/103 "2010-08-06T17:41:59Z")
I say “Fuck the virgin thing - I always thought it was _beggars_ the question…! Help me please, someone!” ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2010, 6:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-old-is-too-old-to-still-be-a-virgin/549208/104 "2010-08-06T18:36:06Z")
> [@6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast](#): > > I say "Fuck the virgin thing Yeah, but. . . ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2010, 6:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-old-is-too-old-to-still-be-a-virgin/549208/105 "2010-08-06T18:39:47Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > > [@6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast](#): > > > > I say "Fuck the virgin thing > > Yeah, but. . . Yes, sort of defeats the purpose, doesn’t it? ---
**Author:** ![alexandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e68b1a/32.png) [@alexandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alexandra)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2010, 9:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-old-is-too-old-to-still-be-a-virgin/549208/106 "2010-08-07T21:47:07Z")
Wow, you guys are harsh…I’d say 20 is fine, 25 is worrying. It’s fairly easy to see how someone could go through their teens without finding the right person who wanted to do it to them, too. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2010, 10:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-old-is-too-old-to-still-be-a-virgin/549208/107 "2010-08-07T22:11:59Z")
> [@Cyberhwk](#): > > I’ve never heard of a single case where having sex has helped someone achieve their hopes and dreams or what they wanted in life. That’s because sex is part of the hope and dream that’s being chased. ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2010, 11:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-old-is-too-old-to-still-be-a-virgin/549208/108 "2010-08-07T23:57:18Z")
I honestly think it’s wrong to be seeking to have sex, rather than a relationship. Ordinarily, I wouldn’t say anything about it, but seeing as half my friends (some of them female) are freaks for wanting to wait until marriage, I really see no reason not to judge you back. ---
**Author:** ![wipetheclock](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/b19c9b/32.png) [@wipetheclock](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wipetheclock)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2010, 1:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-old-is-too-old-to-still-be-a-virgin/549208/109 "2010-08-08T01:28:46Z")
> [@BigT](#): > > I honestly think it’s wrong to be seeking to have sex, rather than a relationship. > > Ordinarily, I wouldn’t say anything about it, but seeing as half my friends (some of them female) are freaks for wanting to wait until marriage, I really see no reason not to judge you back. What? ---
**Author:** ![Baron\_Skinley\_Von\_Clipper](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7c8e57/32.png) [@Baron\_Skinley\_Von\_Clipper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baron_Skinley_Von_Clipper)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2010, 2:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-old-is-too-old-to-still-be-a-virgin/549208/110 "2010-08-08T02:07:02Z")
> [@Robot\_Arm](#): > > > [@Baron\_Skinley\_Von\_Clipper](#): > > > > He told me, he is not at all bothered about it and is happy to admit it. > > It came up in conversation, or he just announced it out of the blue? What do you think? Do you think that he broke the deathly silence of our workplace by standing up and announcing that he was (is) a virgin, with no reason to do so? Or do you think that a bunch of guys were chatting about sex and stuff and he dropped it into the conversation. BTW, the guy didn’t even know what ‘virgin’ meant at the time, he just told us that he has never had a girlfriend or been intimate with a woman. ---
**Author:** ![Cyberhwk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7993a0/32.png) [@Cyberhwk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyberhwk)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2010, 4:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-old-is-too-old-to-still-be-a-virgin/549208/111 "2010-08-08T04:10:19Z")
> [@Little\_Bird](#): > > Really? Because I think at some point in their life most people, myself included, hope and dream of becoming parents. Which usually involves sex. Also, pair bonding and cementing long-term relationships usually involve sex too. Most folks also hope and dream about that too. Well, fair point, but the point is that it would be something you do within an already functional relationship (however serious that may be). If you decide to have kids that’s great. Deciding to have kids because you think it’ll make an unsatisfying relationship more of what you want it to be? Disaster. > [@AClockworkMelon](#): > > That’s because sex is part of the hope and dream that’s being chased. I’ll hope that was a bit tongue in, AHEM, cheek. If someone considers getting laid a LIFE GOAL, that’s pretty pathetic. Sure, falling in love, finding a life partner. Fantastic. Merely getting your dick wet a life accomplishment…not so much. ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2010, 4:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-old-is-too-old-to-still-be-a-virgin/549208/112 "2010-08-08T04:33:24Z")
> [@Baron\_Skinley\_Von\_Clipper](#): > > What do you think? Do you think that he broke the deathly silence of our workplace by standing up and announcing that he was (is) a virgin, with no reason to do so? > > Or do you think that a bunch of guys were chatting about sex and stuff and he dropped it into the conversation. To be honest, either one of those sounds pretty darn awkward. > [@Cyberhwk](#): > > I’ll hope that was a bit tongue in, AHEM, cheek. If someone considers getting laid a LIFE GOAL, that’s pretty pathetic. Sure, falling in love, finding a life partner. Fantastic. Merely getting your dick wet a life accomplishment…not so much. It’s easy to say something is no big deal if you’ve already done it. ---
**Author:** ![Cyberhwk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7993a0/32.png) [@Cyberhwk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyberhwk)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2010, 4:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-old-is-too-old-to-still-be-a-virgin/549208/113 "2010-08-08T04:56:38Z")
> [@Robot\_Arm](#): > > It’s easy to say something is no big deal if you’ve already done it. Dude, I had enough angst over being single for everyone in this thread. I didn’t get any until I was 22 and I’ve done it ONCE since I was 23 (currently 27). It’s dandy getting the monkey off your back (and I’m not saying I’d turn it down to visit the dentist or anything), but if someone thinks it’s going to be a life changing experience they’re likely to be woefully disappointed. ---
**Author:** ![Bosstone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/22d042/32.png) [@Bosstone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosstone)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2010, 5:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-old-is-too-old-to-still-be-a-virgin/549208/114 "2010-08-08T05:32:55Z")
Well, it apparently turns you from someone who probably has worrying deep-seated issues into a healthy human being. I’d say that’s life-changing. ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2010, 5:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-old-is-too-old-to-still-be-a-virgin/549208/115 "2010-08-08T05:37:24Z")
> [@Cyberhwk](#): > > Dude, I had enough angst over being single for everyone in this thread. I beg to differ. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-old-is-too-old-to-still-be-a-virgin/549208.md?page=5)