# Hugs! Given and Received - No Questions Asked **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 10, 2012, 3:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hugs-given-and-received-no-questions-asked/618370 "2012-04-10T15:13:11Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 15\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Sodalite](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/34f0e0/32.png) [@Sodalite](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sodalite)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2012, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hugs-given-and-received-no-questions-asked/618370/41 "2012-04-13T01:24:42Z")
Stupid edit window. My main upset at the moment. Flower shop crap. I’m having impulse control issues (manic) and I bought some flowers I shouldn’t have. If I don’t get orders that use them up my boss will flip out on me when she gets back. Intense anxiety over her return. So, yeah. Edited for clarity of earlier post or something. ---
**Author:** ![madrabbitwoman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c37758/32.png) [@madrabbitwoman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/madrabbitwoman)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2012, 1:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hugs-given-and-received-no-questions-asked/618370/42 "2012-04-13T01:51:23Z")
> [@Sodalite](#): > > ((((((madrabbitwoman)))))) > > I’m so sorry this happened to you. I hope you can get all the help you need. The system can be a real mess. I’m somewhere approaching manic now. I’m crying and I’ve got that awful crawly feeling in my wrists and hands for the second time today. I’m at home so I can rub the backs of my hands together without anyone looking at me weird. It sort of cancels out the zappy/crawly feeling. Even I have to admit it looks crazy, though. I have a psychiatrist but no regular therapist anymore. Budget cuts mean the clinic in my county is understaffed. Group therapy is all they can offer and I’m too nervous. I’m going over everything I learned in CBT to try to keep it under control but it’s so hard when I’m under so much stress. {{{{{hugs to you}}}}}} this might be of some help YMMV: [moodgym - Interactive skills training for depression and anxiety](http://moodgym.anu.edu.au/welcome)[Updated program](http://ecouch.anu.edu.au/welcome) Both are DIY CBT ---
**Author:** ![maggenpye](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ecc23a/32.png) [@maggenpye](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/maggenpye)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2012, 7:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hugs-given-and-received-no-questions-asked/618370/43 "2012-04-18T07:44:01Z")
Well, the waiting is over for us. My uncle’s cancer has come back. Now we wait for more tests and a decreased set of options. Shit. And my kid’s away again (damn school holidays). How did it go MRW? ---
**Author:** ![madrabbitwoman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c37758/32.png) [@madrabbitwoman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/madrabbitwoman)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2012, 2:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hugs-given-and-received-no-questions-asked/618370/44 "2012-04-18T14:27:07Z")
The cops called around today. They spent a good hour trying to pressure me into pressing charges. Later a so called friend told me that by not pressing charges I would be responsible for any future assaults by him. Hug please I can’t take much more ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2012, 3:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hugs-given-and-received-no-questions-asked/618370/45 "2012-04-18T15:00:26Z")
{{{{{{ **madrabbitwoman** }}}}}}. Also, your friend is an idiot. If that guy assaults anybody else ever it is him who is responsible for it. {{{{{{ **maggenpye** }}}}}} Do we also give scritches and shoulder-rubs? I’ve been sitting too long in the same not-very-good position while doing intense work, ouchies. And I have one of those itches that you can reach but not at a really good angle: just under my right shoulderblade… ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2012, 3:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hugs-given-and-received-no-questions-asked/618370/46 "2012-04-18T15:06:07Z")
> [@Sodalite](#): > > I don’t know how to do my taxes because I’m filing for the first time this year. If you haven’t done them yet, call the nearest tax office. When I lived in Miami I filed my taxes with the help of people volunteering at IRS’s offices; in Spain I do them by bringing my information to an “IRS” employee who squares everything away in its little squares, tells me how much it will hurt or whether I’m getting a refund, and asks whether I want to split the pain / when can I expect the refund. Since I have nothing to hide, it works beautifully. All of them have always made sure I was claiming everything I could claim; the year I happened to be under the poverty level in the US, the gentleman helping me had literature on applying for food stamps and so forth (irrelevant at the time, since by the time I was filing I already had another job). ---
**Author:** ![Stauderhorse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce7236/32.png) [@Stauderhorse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stauderhorse)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2012, 5:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hugs-given-and-received-no-questions-asked/618370/47 "2012-04-18T17:58:49Z")
((Hugs everyone in thread)) I’m unemployed, steadily going more and more broke, and going out of my head with boredom. And I feel like I have no friend in this city. ---
**Author:** ![maggenpye](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ecc23a/32.png) [@maggenpye](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/maggenpye)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2012, 8:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hugs-given-and-received-no-questions-asked/618370/48 "2012-04-18T20:36:42Z")
> [@madrabbitwoman](#): > > The cops called around today. They spent a good hour trying to pressure me into pressing charges. > Later a so called friend told me that by not pressing charges I would be responsible for any future assaults by him. > Hug please > I can’t take much more I can understand the cops’ attitude, but it is your choice. Stick with what’s best for you. You are not responsible for the actions of others and it is not an act of friendship to add to your burdens. I was simply going to say I was speechless, but obviously I’m not. ---
