Something to think about is that no matter what you want to buy or how you want to spend your money, there is probably a cheaper way to do it.
Want to go to the movies? Go to the second-run theater for a matinee and bring your own snacks (or don’t eat snacks). Total cost, a few dollars instead of the $30 you can spend for two people at the first-run theater on a Saturday night including popcorn and drinks.
Want to read books? Use your local library. The interlibrary loan system is likely to be able to get you anything you ever want to read.
Turn your heat down by a degree. Turn it way down at night, when your’e snuggled under blankets. Get a programmable thermostat (it’ll pay for itself fairly quickly) and use it.
If you have cable, consider canceling it. If you don’t want to cancel it, call up the cable company and threaten to cancel and see if they can get you a better deal on what you’re currently getting. Or downgrade your package. Same goes for your cell phone plan.
Don’t buy clothes. Your clothes are fine.
Essentially, you can analyze every single area where you spend money, and you can lessen or eliminate those costs for almost everything. Obviously you can’t do this for set costs like loan payments or whatever, and sometimes you just can’t shave anything more off a utility bill. But in general, you can make reductions all over the place. My weakness is buying coffee at coffee shops. So I bought myself a nice $10 travel mug and the expensive flavored creamer, to encourage myself to make coffee at home instead. Even buying the expensive flavored creamer, I save at least $15 weekly in coffee expenses by doing this. (I have a major coffee problem. Don’t judge.) Or if I do find myself at the coffee shop, I order regular coffee instead of an expensive latte. Yeah, it would be even cheaper to not buy the coffee at all, but my point is, you can reduce costs even where you don’t eliminate them entirely.
Also, don’t shop. If you go to a store you’ll buy something. So don’t go to a store. Don’t go to an online retail site. Someone posts a link online to cool new shoes they bought. Don’t click that link. You’re not going to buy those shoes or any other shoes so why go to the site? Only go to a store or shop when you specifically know what you’re going to buy there. Buy that thing. Then leave. Browsing shops, stores, and retail sites will be your downfall as an excessive spender. (Been there.)