Well, if you’ve watched any nature shows, you know that there are two kinds of birds, right? One where the male does all sorts of things to impress the female. He builds elaborate nests, has elaborate plumes, fights off rivals, the works.
And then there’s other species of birds where the male is just as dull colored brown as the female. Courtship consists of the male or female (it could be anyone of the two) hopping up the other bird, taking her out where each bird pays for him/herself, and asking: "Hey, how about it we marry?’ And the other bird (if you have subtitles) goes: “Mm…okay”.
Well, the second type of birds are Dutch.
Dutch guys and girls, on average, lack the whole romance/predatory gene. Courtship is blunt and to the point and equality between the sexes is supposed to exist to a far bigger degree then in other cultures. That also is true for sex. In another culture, a woman witholding sex fits an existing pattern that holds a implicit compliment to her guy that he is the red blooded male with needs, brave, and that she is a pure lilywhite damsel he has to slay dragons for in order to have sex.
Over here in Holland, sex is something you do it you both feel like it. It is not a power thing, on either side. For Dutch men, sex seems is far less charged with emotion, (other then closeness). It seems less charged for them. Less needed, actually.
A Dutch woman trying to make sex a challenge for her husband would not even be understood. Her husband would assume that she herself would indicate when she felt like sex again, and patiently wait while she comes 'round in her own time.
Dutch guys are what you get when you take feminism far, perhaps too far. On the other hand, women have less power here then they have in the states. It is a cultural diference betwen the USA and Holland, but one I have not yet fully understood.
As you can imagine, Valentine’s day never got big here.
ETA: I even fond a sociolocical study explaining it!
But at the time, I was too tired for that as well.