# How would you handle getting a suggestive text accidentally? Need answer fast! **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 21, 2009, 1:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-would-you-handle-getting-a-suggestive-text-accidentally-need-answer-fast/518358 "2009-11-21T01:03:27Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![nivlac](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/3bc359/32.png) [@nivlac](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nivlac)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2009, 5:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-would-you-handle-getting-a-suggestive-text-accidentally-need-answer-fast/518358/21 "2009-11-21T05:05:58Z")
Nah, just pretend it never happened. Unless she ever brings it up, forget about it. Now it you get a third text by accident … ---
**Author:** ![Isamu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/7c8e57/32.png) [@Isamu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isamu)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2009, 5:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-would-you-handle-getting-a-suggestive-text-accidentally-need-answer-fast/518358/22 "2009-11-21T05:14:24Z")
“Damn, is it casual Friday again. I always forget!” ---
**Author:** ![ToeJam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/dfb087/32.png) [@ToeJam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ToeJam)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2009, 7:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-would-you-handle-getting-a-suggestive-text-accidentally-need-answer-fast/518358/23 "2009-11-21T07:19:44Z")
Actually yeah, I’m a fan of Salem’s idea as well. so change my answer to “NP and add a nice throwaway joke” ---
**Author:** ![SanVito](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sanvito/32/2805_2.png) [@SanVito](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SanVito)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2009, 10:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-would-you-handle-getting-a-suggestive-text-accidentally-need-answer-fast/518358/24 "2009-11-21T10:06:20Z")
I wouldn’t ignore her text, she’s already mortified and is now probably worried that you really do think she fancies you, or are offended. A ‘no problem plus joke’ is by far the best way to go - that way, she’ll know not to worry about it anymore. And it’s not nearly as bad as when my brother started dating a girl with the same name as my sister. Now those really aren’t the sort of texts you should EVER get from your sibling… ---
**Author:** ![Asimovian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asimovian/32/172_2.png) [@Asimovian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asimovian)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2009, 3:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-would-you-handle-getting-a-suggestive-text-accidentally-need-answer-fast/518358/25 "2009-11-21T15:18:59Z")
More out of being distracted by other things than by intent, I ended up not responding at all last night. I may send a throwaway response today. ---
**Author:** ![Tristan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tristan/32/18058_2.png) [@Tristan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tristan)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2009, 4:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-would-you-handle-getting-a-suggestive-text-accidentally-need-answer-fast/518358/26 "2009-11-21T16:28:30Z")
> [@Simplicio](#): > > Eh, she said the two names were next to each other in her phone, and the first text just sounds like it was non-suggestive. Accident hardly seems impossible. > > But we’ll need more info to be sure. Upload the picture to flicker and post a link, and we’ll give you some more guidance. +1 (I hate to do that, but it seemed appropriate this time…) ---
**Author:** ![Runs\_With\_Scissors](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/278dde/32.png) [@Runs\_With\_Scissors](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Runs_With_Scissors)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2009, 3:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-would-you-handle-getting-a-suggestive-text-accidentally-need-answer-fast/518358/27 "2009-11-22T03:50:40Z")
> [@ToeJam](#): > > If it were me, I’d just text back “np” That implies that it could have been a problem, which is the deepest offense you can say to some people. You should text back “My pleasure.” [http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=539773](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=539773) ---
**Author:** ![Chronos](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chronos/32/134_2.png) [@Chronos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chronos)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2009, 4:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-would-you-handle-getting-a-suggestive-text-accidentally-need-answer-fast/518358/28 "2009-11-22T04:02:52Z")
Personally, I’d probably go with something like “No problem. By the way, nice legs.”. Then again, I’m probably not the best person to take advice from when it comes to dealing with the opposite sex… ---
**Author:** ![Chris\_Luongo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7cd45c/32.png) [@Chris\_Luongo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chris_Luongo)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 6:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-would-you-handle-getting-a-suggestive-text-accidentally-need-answer-fast/518358/29 "2009-11-23T18:28:47Z")
You didn’t mention if you’re at all romantically/sexually interested in this friend of yours, or if you think there’s a chance she might be interested in you. (I also don’t know your gender or sexual orientation.) I wouldn’t get your hopes up too high, but there’s always the possibility that this wasn’t an accident…you never know. If you’re not interested in her: As others have said, I would accept the apology, say you deleted the photo, and not make a big deal about it. I also agree with SanVito that no response whatsoever is likely to make her nervous. If you are interested in her: Something along the lines of “No problem, I didn’t mind at all!” Or, if you’re on the bold side: “No problem, can’t wait to see the next one!” You never know. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 8:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-would-you-handle-getting-a-suggestive-text-accidentally-need-answer-fast/518358/30 "2009-11-23T20:01:08Z")
I would be _humiliated_. I recommend acting how you would normally if you were in a similar situation. If IRL you tend to joke, then make a throwaway joke. Myself, I would say something like “No problem - don’t worry about it”. And then never, ever mention it again. Ever. Not even then. ---
**Author:** ![Boyo\_Jim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/87869e/32.png) [@Boyo\_Jim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boyo_Jim)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 8:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-would-you-handle-getting-a-suggestive-text-accidentally-need-answer-fast/518358/31 "2009-11-23T20:41:27Z")
Send her a link to the nude pics of Levi Johnston and ask if she likes your new photo layout. ---
