# Husband lusting for Mother-in-law **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [October 27, 2000, 8:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/husband-lusting-for-mother-in-law/38657 "2000-10-27T20:39:53Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![cool\_chic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/eb8c5e/32.png) [@cool\_chic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cool_chic)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2000, 8:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/husband-lusting-for-mother-in-law/38657/1 "2000-10-27T20:39:53Z")
First of all, I don’t know if this belongs here, but it is really burning a hole in my side. My husband has fantasies of being with my mother. MY mother. He keeps going on and on about these little fantasies he has about her and goes into detail about them. On one hand I am thankfull that he is making an attempt to get along with her, but on the other, it is not something I want to vision in my head, nor something I would ever want him to follow through with. I know that he would never go against my wishes and attempt to seduce her, although it is really bothering me. I have talked to him and he said he would try to keep it to him self from now on. Anyone else out there with similar circumstances? ---
**Author:** ![Maeglin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8baadc/32.png) [@Maeglin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maeglin)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2000, 8:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/husband-lusting-for-mother-in-law/38657/2 "2000-10-27T20:58:57Z")
How old are you, and how old is your mother? ---
**Author:** ![jazzmine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/5daacb/32.png) [@jazzmine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jazzmine)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2000, 9:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/husband-lusting-for-mother-in-law/38657/3 "2000-10-27T21:00:48Z")
ack. _gagging_ ---
**Author:** ![Ogre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/ecb155/32.png) [@Ogre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ogre)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2000, 9:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/husband-lusting-for-mother-in-law/38657/4 "2000-10-27T21:03:47Z")
That’s way, **way** fucked up. ---
**Author:** ![Zenster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/cdc98d/32.png) [@Zenster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zenster)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2000, 9:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/husband-lusting-for-mother-in-law/38657/5 "2000-10-27T21:06:05Z")
Just tell your husband about your fantasies concerning **his** father. Then step back and watch the fur fly… ---
**Author:** ![mouthbreather](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a698b9/32.png) [@mouthbreather](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mouthbreather)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2000, 9:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/husband-lusting-for-mother-in-law/38657/6 "2000-10-27T21:07:35Z")
Or, even better, tell him you’re having fantasies about his mother. ---
**Author:** ![John\_Corrado](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a88e4f/32.png) [@John\_Corrado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_Corrado)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2000, 9:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/husband-lusting-for-mother-in-law/38657/7 "2000-10-27T21:09:00Z")
Until she gets the inevitable response: “Really? That’d be kinda cool. Can I watch?” ---
**Author:** ![wireless](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f14d63/32.png) [@wireless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wireless)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2000, 9:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/husband-lusting-for-mother-in-law/38657/8 "2000-10-27T21:09:32Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Zenster \* > \*\*Just tell your husband about your fantasies concerning **his** father. Then step back and watch the fur fly… > > \*\* Or, given what you related about your (attempted) experimentation in the current Pit “Blind Date” thread, Tell him _you_ have fantasies about _his_ mother. ---
**Author:** ![wireless](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f14d63/32.png) [@wireless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wireless)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2000, 9:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/husband-lusting-for-mother-in-law/38657/9 "2000-10-27T21:11:46Z")
That’s what I get for previewing. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![teela\_brown](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/d9b06d/32.png) [@teela\_brown](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/teela_brown)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2000, 9:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/husband-lusting-for-mother-in-law/38657/10 "2000-10-27T21:13:11Z")
I thought this would be a thread about the next Jerry Springer show. Sorry! Back to OP! ---
