Um…let’s not jump to conclusion over sexual gender differences :). I am a woman. I don’t get sick often either, I’ve had a full blown flu complete with every symptom including body fluids coming out of both ends only a couple of times. I admit that I didn’t feel very sexy or ready for sex. Come to think of it, why would your partner (or whoever) WANT to? I mean making love is a sensory experience in so many ways. Your sense of smell for instance, and even more fun your sense of TASTE When you’re sick (as in the flu) and you’ve been projectile vomiting and having explosive diarrhea you don’t smell, or taste very pleasant. With that said - a headache, stomach ache, slight cold, muscle aches, leg in a cast…etc…wouldn’t stop me. What could feel better than having an orgasm when the rest of you feels like crap? I can’t think of anything…can you?
The only thing that could keep me from masturbating would be a full body cast and being unable to reach. I probably would find a way though by having someone construct some make-shift tool with a long handle for me. OK…on that note…I’ll go do some chores now.
Yes! For me, I don’t so much fear that I’m going to drop a deuce on the sheets, as I don’t like being jostled that way when my stomach is rumbling. Kinda kills the mood.
Ah, a thread in which I can finally relate a story I’ve been carrying around in my head for a long time.
Soon after I took up with my last long-time girlfriend, she came down with a fever of some kind that pretty much knocked her over. I brought her over to my place for the weekend to take care of her, as she didn’t have anyone else in the area who could stay with her. Within an hour of arrival, she practically dragged me onto the sofa with her, then a couple hours later again, and on through the weekend. By Sunday afternoon I was a limp dishrag. She pretty much snapped out of it when the fever broke, and although we had a healthy relationship for years afterward, we never had such a sustained bout of non-stop fucking like that again. So, it appears that being in a state of near-delerium may actually increase one’s libido.
Me, like some others have posted, I think I’d have to be pretty much dead before I lost all interest.
There are a couple of reasons why I would be “out of it.” First of all, the first day or two of my period I have such incredibly painful cramping that there’s no way I’m getting it on with anyone. Last period, I was in so much pain, I couldn’t even stand up in the shower. My husband had to help me bathe because I was doubled on the floor in pain. Clearly not going to be giving it up being that I can’t even lay flat.
Secondly, if I’m so sick I’m sleeping all the time, it’s probably not going to happen. Yeah, I’m a fan of a nap here and there, but if I’m so sick that I can’t stay awake and spend the day sleeping, I’m probably too sick for sex.
Fever? No way. When I was a freshman in college, I came down with a fever of 100.4, and my boyfriend (at the time) came to cuddle with me in an attempt to make me feel better. I could not STAND it. I was so sensitive that the mere act of putting his arm around me caused physical discomfort. Eventually I had to tell him to get off the bed and leave me alone, because it just wasn’t happening.
And when I have stomach pain of any kind (vomiting, diarrhea), forget it. The only thing I will be able to concentrate on is the pain…and, of course, I don’t want to puke/shit the bed. I probably wouldn’t be able to do any kind of sexing right after the symptoms had gone away, either. The loss of fluids would make me too weak and sore to do anything physical.
You’d think that fucking during sickness would not be evolutionarily advantageous, if just because your partner could get your disease, too. Although I suppose it could also work the other way, in that when you’re ill your body’s thinking “OH GOD I’M GONNA DIE MUST PROCREATE NOW.”
I pulled some muscles in my back a month or so ago and was in extreme pain for about a week or so. Going to work was out of the question, couldn’t walk or sit. Spent a lot of time in bed. Whacking off periodically. So yeah, the worst pain I’ve ever experienced didn’t stop the urge.
Had similar results about six months ago when I had some kind of virus that made me sicker than I’ve ever been. Not enough to stop the urge.
Sex is great for clearing up colds. Flu, digestive upset, massive cramps (and the digestive upset that usually accompanies them)? Not a wonderful idea to have someone poking up in there, so close to the source of pain, discomfort (not to mention unwelcome smells and/or fluids). Hot!
I guess I am in the minority here. Female, VERY high libido, always have had, and if I am feeling bad enough to consider myself “sick” (fever, body aches, digestive upsets, etc…) I am just not interested.
I just prefer GOOD sex to ANY sex, and if I am not feeling well, it’s just not very good. For heaven’s sake, if I’m so stuffed up I can’t give a decent blow job or so nauseated that being bounced around makes me have to concentrate so I don’t hurl, SOOO not worth it, imo.
But I feel very differently when it comes to being tired…I can be bone-exhausted and still be up for sex…I find it invigorating, not tiring.
Not so for sickness…really doesn’t make me feel better and has never proven worth it in my experience.
As a microbiologist and epidemiologist, this thread is freaking me out. When someone has an infection, for heaven’s sakes don’t exchange body fluids with them! Really, does the worry about transmission not bother any of you or your partners? If I’m sick, my libido is put on hold if only because I don’t want my partner to get sick too.
Good point (I am one who stays home when I am ill instead of medicating my symptoms away to avoid infecting others AND to recover).
But isn’t it often the case that by the time you have symptoms (as with a cold or flu or chicken pox or measles, to name a few which come to mind) you have been contagious for a time already and (often) no longer are? Or at least not as highly infectious as you were prior to feeling ill?