# How to properly "bare" one's breasts. **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 4, 2011, 4:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-properly-bare-ones-breasts/591429 "2011-08-04T04:35:39Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![CanvasShoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/74df32/32.png) [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 4:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-properly-bare-ones-breasts/591429/1 "2011-08-04T04:35:39Z")
Okay, I always see these women with low (or lowER) cut dresses and shirts and they look fine. But if even the slightest tippy top of my cleavage shows I feel completely exposed. How do you ladies who wear low cut tops do it? Is there a trick to it? ---
**Author:** ![YaraMateo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/58f4c7/32.png) [@YaraMateo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/YaraMateo)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 4:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-properly-bare-ones-breasts/591429/2 "2011-08-04T04:43:20Z")
Good bra. (Well for me) Just be confident. I wear low and V neck shirts a lot, because I don’t like shirts with collars or high necks, ---
**Author:** ![Rhiannon8404](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rhiannon8404/32/17929_2.png) [@Rhiannon8404](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rhiannon8404)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 4:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-properly-bare-ones-breasts/591429/3 "2011-08-04T04:51:44Z")
Yep, good bra that you won’t pop out of and a well fitting shirt/blouse/dress. That doesn’t mean too tight, but one that fits correctly. And of course, confidence. It’s not sexy to look uncomfortable in your clothes. ---
**Author:** ![ladyfoxfyre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ad7895/32.png) [@ladyfoxfyre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ladyfoxfyre)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 4:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-properly-bare-ones-breasts/591429/4 "2011-08-04T04:58:30Z")
Try looking at yourself straight on at a mirror, rather than determining whether your shirt is too low cut just by looking down. It always looks more revealing from your perspective. ---
**Author:** ![HazelNutCoffee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ac91a4/32.png) [@HazelNutCoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HazelNutCoffee)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 5:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-properly-bare-ones-breasts/591429/5 "2011-08-04T05:04:00Z")
I do think confidence is the key. You can tell when girls FEEL under-dressed because they keep glancing down at their own cleavage or tugging at their skirt hemline. That just calls attention to yourself. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/9fc348/32.png) [@The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Flying_Dutchman)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 5:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-properly-bare-ones-breasts/591429/6 "2011-08-04T05:13:08Z")
> [@Rhiannon8404](#): > > Yep, good bra that you won’t pop out of and a well fitting shirt/blouse/dress. That doesn’t mean too tight, but one that fits correctly. And a bra that allows the nipple bump to show. ---
**Author:** ![rhubarbarin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/eb9ed0/32.png) [@rhubarbarin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rhubarbarin)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 5:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-properly-bare-ones-breasts/591429/7 "2011-08-04T05:38:02Z")
> [@CanvasShoes](#): > > Okay, I always see these women with low (or lowER) cut dresses and shirts and they look fine. But if even the slightest tippy top of my cleavage shows I feel completely exposed. > > How do you ladies who wear low cut tops do it? Is there a trick to it? It is indeed mostly about confidence. I don’t think twice about wearing low cut tops because my breasts are small. No one seems to notice them either way, and I don’t worry about who might be noticing. If your boobs are bigger it can be a different story. It’s fine if you don’t like showing more of your chest, or if the attention you get when you do makes you uncomfortable. I know women who always wear high necked shirts and some that practically have their boobs out on a platter 24/7. I don’t have much of an opinion either way. Obviously the 2nd extreme is more overly sexual and grabs a lot of attention. The middle ground, depending on the occasion, makes the most sense to me. Cleavage can be perfectly tasteful and modest by almost anyone’s standards. One thing that is helpful in creating confidence is testing out shirts before you wear them in public. First, do look in the mirror. Picture your outfit on someone else. Lean over in front of the mirror to see if there is too much gaping. Hold your hand mirror over your head at the level of a 6’2" guy to make sure tall people can’t see half your bra. Etc. Once a shirt has been vetted you know you won’t be surprised. ---
**Author:** ![gaffa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e68b1a/32.png) [@gaffa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gaffa)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 5:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-properly-bare-ones-breasts/591429/8 "2011-08-04T05:49:25Z")
I thought it was all about double-faced tape. Or is that just for beauty pageant contestants? ---
**Author:** ![Arrendajo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e0b2c6/32.png) [@Arrendajo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arrendajo)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 6:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-properly-bare-ones-breasts/591429/9 "2011-08-04T06:57:01Z")
How can we possibly discuss this intelligently without pics? ---
**Author:** ![Yorikke](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/yorikke/32/4335_2.png) [@Yorikke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yorikke)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 7:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-properly-bare-ones-breasts/591429/10 "2011-08-04T07:34:44Z")
Not a woman. But trust that your tits will stay in. After all, how often do you accidentally see someone’s nipple? The clothing designers must know something… Joe ---
