# Howard Stern's ex remarried already!? **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Created:** [November 29, 2001, 4:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/howard-sterns-ex-remarried-already/95943 "2001-11-29T16:38:53Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 4\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![pesch](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pesch/32/4925_2.png) [@pesch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pesch)\ **Post date:** [December 2, 2001, 10:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/howard-sterns-ex-remarried-already/95943/41 "2001-12-02T22:00:20Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by OpalCat \* > \*\* > > > [@](#): > > > > \*Originally posted by justinh \* > > \*\* and why would someone (besides a stripper or retard) go on his show? \*\* > > Nice how you group those together. :rolleyes: > > \*\* Why wouldn’t he? The one time I saw his TV show (early November), that’s exactly what he had on. A stripper was given a lie-detector test that included questions about sniffing farts and anal and lesbian sex. Another woman “auditioned” for a role in a softcore movie. Then there was an appearance by what I think was a black dwarf, painted green and wearing a diaper who appeared retarded. ---
**Author:** ![TeaElle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/8491ac/32.png) [@TeaElle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TeaElle)\ **Post date:** [December 2, 2001, 10:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/howard-sterns-ex-remarried-already/95943/42 "2001-12-02T22:02:21Z")
Oops, should’ve checked the preview for that bold tag. Sorry. Also, I caught this typo: > [@](#): > > And you discount emotional abuse, or neglect, which are just as damaging and detrimental and physical abuse. That “and physical abuse” should obviously be “AS physical abuse.” ---
**Author:** ![TeaElle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/8491ac/32.png) [@TeaElle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TeaElle)\ **Post date:** [December 2, 2001, 10:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/howard-sterns-ex-remarried-already/95943/43 "2001-12-02T22:03:37Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by The Controvert \* > \*\* > > > [@](#): > > > > why does he bring his REAL LIFE into his act? > > I think he married the wrong person, if his wife can’t handle being a semi-celebrity. Although I have never heard that this was a problem. They were married long before Howard was a celebrity. There is no evidence that the attention that he’s received – and that was cast upon Allison as well – was something that she wanted but it certainly was out of her control. There are instances in which one party in a relationship isn’t happy with the ramifications that their partner’s career is having on their lives, but in order to be supportive, they don’t complain, hoping that things will change, or that they’ll grow desensitized to the problem. When it finally grows to become unbearable and they have to complain for their own sanity, the partner views it as an illogical betrayal. “What do you mean this bothers you? For all these years you’ve been fine with it! I don’t want to hear all this complaining!” Am I the only one who can imagine this scenario occurring in the Stern marriage? > [@](#): > > The reason I put some blame on Allison is because she appears to be the root cause. At least to me. Howard didn’t want to get divorced, Allison did. As one poster put it, Howard’s life was great, why would he want a divorce? Howard’s life was great – Allison’s clearly wasn’t or she wouldn’t have left him. If her life wasn’t happy because of problems with Howard, then they both bore the responsibility to work out those problems to their mutual satisfaction. It would seem that they were unable to do that. > [@](#): > > All the reasons so far (Howard talks about their personal life, Howard farts at home, Howard is a “scumbag”, Howard does not spend “enough” time with her, Allison has to raise 3 children “on her own”) are not serious enough that it couldn’t be worked out. Allison has a small army of domestic servants to help her raise the children. Allison is not the first person who ever had to raise children or deal with a busy husband. Servants don’t raise children. Servants can make sure that they have clean clothes and food, and even help with homework. But that isn’t raising children, that’s caring for them, which is different. The raising of children is the responsibility of the parents, plural, and that means that both of them need to input time, energy and emotional effort – a parent who, by his own admission, spends time locked away from his family trying to “unwind” on his own is **not** being a good parent. He is not raising his children. Similarly, he is not putting forth the effort required to be a good spouse, which also demands work and time. He is not fulfilling his responsibilities to his spouse or the kids – and if the cause of it is the stresses of his job, then the spouse and kids have every right to suggest (and I’d go so far as to say _demand_) that he attempt to reduce his work-caused stresses so that he was better able to cope, and therefore spend more time being actively involved with his family. > [@](#): > > Ok, on to the serious reasons. Standard of living is clearly not a problem. Howard never cheated on Allison. Sure, he might have ogled some nekkid strippers, but he never had an affair. As Howard put it, as soon as he cheats it would be all over the media. Howard did not physically abuse Allison. If he did, Allison is outspoken enough that she would have reported it. And some women might feel betrayed by a husband who spends hours in the presence of other women who are pruriently naked. And you discount emotional abuse, or neglect, which are just as damaging and detrimental and physical abuse. > [@](#): > > So, what does the wife do if she wants out and can’t find a legitimate reason? Finding the most important thing in your husband’s life and demanding that he give it up seems to work. If work, and the baggage that it carries, is a detriment to the marriage, then it is as legitimate an impediment to the continuation of that marriage as any other fundamental problem. The simple fact is this – the Stern marriage was broken and they could not fix it. It happens to millions of couples every year, the only difference is that most couples, even celebrity couples, don’t have one partner who will gladly use this personal tragedy as fodder for his “entertainment” schtick, and will present the story in a method clearly designed to enhance sympathy toward himself. What we’ve heard is not the truth of the matter, and any report that we hear will not be the truth of the matter, regardless of the source. None of us were in the marriage, none of us had to put up with what Allison did, or what Howard did. Speculating on the reasons why is useless. She’s moved on, he’s moved on, so should we. ---
**Author:** ![labdude](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/5fc32e/32.png) [@labdude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/labdude)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2001, 1:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/howard-sterns-ex-remarried-already/95943/44 "2001-12-03T01:33:03Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by The Controvert \* > \*\*Also, I think one of the reasons divorces happen so frequently in the US is that there is very little down-side and quite a lot of financial up-side for women to leave a successful man if they are the slightest bit unhappy. \*\* I agree 100%. The woman gets all of husband #1’s money and all of husband #2’s money. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/howard-sterns-ex-remarried-already/95943.md?page=2)