# How safe was your first sex? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 11, 2012, 4:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-safe-was-your-first-sex/637390 "2012-10-11T04:31:40Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 17\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![si\_blakely](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d9b06d/32.png) [@si\_blakely](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/si_blakely)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2012, 9:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-safe-was-your-first-sex/637390/61 "2012-10-11T21:36:41Z")
> [@Lynn\_Bodoni](#): > > I’ve told this story before, but I’ll drag it out again. When my daughter was in her young teens, and starting to look at boys, I knew the signs. So, she got innoculated against Hep B? I think it’s Hep B. It’s a vaccine that’s recommended for those who aren’t sexually active yet. > [@Malacandra](#): > > Human Papilloma Virus, I’d be guessing - aimed at reducing the likelihood of cervical cancer, not liver infection. :dubious: Well, in some parts of the world the Hep B vaccine might be just as important (it can be transmitted sexually), but I suspect that Lynn does means HPV. However, for my first time, my fiance did have to get a Hep B vaccination before our wedding (my fault, I was a carrier). She was on the pill as well, so I didn’t need to use a condom. We had discussed sexual histories and felt pretty safe in other respects. Si ---
**Author:** ![KarlGrenze](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/dbc845/32.png) [@KarlGrenze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KarlGrenze)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2012, 9:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-safe-was-your-first-sex/637390/62 "2012-10-11T21:56:42Z")
IIRC, **Lynn** ’s daughter is old enough that when she (daughter) was a teen, the HPV vaccine had not been out yet, but the Hep B was. Hepatitis B can be sexually transmitted, and then later transmitted from mother to child during birth, so that was probably the vaccine Lynn was mentioning. [More information on Hepatitis B from the CDC](http://www.cdc.gov/std/treatment/2006/hepatitis-b.htm) ---
**Author:** ![jz78817](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jz78817/32/1028_2.png) [@jz78817](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jz78817)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2012, 11:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-safe-was-your-first-sex/637390/63 "2012-10-11T23:10:04Z")
when it happens, I’ll report back. maybe. ---
**Author:** ![Typo\_Negative](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/typo_negative/32/484_2.png) [@Typo\_Negative](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Negative)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2012, 12:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-safe-was-your-first-sex/637390/64 "2012-10-12T00:54:11Z")
No condom, 1983. I had a few drinks and it pulverized the decision-making portion of my brain. ---
**Author:** ![Arrendajo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e0b2c6/32.png) [@Arrendajo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arrendajo)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2012, 2:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-safe-was-your-first-sex/637390/65 "2012-10-12T02:02:51Z")
We took all the precautions you would expect a couple of 16 year olds in the back seat of a '68 Mercury station wagon to take. ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2012, 2:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-safe-was-your-first-sex/637390/66 "2012-10-12T02:08:47Z")
Have we ever, EVER had a poll so evenly split on this board? ---
**Author:** ![River\_Hippie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/river_hippie/32/26_2.png) [@River\_Hippie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/River_Hippie)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2012, 2:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-safe-was-your-first-sex/637390/67 "2012-10-12T02:09:10Z")
No condom. She told me she was on the pill, that was enough for 18 year old me. That was before AIDS/HIV. We later added spermicide foam because we really didn’t want a pregnancy. ---
**Author:** ![johnpost](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f17d59/32.png) [@johnpost](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/johnpost)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2012, 2:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-safe-was-your-first-sex/637390/68 "2012-10-12T02:09:37Z")
> [@Arrendajo](#): > > We took all the precautions you would expect a couple of 16 year olds in the back seat of a '68 Mercury station wagon to take. lock the doors so they don’t pop open when you catch your foot in the door handle. ---
**Author:** ![Invisible\_Chimp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/f05b48/32.png) [@Invisible\_Chimp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Invisible_Chimp)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2012, 2:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-safe-was-your-first-sex/637390/69 "2012-10-12T02:20:50Z")
The clothes were already off when we discovered neither of us had come prepared. Everything came to an abrupt stop. We laid there for about a half hour before we got dressed, went to the store, and bought protection. Then things resumed as before. ---
