# How to Date a White Woman: A Practical Guide for Asian Men **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [July 27, 2006, 3:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-date-a-white-woman-a-practical-guide-for-asian-men/366275 "2006-07-27T15:58:53Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Grey\_area](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Grey\_area](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grey_area)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2006, 3:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-date-a-white-woman-a-practical-guide-for-asian-men/366275/1 "2006-07-27T15:58:53Z")
As an asian male, the existence of [this book](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0919637264/sr=8-1/qid=1154015722/ref=pd_bbs_1/104-2511192-9205556?ie=UTF8) makes me cry inside… ---
**Author:** ![Paul\_in\_Qatar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ccd318/32.png) [@Paul\_in\_Qatar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Paul_in_Qatar)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2006, 4:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-date-a-white-woman-a-practical-guide-for-asian-men/366275/2 "2006-07-27T16:24:24Z")
Worth clicking on the link just to see the cover! What do customers ultimately buy after viewing items like this? 36% buy Civilization IV Official Strategy Guide (Official Strategy Guides (Bradygames)) 29% buy The Mathematics of Poker 28% buy Pressure Poker: Poker Strategy and Tools to Improve Your Game This seems to explain a lot. Put down the video games and cards, go talk to a girl! ---
**Author:** ![tomndebb](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/b9e5f3/32.png) [@tomndebb](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tomndebb)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2006, 4:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-date-a-white-woman-a-practical-guide-for-asian-men/366275/3 "2006-07-27T16:26:21Z")
I dunno. I’m not sure why you, as an Asian male, should get special dispensation to avoid being the target of utterly stupid and demeaning advice. The self-help sections of the bookstores are certainly filled with condescending junk aimed at the rest of us. (Check the reviews–no one who was capable of writing a coherent sentence gave it a good review. Then check out the [inverse book](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0971580804/ref=pd_sim_b_2/103-0267709-2055071?ie=UTF8) and scroll down to the “Customers who bought this item also bought” section.) I suspect that the stereotype of the Asian guy pining/lusting after white women is bigger in the minds of white folks than Asians, anyway.) ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2006, 4:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-date-a-white-woman-a-practical-guide-for-asian-men/366275/4 "2006-07-27T16:30:50Z")
I was disgusted until I read tomndebb’s post. Now I’m just :D. He’s right, as usual. (Stop being reasonable all the time, wouldja?) ---
**Author:** ![yellowval](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/919ad9/32.png) [@yellowval](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/yellowval)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2006, 4:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-date-a-white-woman-a-practical-guide-for-asian-men/366275/5 "2006-07-27T16:34:00Z")
What I love is that they recommend buying it together with “The Complete Asshole’s Guide to Handling Chicks.” WTF? ---
**Author:** ![Hal\_Briston](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a9a28c/32.png) [@Hal\_Briston](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hal_Briston)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2006, 4:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-date-a-white-woman-a-practical-guide-for-asian-men/366275/6 "2006-07-27T16:35:09Z")
I like their two-fer special: “Buy this book with [The Complete A\*\*hole’s Guide to Handling Chicks](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0312310846/ref=pd_sim_b_1/103-2948277-8935060?ie=UTF8) by Dan Indante today! Buy Together Today: $28.23” Actually, this looks intriguing… > [@The Complete A\*\*hole's Guide to Handling Chicks](#): > > - How a five-dollar date can get you laid > - How to stop being friends with girls and start getting them in the sack > - Where you’ll have the best odds of finding a one-night stand, and how to get rid of the chick the next morning > - How to trick a woman into thinking you’re classy, even if you have holes in your underwear > - Why fat chicks always try to keep you from banging their hot friends, and how to finally stop these evil creatures > - How to stop your wife from nagging you into an early grave > - Why it’s possible to watch six hours of football, put the moves on your neighbor’s hot daughter, and leave the toilet seat up in the same day > - And much more Almost makes me wish I was an asshole. ---
**Author:** ![Grey\_area](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Grey\_area](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grey_area)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2006, 4:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-date-a-white-woman-a-practical-guide-for-asian-men/366275/7 "2006-07-27T16:38:54Z")
> [@tomndebb](#): > > Then check out the [inverse book](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0971580804/ref=pd_sim_b_2/103-0267709-2055071?ie=UTF8) Oh man, now those whiteboys are trying to take our women. Now I’m gonna have to go buy that book and steal your wimmens. 🆒 **Paul** , I noticed that too. It’s cuz I heard white chicks love nerdy gamblers. Thankfully I already have a SO, who’s half-black and half-white so I guess half the battle is won(?) ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2006, 4:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-date-a-white-woman-a-practical-guide-for-asian-men/366275/8 "2006-07-27T16:42:23Z")
I just love this review: > [@](#): > > 20 of 118 people found the following review helpful: > Anything but prodigious, September 22, 2004 > Reviewer: Crazy Ed (Cupertino, CA United States) - See all my reviews > I personally found the book lacking, in what I like to call “chutzpah”. I gave this book to a friend who needed some help and the “step-by-step guide” provided in this tome is anything but. In many cases he found the steps to be nebulous, ambagious, and even geared towards the derelict reader. The book, as a whole, was definitely not multifarious. I would not extol this literary work. Glad to know Crazy Ed is making good use of that thesaurus he bought on Amazon… :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Onomatopoeia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/onomatopoeia/32/4145_2.png) [@Onomatopoeia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Onomatopoeia)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2006, 4:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-date-a-white-woman-a-practical-guide-for-asian-men/366275/9 "2006-07-27T16:51:09Z")