**Author:** ![scootergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e99b99/32.png) [@scootergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scootergirl)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 7:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-properly-bare-ones-breasts/591429/11 "2011-08-04T07:42:28Z")
A little cleavage is sexy, playful and intriguing. Too much…eek. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 2:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-properly-bare-ones-breasts/591429/12 "2011-08-04T14:59:15Z")
> [@rhubarbarin](#): > > I know women who always wear high necked shirts and some that practically have their boobs out on a platter 24/7. I don’t have much of an opinion either way. Obviously the 2nd extreme is more overly sexual and grabs a lot of attention. The middle ground, depending on the occasion, makes the most sense to me. Cleavage can be perfectly tasteful and modest by almost anyone’s standards. Maybe it’s just in my head, but I feel like a straight-up hussy when I show any kind of cleavage at all. I’ve got large breasts and I think they’re obvious enough as it is - wearing low-cut tops just seems gratuitous. ---
**Author:** ![DianaG](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7ab992/32.png) [@DianaG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DianaG)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 3:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-properly-bare-ones-breasts/591429/13 "2011-08-04T15:04:21Z")
I trot the girls out at every opportunity, myself. They’re pretty. And I don’t have any problem at all being a straight-up hussy. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 3:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-properly-bare-ones-breasts/591429/14 "2011-08-04T15:08:50Z")
> [@DianaG](#): > > I trot the girls out at every opportunity, myself. They’re pretty. And I don’t have any problem at all being a straight-up hussy. 🙂 Actually this thread has inspired me to wear something low-cut today. Corrupters, the lot of you! ---
**Author:** ![miss\_elizabeth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/838e76/32.png) [@miss\_elizabeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/miss_elizabeth)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 4:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-properly-bare-ones-breasts/591429/15 "2011-08-04T16:04:39Z")
I was very small chested (and a late bloomer to boot!) until I had my kids. Then my breasts got a good bit larger, and I love it. I think having to wait made me appreciate it more. I often show a fair amount of cleavage. Hey, it looks good! I never thought about it being difficult. I do suppose confidence is the key. For me it’s just fun, and I enjoy it, and I guess that’s why it doesn’t worry me. ---
**Author:** ![Disheavel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e274bd/32.png) [@Disheavel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Disheavel)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 4:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-properly-bare-ones-breasts/591429/16 "2011-08-04T16:05:17Z")
> [@wheresgeorge04](#): > > Not a woman. But trust that your tits will stay in. After all, how often do you accidentally see someone’s nipple? The clothing designers must know something… I totally agree, the only time I’ve ever see a nipple slip, I was looking AND hoping so there was no accident involved. With regard to feeling like leaning forward will expose too much, the only thing that would be expose is your bra. Everything will fall downward and into the bra- I can honestly say that I have never seen a nipple in such a situation. ---
**Author:** ![Snickers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/5daacb/32.png) [@Snickers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snickers)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 4:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-properly-bare-ones-breasts/591429/17 "2011-08-04T16:33:31Z")
> [@olivesmarch4th](#): > > Actually this thread has inspired me to wear something low-cut today. Corrupters, the lot of you! Careful - it’s a slippery slope! My size hasn’t changed much in the last few years (I fluctuate between 15ish pounds or so, like everyone), and now wear tops that would have earlier me blushing and being that uncomfortable gal that feels underdressed. But I don’t care for shirts with collars, so I naturally trend to scoops and v-necks anyway. Once you start down this path, forever will it dominate your destiny! ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 4:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-properly-bare-ones-breasts/591429/18 "2011-08-04T16:42:46Z")
I third (fourth?) wear a good, properly fitting bra, and you’ll be fine. With that in mind, if you’re busty I wouldn’t rack the girls out at the office. The office is for work, not for boobs. ---
**Author:** ![purplehorseshoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/purplehorseshoe/32/2996_2.png) [@purplehorseshoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehorseshoe)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 7:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-properly-bare-ones-breasts/591429/19 "2011-08-04T19:12:08Z")
Walk around naked more. (At home, I guess - I’m not allowed to encourage you to break any laws!) Then whatever clothes you’re wearing will feel more covering. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Lukeinva](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lukeinva/32/17872_2.png) [@Lukeinva](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lukeinva)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 7:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-properly-bare-ones-breasts/591429/20 "2011-08-04T19:22:38Z")
Pictures would be very helpful. For us men of the male gender to get a clearer perspective. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-properly-bare-ones-breasts/591429.md?page=2)