# How to make a girl feel unwanted **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [August 14, 2003, 4:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-make-a-girl-feel-unwanted/195168 "2003-08-14T16:05:42Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![garius](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e19b73/32.png) [@garius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/garius)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2003, 4:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-make-a-girl-feel-unwanted/195168/1 "2003-08-14T16:05:42Z")
**Garigirl** _(Walking in from work)_: Here - have this - it’s one of those sci-fi things so you’ll probably like it. **Chucks a DVD on Garius’ lap** **Garius** _(Looking up from his Laptop)_: What’s thi…HOLY CRAP! Where did you get this?! Its not due out for another 2 weeks! **Garigirl** : One of the product suppliers gave it to me today. He was trying to chat me up. **Garius** : Fantastic! **Garigirl** : Are you listening to me? He tried to chat me up! **Garius** : This is wicked - look its got the extras disc and everything! **Garigirl** : Hellooooooo. Someone tried to chat up your girlfriend?! Are you listening?! **Garius** : I’m going to put this on! Hmmm I wonder if i can wire the sound through your stereo… **Garigirl** : Can you hear me?! A.N.O.T.H.E.R. M.A.N. T.R.I.E.D. T.O. … **sigh** Why do i bother. I’m going to go cry myself to sleep - have fun. **Garius** : …hey wow your stereo has four speaker output! wicked! I think I left a box of cables here a while back - maybe i can rig up the speakers from upstairs too! Okay it wouldn’t be surround sound but it’d still rule! What do you think honey? Honey? Where are you?! ---
**Author:** ![Snooooopy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ee7513/32.png) [@Snooooopy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snooooopy)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2003, 4:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-make-a-girl-feel-unwanted/195168/2 "2003-08-14T16:11:28Z")
You could have said, “Gee, honey, I am too secure in our relationship to worry about guys hitting on you and/or too interested in this DVD to be listening to what you’re saying right now (circle one).” ---
**Author:** ![Steve\_Wright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/848f3c/32.png) [@Steve\_Wright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Steve_Wright)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2003, 4:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-make-a-girl-feel-unwanted/195168/3 "2003-08-14T16:18:53Z")
What’s the DVD? And what are the extras like? ---
**Author:** ![garius](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e19b73/32.png) [@garius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/garius)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2003, 4:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-make-a-girl-feel-unwanted/195168/4 "2003-08-14T16:26:26Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Steve Wright \* > \*\*What’s the DVD? And what are the extras like? \*\* Clue: > [@](#): > > I bring word from Lord Elrond of Rivendell. > > An Alliance once existed between Elves and Men. Long ago we fought and died together. > > We come to honor that allegiance. I feel my reaction was justified. :eek: ---
**Author:** ![World\_Eater](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f04885/32.png) [@World\_Eater](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/World_Eater)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2003, 4:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-make-a-girl-feel-unwanted/195168/5 "2003-08-14T16:28:18Z")
That sounds like a good way to make her feel unwanted. I hope you don’t act like that consistently. ---
**Author:** ![Little\_Nemo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/little_nemo/32/3120_2.png) [@Little\_Nemo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Nemo)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2003, 4:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-make-a-girl-feel-unwanted/195168/6 "2003-08-14T16:30:13Z")
Memorize the following. Use as applicable: “Dearest beloved, I’ve had to become used to the idea that other men will flirt with you. I realize it’s inevitable because you are such a desirable and attractive woman. Naturally, I am insanely jealous every time it happens and I want to thrash these cads to within an inch of their lifes. But I know that jealousy is an ugly emotion and you of course are totally innocent of encouraging them, so I hide it away. It’s a burden I willingly bear because of the love I feel for you.” ---
**Author:** ![London\_Calling](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/49beb7/32.png) [@London\_Calling](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/London_Calling)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2003, 4:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-make-a-girl-feel-unwanted/195168/7 "2003-08-14T16:30:24Z")
I stayed with a girlfriend _once_ for a couple of weeks _[sub]never again[/sub]_ and that was getting on for 20 years ago. I’m not saying it was traumatic because Matron says up I can go home soon if if I keep this up! ---
**Author:** ![Ferret\_Herder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/e47774/32.png) [@Ferret\_Herder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ferret_Herder)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2003, 4:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-make-a-girl-feel-unwanted/195168/8 "2003-08-14T16:38:41Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by World Eater \* > I hope you don’t act like that consistently. Well of course he wouldn’t. _The Two Towers_ doesn’t come out every day, you know. ---
**Author:** ![ivylass](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/9de053/32.png) [@ivylass](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ivylass)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2003, 4:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-make-a-girl-feel-unwanted/195168/9 "2003-08-14T16:42:45Z")
Well, **garius** speaking as a woman, I would say your reaction is justified. It’s The Two Towers, people! Focus! (Shall I bring the popcorn or the chips?) ---