**Author:** ![gigi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a587f6/32.png) [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 8:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-would-you-handle-getting-a-suggestive-text-accidentally-need-answer-fast/518358/32 "2009-11-23T20:46:25Z")
> [@Weedy](#): > > I would text back ‘haha, nw’ or just ‘nw’. Nice wagina? ---
**Author:** ![Asimovian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asimovian/32/172_2.png) [@Asimovian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asimovian)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 9:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-would-you-handle-getting-a-suggestive-text-accidentally-need-answer-fast/518358/33 "2009-11-23T21:07:06Z")
> [@Chris\_Luongo](#): > > You didn’t mention if you’re at all romantically/sexually interested in this friend of yours, or if you think there’s a chance she might be interested in you. (I also don’t know your gender or sexual orientation.) I’m a straight male; she’s a straight female (to the best of my knowledge). While I think she’s somewhat attractive, I don’t have any real interest in her. And I wouldn’t think she has any in me that way, either. So, I haven’t said anything at all, and now we’re on Monday. Is it too late to respond with a “No worries”? Best to let it go at this point? ---
**Author:** ![Elysian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/c77e96/32.png) [@Elysian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elysian)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 9:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-would-you-handle-getting-a-suggestive-text-accidentally-need-answer-fast/518358/34 "2009-11-23T21:08:17Z")
No worries. Oh, and if this was accidentally sent to me by a friend, I would probably rib them a little, because I probably couldn’t help myself. ---
**Author:** ![Oredigger77](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/oredigger77/32/3181_2.png) [@Oredigger77](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oredigger77)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 9:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-would-you-handle-getting-a-suggestive-text-accidentally-need-answer-fast/518358/35 "2009-11-23T21:55:54Z")
At this point it’s probably best to let it drop. A friend of mine switched jobs and work and the guy whose cell phone he got didn’t tell all of his girls friends that his number had changed. We would spend days messing with them when with got pictures like you got. Personally I think screwing with her is the best response but the time frame for that has lapsed so now it would look like you spent the weekend thinking of her. Unless you’re good friends and then I’d blow the picture up and have it decorated on to a cake and give it to her as a birthday present when no one was around. ---
**Author:** ![pbbth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f9ae1b/32.png) [@pbbth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pbbth)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 10:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-would-you-handle-getting-a-suggestive-text-accidentally-need-answer-fast/518358/36 "2009-11-23T22:10:20Z")
At this point let it drop. However, now you need to take a photo of yourself making an [“oops face”](http://cache4.asset-cache.net/xc/82248153.jpg?v=1&c=NewsMaker&k=2&d=3FC630D86541EFCB9270ABF8C65EE16EE30A760B0D811297) and the next time she sends you something like this send back your “oops face” image with a text that says, “DANGER! Accidental sexy texts can lead to embarrassment!” or something like that. ---
**Author:** ![11811](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/1/9d8465/32.png) [@11811](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/11811)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2009, 11:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-would-you-handle-getting-a-suggestive-text-accidentally-need-answer-fast/518358/37 "2009-11-23T23:57:20Z")
> [@Asimovian](#): > > Heh. > > I then immediately get a second text with this deep apology, and a promise to change her other friend’s name in her phone. And I’m just trying to figure out how to respond. Do I text her back laughing it off, or sincerely accepting her apology? Or is it less embarrasing for her if I don’t respond at all? > > What would you do? Tell her, “Don’t worry, I realized it was for the other Asimovian, so I forwarded it to him.”🙂 ---
**Author:** ![lezlers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/258eb7/32.png) [@lezlers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lezlers)\ **Post date:** [November 24, 2009, 12:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-would-you-handle-getting-a-suggestive-text-accidentally-need-answer-fast/518358/38 "2009-11-24T00:45:14Z")
I don’t really buy the accident thing. I’ve accidentally sent texts to the wrong person before (and I am a texting junkie), but if I sent a _sexy_ text to the wrong person? The utter and complete mortification would probably prevent me from sending anything like that again for quite some time, even to the intended recipient. I just couldn’t imagine doing it _again_ to the same person. At the very least, I would be hyper vigilant about double and triple checking before hitting that “send” key. Methinks she likey you. ---
**Author:** ![Rigamarole](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/77aa72/32.png) [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)\ **Post date:** [November 24, 2009, 6:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-would-you-handle-getting-a-suggestive-text-accidentally-need-answer-fast/518358/39 "2009-11-24T06:32:48Z")
Text back “Thx”. ---
**Author:** ![Tim\_T-Bonham.net](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/46a35a/32.png) [@Tim\_T-Bonham.net](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tim_T-Bonham.net)\ **Post date:** [November 24, 2009, 8:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-would-you-handle-getting-a-suggestive-text-accidentally-need-answer-fast/518358/40 "2009-11-24T08:46:29Z")
> [@lezlers](#): > > but if I sent a _sexy_ text to the wrong person? The utter and complete mortification would probably prevent me from sending anything like that again for quite some time, even to the intended recipient. I was once working at a large grocery wholesaler with about a third of a million employees, probably about a third of them on the company email system (back then). A female employee sent a rather sexy message to her husband, who was also an employee at the company. His name in her directory was _Al_, but she accidentally typed it with an extra ‘l’, giving _All_. Yes, she sent that sexy message to about 100,000 company employees, from the CEO on down, scattered over about 35 states. She became a rather well-known employee for a while there. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-would-you-handle-getting-a-suggestive-text-accidentally-need-answer-fast/518358.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/how-would-you-handle-getting-a-suggestive-text-accidentally-need-answer-fast/518358.md?page=3)