**Author:** ![Happy\_Lendervedder](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/happy_lendervedder/32/8488_2.png) [@Happy\_Lendervedder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Happy_Lendervedder)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2012, 5:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-safe-was-your-first-sex/637390/70 "2012-10-12T05:21:50Z")
> [@WhyNot](#): > > Have we ever, EVER had a poll so evenly split on this board? It’s pretty amazing how split it is. I was sorta convinced it was going to lean heavier on the “unsafe” side. Right now it’s: 99 votes for "Yes, the penis was sporting rubber (48.77%) 104 votes for “No, the penis was as bare as the day is long” (51.23%) And that’s a lopsided as I’ve seen it so far. ---
**Author:** ![scootergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e99b99/32.png) [@scootergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scootergirl)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2012, 6:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-safe-was-your-first-sex/637390/71 "2012-10-12T06:35:30Z")
The year was 1977. I was 15 years old, not safe and damn lucky. ---
**Author:** ![prettydorky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f04885/32.png) [@prettydorky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/prettydorky)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2012, 7:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-safe-was-your-first-sex/637390/72 "2012-10-12T07:53:49Z")
We used a condom. I was 15. He was quite a bit older and it was not his first time, so he knew what to do even if I didn’t. Guy #2 was more interesting in that he had NO idea what he was doing WRT condoms. Those things would slip all over the place. But we were determined to figure it out! This was in the late 90s. ---
**Author:** ![ThisSpaceForRent](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thisspaceforrent/32/345_2.png) [@ThisSpaceForRent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ThisSpaceForRent)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2012, 7:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-safe-was-your-first-sex/637390/73 "2012-10-12T07:56:07Z")
> [@Little\_Nemo](#): > > Not safe at all. In my defense, it was the seventies. ditto ---
**Author:** ![Tim\_R.Mortiss](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tim_r.mortiss/32/142_2.png) [@Tim\_R.Mortiss](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tim_R.Mortiss)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2012, 2:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-safe-was-your-first-sex/637390/74 "2012-10-12T14:49:26Z")
Used a condom (late seventies, college), we made it part of the process and part of the fun. She was experienced, I wasn’t. Hell, I \*still \*use a condom, even when I jerk off. You can’t be too safe! ---
**Author:** ![FrancisCastle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/b4bc9f/32.png) [@FrancisCastle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FrancisCastle)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2012, 3:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-safe-was-your-first-sex/637390/75 "2012-10-12T15:54:03Z")
We started out with a condom, he said it fell off. I think he took it off. (He was waaaaaayyy more experienced than I was.) ---
**Author:** ![BwanaBob](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bwanabob/32/2985_2.png) [@BwanaBob](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BwanaBob)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2012, 3:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-safe-was-your-first-sex/637390/76 "2012-10-12T15:57:00Z")
It happened unexpectedly (alcohol involved) and no protection was available at that hour. ---
**Author:** ![JRDelirious](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jrdelirious/32/9531_2.png) [@JRDelirious](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JRDelirious)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2012, 5:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-safe-was-your-first-sex/637390/77 "2012-10-12T17:41:46Z")
I wonder how the poll would fare if the definition of first-sex expanded to involve _any_ another-person’s-orifice-penetrating action (now, that there’s a way to describe the deed in a way that arouses not…). Because for some of us there was a nontrivial time of separation between one mode and another, and disease can be spread by alternate means, pregnancy is not the only hazard. By the strict definition stated in the OP (BTW, **Happy** , it’s “below the _waist_”, not “waste”), yes, protected. By a more liberal definition (nothwiststanding President Clinton), then: > [@BwanaBob](#): > > It happened unexpectedly (alcohol involved) and no protection was available at that hour. Let’s just say there was much sweat while waiting for tests for some time afterward… [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-safe-was-your-first-sex/637390.md?page=3)