# How to see someone without getting in trouble..? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [October 12, 2000, 1:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-see-someone-without-getting-in-trouble/36622 "2000-10-12T01:36:43Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![little\_Missy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c68b51/32.png) [@little\_Missy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/little_Missy)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2000, 1:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-see-someone-without-getting-in-trouble/36622/1 "2000-10-12T01:36:43Z")
There’s a friend I haven’t seen for approximatly 5 years. We weren’t great friends, we worked together and ran into each other only once a few years back. We always got along great. For some reason I’ve been thinking about him and how he’s doing now a lot lately. I’m not quite sure but I have an idea of where his house is. I don’t want to just go and knock on the door for different reasons. One reason being it may seem really strange since its been years and we never actually hung out with each other. Second, if I do stop by it’s possible he has a girlfriend or is even married by now and who knows if she’s a jealous person. That could cause not only me but it could cause him a lot of trouble if I popped over. I don’t want to make any trouble for him. Then again, he may not have anyone and I really would like to talk to him again. How should I go about this? I have no idea where he worls anymore and I have no idea where he hangs out making it seemingly impossible to “bump” into him somewhere. Any ideas? Thank You. little\_Missy ---
**Author:** ![LazarusLong42](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/87869e/32.png) [@LazarusLong42](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LazarusLong42)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2000, 3:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-see-someone-without-getting-in-trouble/36622/2 "2000-10-12T03:08:31Z")
If you know where he lives, and know his name, then his phone number should be readily available. I think calling him up and saying “Hi. Remember me?” would likely be the best approach. Either: 1. He’ll remember you, and will be willing to have lunch with you sometime to catch up; 2. He’ll remember you, and make some excuse (your clue that he’s involved with someone jealous, or isn’t all that interested; if you got along great, this shouldn’t happen); or 3) He won’t remember you. In which case, no loss, though you may well bewilder him 🙂 LL ---
**Author:** ![cheezit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c57346/32.png) [@cheezit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cheezit)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2000, 3:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-see-someone-without-getting-in-trouble/36622/3 "2000-10-12T03:11:37Z")
Well, assuming he has a phone and it is not unlisted, you could get his number and call him. If you do and a woman answers, just say “sorry, wrong number” and hang up. By the way, Welcome to the boards. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Stranger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a5b964/32.png) [@The\_Stranger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Stranger)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2000, 4:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-see-someone-without-getting-in-trouble/36622/4 "2000-10-12T04:09:19Z")
Hang on a second. I agree with trying to call, LL makes perfect sense. But if you don’t want him to get in trouble with a jealous GF, do not just say “wrong number” and hang up. Suspicious or jealous people fixate on exactly that kind of thing. ---
**Author:** ![WillyK](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/47e85d/32.png) [@WillyK](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WillyK)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2000, 4:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-see-someone-without-getting-in-trouble/36622/5 "2000-10-12T04:18:29Z")
Little Missy, please leave me alone. Do I have to remind you about the restraining order? Yes, I have seen you lurking in front of my place and I mean it, I’ll call the cops just like last time. ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2000, 2:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-see-someone-without-getting-in-trouble/36622/6 "2000-10-12T14:49:29Z")
Why should it matter if he has a girlfriend or a wife to you missy? What’s going on? ---
**Author:** ![manhattan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/manhattan/32/7_2.png) [@manhattan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/manhattan)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2000, 3:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-see-someone-without-getting-in-trouble/36622/7 "2000-10-12T15:06:18Z")
That’s my question, **handy**. I’m going to move this thread over to MPSIMS. ---
**Author:** ![little\_Missy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c68b51/32.png) [@little\_Missy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/little_Missy)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2000, 11:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-to-see-someone-without-getting-in-trouble/36622/8 "2000-10-12T23:39:39Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by handy \* > \*\* > Why should it matter if he has a girlfriend or a wife to you missy? What’s going on? \*\* Sorry, I guess I posted on the wrong MB to start with. Okay, there’s nothing going on, I just want to talk to him again. I just know its not always good to be talking to another girls boyfriend. Not everyone is like that which is good, but do you realize how many people get extremely upset by that? It’s nuts. You just don’t know what other people are like and all I’m saying is if he has a gilfriend, I don’t know if she’s ok with him having female friends or if she gets real angry about it. You just never know. But I guess if shes that type of person, he just has to deal with it right? I hate causing problems for people though. Don’t you ever wonder how old friends are doing? Maybe I’ll just have to take that chance. Thanks for the advice everyone. Your right, maybe I should just try to give him a call. Missy