**Author:** ![Bean\_Counter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/db5fbb/32.png) [@Bean\_Counter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bean_Counter)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2000, 9:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/husband-lusting-for-mother-in-law/38657/11 "2000-10-27T21:22:32Z")
Are you sure he is not kidding? I kid about the same thing with my wife. My mother-in-law is an affectionate person. The first time I met her, she hugged me as we were leaving a family gathering. Of course, she was just “going down the line” hugging her daughters and came to me and said, “What the heck!” My wife (obviously girl-friend at the time) was a little worried that it would “scare me off”. Therefore I told her the hug was no big deal but when she reached down and grabbed my ass… Of course, I do not go NEAR detailed “fantasies”… Regards. ---
**Author:** ![wring](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/838e76/32.png) [@wring](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wring)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2000, 9:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/husband-lusting-for-mother-in-law/38657/12 "2000-10-27T21:32:59Z")
My first thought was maybe he’s joking to get a rise out of you. But frankly if he’s doing that, that’s still icky. closest I’ve ever seen was my former brother in law (note the word “former” - I was, past tense, married to this guys’s brother). Poor Greggy (that’s what his family always called him "poor Greggy got kicked out of the Navy, now poor Greggy’s in jail for spousal assault… :rolleyes: ) anyhow. At one point, he walked in with his new “girlfriend” Cookie, who was about 20 years older than he and bore a strong resemblance to his own mothers. (all together now : ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww). it didn’t last. ---
**Author:** ![lolagranola](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ea5d25/32.png) [@lolagranola](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lolagranola)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2000, 9:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/husband-lusting-for-mother-in-law/38657/13 "2000-10-27T21:36:16Z")
That is SO gross. ---
**Author:** ![Jodi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/7feea3/32.png) [@Jodi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jodi)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2000, 9:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/husband-lusting-for-mother-in-law/38657/14 "2000-10-27T21:48:25Z")
I had a boyfriend once who confessed to thinking my sister was “hot” and who said he’d like to sleep with her except she was “such a bitch.” I was never able to determine which part was supposed to comfort me (she’s hot/she’s a bitch) and which part was supposed to piss me off (she’s hot/she’s a bitch). As it turned out, they BOTH pissed me off – nothing says “Cold Shower!” like hearing your BF has a thing for your sister, and I happen to love her a lot – and I kicked him to the curb immediately. Ick. Try covering your ears and screaming TOO MUCH INFORMATION!!! Oh, and if during an, ah, intimate moment, he calls out your mom’s name . . . call a divorce lawyer. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Homer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/df788c/32.png) [@Homer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Homer)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2000, 9:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/husband-lusting-for-mother-in-law/38657/15 "2000-10-27T21:49:13Z")
Weird. And coming from me, that really means something. –Tim ---
**Author:** ![Enderw24](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ba9def/32.png) [@Enderw24](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enderw24)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2000, 9:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/husband-lusting-for-mother-in-law/38657/16 "2000-10-27T21:49:58Z")
cool chic, That really doesn’t seem so surprising. After all, I have fantasies about your mother too. Ack! Ow! Hey, stop hitting me! ::runs away:: ---
**Author:** ![poohpah\_chalupa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/91b2a8/32.png) [@poohpah\_chalupa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/poohpah_chalupa)\ **Post date:** [October 28, 2000, 1:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/husband-lusting-for-mother-in-law/38657/17 "2000-10-28T01:11:54Z")
On the plus side, at least he likes what he sees and it may be a portent of what you might look like in 20-30 years. On the other hand… eeyeewww. ---
**Author:** ![Silo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ac91a4/32.png) [@Silo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silo)\ **Post date:** [October 28, 2000, 1:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/husband-lusting-for-mother-in-law/38657/18 "2000-10-28T01:40:31Z")
Well I guess it could be worse… …if he’d said he was having fantasies about Janet Reno. :::shudder::: ---
**Author:** ![Smeghead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f1d935/32.png) [@Smeghead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Smeghead)\ **Post date:** [October 28, 2000, 1:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/husband-lusting-for-mother-in-law/38657/19 "2000-10-28T01:53:34Z")
My position is firmly on the “That’s thoroughly fucked-up” side. Husband thinking his MIL is good looking? A little weird, but not really in his control. Husband having secret fantasies about his MIL? Pretty creepy. Husband telling wife detailed fantasies about his MIL? Thoroughly fucked up! ---
**Author:** ![Jester](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jester/32/8223_2.png) [@Jester](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jester)\ **Post date:** [October 28, 2000, 1:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/husband-lusting-for-mother-in-law/38657/20 "2000-10-28T01:54:03Z")
That is definitely WAY too creepy. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/husband-lusting-for-mother-in-law/38657.md?page=2)