**Author:** ![madrabbitwoman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c37758/32.png) [@madrabbitwoman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/madrabbitwoman)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2012, 10:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hugs-given-and-received-no-questions-asked/618370/49 "2012-04-18T22:29:42Z")
> [@Nava](#): > > {{{{{{ **madrabbitwoman** }}}}}}. Also, your friend is an idiot. If that guy assaults anybody else ever it is him who is responsible for it. > > {{{{{{ **maggenpye** }}}}}} > > Do we also give scritches and shoulder-rubs? I’ve been sitting too long in the same not-very-good position while doing intense work, ouchies. And I have one of those itches that you can reach but not at a really good angle: just under my right shoulderblade… Scritch. Scritch. S c r I t c h… ---
**Author:** ![Sodalite](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/34f0e0/32.png) [@Sodalite](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sodalite)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2012, 11:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hugs-given-and-received-no-questions-asked/618370/50 "2012-04-18T23:06:46Z")
> [@madrabbitwoman](#): > > {{{{{hugs to you}}}}}} this might be of some help YMMV: [moodgym - Interactive skills training for depression and anxiety](http://moodgym.anu.edu.au/welcome)[Updated program](http://ecouch.anu.edu.au/welcome) > Both are DIY CBT > [@Nava](#): > > If you haven’t done them yet, call the nearest tax office. When I lived in Miami I filed my taxes with the help of people volunteering at IRS’s offices; in Spain I do them by bringing my information to an “IRS” employee who squares everything away in its little squares, tells me how much it will hurt or whether I’m getting a refund, and asks whether I want to split the pain / when can I expect the refund. Since I have nothing to hide, it works beautifully. All of them have always made sure I was claiming everything I could claim; the year I happened to be under the poverty level in the US, the gentleman helping me had literature on applying for food stamps and so forth (irrelevant at the time, since by the time I was filing I already had another job). Thank you both for the good advice. I really appreciate any help I can get. I’ve got a slightly better handle on things now. ---
**Author:** ![salinqmind](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3ec8ea/32.png) [@salinqmind](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/salinqmind)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2012, 12:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hugs-given-and-received-no-questions-asked/618370/51 "2012-04-19T00:05:02Z")
> [@purplehorseshoe](#): > > It’s a bit like initiating a kiss. Tilt your head, smile a little, get an expectant look on your face … and hold your arms out a little. And say (very quietly) ‘hug? hug?’ …Like Dr. Evil, asking his son for a hug, in Austin Powers! _I_ wanted to give him a hug when he did that! ---
**Author:** ![PandaBear77](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/edb3f5/32.png) [@PandaBear77](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PandaBear77)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2012, 12:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hugs-given-and-received-no-questions-asked/618370/52 "2012-04-19T00:15:05Z")
> [@PapSett](#): > > ((((hugs)))) > > I could use a hug because my job is turning upside down and inside out and I will have to be trained in a whole 'nother universe of technology and I am scared shitless. You’re a badass, PapSett, and one of the Dopers I admire most (srsly). You’re gonna do fine 🙂 _pet pet pet_ Goooood Heart of Dorkness 🙂 _pet pet pet_ Nice Heart of Dorkness for starting this thread 🙂 _pet pet pet_ Awesome Heart of Dorkness 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Anne\_Neville](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b9e5f3/32.png) [@Anne\_Neville](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anne_Neville)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2012, 1:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hugs-given-and-received-no-questions-asked/618370/53 "2012-04-19T01:55:06Z")
This has not been my day. It’s my week on-call at work, and I got a page at 3:30 this morning. I got in at 4:45, and then when I got home, another page. Then I was napping. I got woken up at 7pm by Mr. Neville shouting downstairs. I asked if he was ok, and he said no, there was a mouse in the bag of cat food and it ran over his hand when he went to feed the cats. I’m scared of mice running on me. ---
**Author:** ![PapSett](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ecc23a/32.png) [@PapSett](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PapSett)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2012, 5:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hugs-given-and-received-no-questions-asked/618370/54 "2012-04-19T05:00:39Z")
> [@PandaBear77](#): > > You’re a badass, PapSett, and one of the Dopers I admire most (srsly). You’re gonna do fine 🙂 I really don’t know what to say… that is seriously one of the nicest things anyone has ever said to me. EVER. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart. BTW, I am learning a little bit more about the job transition, and while I am still nervous, I am feeling a little more confident. And this post made me feel even better. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![PandaBear77](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/edb3f5/32.png) [@PandaBear77](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PandaBear77)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2012, 1:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hugs-given-and-received-no-questions-asked/618370/55 "2012-04-20T01:45:18Z")
Just tellin’ the truth and nothing but 🙂 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hugs-given-and-received-no-questions-asked/618370.md?page=2)