> [@r4nd0mNumb3rs](#): > > As an asian male, the existence of [this book](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0919637264/sr=8-1/qid=1154015722/ref=pd_bbs_1/104-2511192-9205556?ie=UTF8) makes me cry inside… I can’t believe this is something Asian guys would actually concern themselves with. I’m saddened that to “date a White woman” is something to which a man of any race would aspire. Eeesh! This smacks of all kinds of psychological and emotional issues. ---
**Author:** ![Cliffy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/59ef9b/32.png) [@Cliffy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cliffy)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2006, 4:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-date-a-white-woman-a-practical-guide-for-asian-men/366275/10 "2006-07-27T16:53:29Z")
Oh, I don’t know. I admit that I’m overgeneralizing broadly, but lots of Asian dudes grow up in homes where their parents inculcate them with one message about the relative wealth of men and women, but they then have trouble dealing with American society, where the sexes are thought of more equitably – except in romantic relationships, where women are generally assumed to have the upper hand. American men generally might benefit from a romance instruction manual with the message “Dude, she’s not going to treat you like mommy does,” Asian-American men even more so. –Cliffy ---
**Author:** ![iamthewalrus\_3](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/258eb7/32.png) [@iamthewalrus\_3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iamthewalrus_3)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2006, 5:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-date-a-white-woman-a-practical-guide-for-asian-men/366275/11 "2006-07-27T17:22:02Z")
> [@WhyNot](#): > > I just love this review: > Glad to know Crazy Ed is making good use of that thesaurus he bought on Amazon… :rolleyes: Oh my god! I’m having trouble breathing here. ---
**Author:** ![audiobottle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/bc8723/32.png) [@audiobottle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/audiobottle)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2006, 5:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-date-a-white-woman-a-practical-guide-for-asian-men/366275/12 "2006-07-27T17:31:07Z")
Thank you for this! It’s like the Holy Grail for Asian men (like me!). I can’t wait to get out there and pick up some of these “white women” you speak of! But first I must study math and work really hard so I can buy more dry cleaner stores. Sweet! ---
**Author:** ![Velma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/85e7bf/32.png) [@Velma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Velma)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2006, 5:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-date-a-white-woman-a-practical-guide-for-asian-men/366275/13 "2006-07-27T17:52:08Z")
I prefer “How to Pick Up Japanese Chicks and Doom Your Immortal Soul”. ---
**Author:** ![D\_Odds](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/d_odds/32/2882_2.png) [@D\_Odds](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/D_Odds)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2006, 6:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-date-a-white-woman-a-practical-guide-for-asian-men/366275/14 "2006-07-27T18:12:10Z")
> [@Velma](#): > > I prefer “How to Pick Up Japanese Chicks and Doom Your Immortal Soul”. So, where can I find this book? I’ve a few ‘prospects’ I can try my lessons on. ---
**Author:** ![Sean\_Factotum](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/50afbb/32.png) [@Sean\_Factotum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sean_Factotum)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2006, 6:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-date-a-white-woman-a-practical-guide-for-asian-men/366275/15 "2006-07-27T18:16:54Z")
> [@D\_Odds](#): > > So, where can I find this book? I’ve a few ‘prospects’ I can try my lessons on. [Right here.](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1420820451/ref=pd_sim_b_1/103-3262890-1144620?ie=UTF8) ---
**Author:** ![JThunder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e95f7d/32.png) [@JThunder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JThunder)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2006, 6:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-date-a-white-woman-a-practical-guide-for-asian-men/366275/16 "2006-07-27T18:23:56Z")
> [@Onomatopoeia](#): > > I can’t believe this is something Asian guys would actually concern themselves with. I’m saddened that to “date a White woman” is something to which a man of any race would aspire. To some, perhaps that is something to which they aspire. For many others though, it’s simply a matter of having more dating options. Like it or not, the dating pool for Asian men tends to be more limited than for other races. (Yeah, yeah, I know. Some dopers deny that Asian men have a tougher time than whites, black or Latinos. Personally though, I think this is fairly self-evident.) I’ve read that WM-AF pairings are about seven times more common than AM-WF couples. With their options being much more restricted, why wouldn’t Asian men hope to date white women? ---
**Author:** ![Paul\_in\_Qatar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ccd318/32.png) [@Paul\_in\_Qatar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Paul_in_Qatar)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2006, 6:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-date-a-white-woman-a-practical-guide-for-asian-men/366275/17 "2006-07-27T18:24:05Z")
If I were Asian, I would by this book just to leave it on my desk at work. ---
**Author:** ![D\_Odds](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/d_odds/32/2882_2.png) [@D\_Odds](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/D_Odds)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2006, 6:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-date-a-white-woman-a-practical-guide-for-asian-men/366275/18 "2006-07-27T18:26:05Z")
> [@Sean Factotum](#): > > [Right here.](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1420820451/ref=pd_sim_b_1/103-3262890-1144620?ie=UTF8) False advertising! I was expecting a “How-to”. Actually, this I might buy and read. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2006, 6:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-date-a-white-woman-a-practical-guide-for-asian-men/366275/19 "2006-07-27T18:38:45Z")
::clicks link & reads:: And you guys wonder I plot to conquer the Earth. ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2006, 7:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-date-a-white-woman-a-practical-guide-for-asian-men/366275/20 "2006-07-27T19:36:37Z")
> [@JThunder](#): > > For many others though, it’s simply a matter of having more dating options. Like it or not, the dating pool for Asian men tends to be more limited than for other races. (Yeah, yeah, I know. Some dopers deny that Asian men have a tougher time than whites, black or Latinos. Personally though, I think this is fairly self-evident.) Seriously? I’ve never heard this or noticed this. Mind you, I’m not an Asian man. Humm, I wonder if the Chinese guy I used to date read that book…maybe I should call and ask him. Imagine how THAT conversation would go… [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-date-a-white-woman-a-practical-guide-for-asian-men/366275.md?page=2)