**Author:** ![World\_Eater](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f04885/32.png) [@World\_Eater](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/World_Eater)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2003, 4:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-make-a-girl-feel-unwanted/195168/10 "2003-08-14T16:51:17Z")
I just hope he isn’t watching the third one by himself. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Fuji\_Kitakyusho](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/f0a364/32.png) [@Fuji\_Kitakyusho](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fuji_Kitakyusho)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2003, 4:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-make-a-girl-feel-unwanted/195168/11 "2003-08-14T16:59:14Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Little Nemo \* > \*\*Memorize the following. Use as applicable: > > “Dearest beloved, I’ve had to become used to the idea that other men will flirt with you. I realize it’s inevitable because you are such a desirable and attractive woman. Naturally, I am insanely jealous every time it happens and I want to thrash these cads to within an inch of their lifes. But I know that jealousy is an ugly emotion and you of course are totally innocent of encouraging them, so I hide it away. It’s a burden I willingly bear because of the love I feel for you.” \*\* Dude - can I keep you on retainer?.. -Fuji ---
**Author:** ![interface2x](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/c0e974/32.png) [@interface2x](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/interface2x)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2003, 5:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-make-a-girl-feel-unwanted/195168/12 "2003-08-14T17:11:15Z")
Yeah, a simple “Honey, if I got pissed every time a guy tried or wanted to hit on you, I’d be mad all the time. I’m just happy you’re with me.” oughta do it. Or you can go the more poetic route, like **Little Nemo** does. ---
**Author:** ![zoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zoid/32/336_2.png) [@zoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zoid)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2003, 5:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-make-a-girl-feel-unwanted/195168/13 "2003-08-14T17:52:07Z")
The proper response: He HIT ON YOU?! That ASSHOLE! Let’s get him back by putting on the DVD he gave you in a childish attempt to steal you away form me, and then have sex the whole time it’s on! (it’s worth a shot anyway) ---
**Author:** ![Malthus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/85f322/32.png) [@Malthus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malthus)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2003, 5:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-make-a-girl-feel-unwanted/195168/14 "2003-08-14T17:53:52Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by World Eater \* > \*\*I just hope he isn’t watching the third one by himself. > > 😃 \*\* _Snurk_ This made me laugh! 😃 😃 😃 ---
**Author:** ![zoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zoid/32/336_2.png) [@zoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zoid)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2003, 5:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-make-a-girl-feel-unwanted/195168/15 "2003-08-14T17:54:23Z")
Then if she objects say: But then the next time you see him you can say… “I loved the DVD you gave me! Me and my boyfreind fucked through the whole thing!” ---
**Author:** ![Neurotik](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/91b2a8/32.png) [@Neurotik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Neurotik)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2003, 5:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-make-a-girl-feel-unwanted/195168/16 "2003-08-14T17:58:22Z")
She’s trying to make him jealous and he’s the bad guy? Good for you, **garius**. Not giving in to the evil gender’s subtle manipulations is the best thing you can do. Vive le resistance!! ---
**Author:** ![teela\_brown](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/d9b06d/32.png) [@teela\_brown](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/teela_brown)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2003, 5:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-make-a-girl-feel-unwanted/195168/17 "2003-08-14T17:59:47Z")
A true geek can never be distracted. **Garius** , would you do a thread in Cafe Society (with spoiler warnings, of course), and tell us about the ROTK preview from that DVD? ::jealous:: ---
**Author:** ![rinni](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/f6c823/32.png) [@rinni](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rinni)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2003, 6:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-make-a-girl-feel-unwanted/195168/18 "2003-08-14T18:01:53Z")
Yeah, I don’t blame you for your reaction. I got goosebumps in real life when I read what DVD it was. 😃 But am I the only one who thinks it’s weird that she called it sci-fi? 😉 ---
**Author:** ![iampunha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/74df32/32.png) [@iampunha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iampunha)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2003, 6:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-make-a-girl-feel-unwanted/195168/19 "2003-08-14T18:03:02Z")
You know, I think if I brought that home and told **fizzy** that the entire sales staff of whatever store alternately tried to feel me up, suck my dick and disrobe me for the purpose of covering me in oil and feeding me grapes and chocolates… I’d have to wait until the end of the two-disc set if I wanted her to pay attention. Because she’d be so utterly enraptured by the thing that she wouldn’t pay me any attention longer than it’d take to snatch the thing from my hands. ---
**Author:** ![whiterabbit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/cab0a1/32.png) [@whiterabbit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/whiterabbit)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2003, 6:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-make-a-girl-feel-unwanted/195168/20 "2003-08-14T18:18:12Z")
Good Lord! You have THAT DVD? I HATE YOU!!! Your girlfriend is nuts. Your reaction was entirely justified. And I’m definitely female. Oh my oh my, I am SO jealous! [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-make-a-girl-feel-unwanted/195168.md?page=2)