# How to compliment an intelligent person on his/her looks?

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**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [November 3, 2010, 8:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-compliment-an-intelligent-person-on-his-her-looks/559312 "2010-11-03T08:16:25Z")\
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**Author:** ![rhubarbarin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/eb9ed0/32.png) [@rhubarbarin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rhubarbarin)\
**Post date:** [November 3, 2010, 2:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-compliment-an-intelligent-person-on-his-her-looks/559312/10 "2010-11-03T14:32:11Z")

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Speaking as a woman who is often considered both intelligent and attractive: compliments from strange men (or even men I know, if they aren’t really indirect) just make me wonder what they are trying to get out of me. I don’t need you to tell me how hot or smart I am, I know. It doesn’t boost my self-confidence to be told, I just question your motives.

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