# I absolutely despise "the wife." **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [June 25, 2007, 11:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-absolutely-despise-the-wife/409406 "2007-06-25T23:14:47Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 8
**Author:** ![Mosier](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ea924/32.png) [@Mosier](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mosier)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2007, 7:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-absolutely-despise-the-wife/409406/141 "2007-06-28T19:35:38Z")
Can something be disrespectful if there is no offense meant, and no offense taken? ---
**Author:** ![Argent\_Towers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e8c25b/32.png) [@Argent\_Towers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Argent_Towers)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2007, 7:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-absolutely-despise-the-wife/409406/142 "2007-06-28T19:48:38Z")
For all the talk about the OP being lame, it sure has generated a lot of responses. ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2007, 8:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-absolutely-despise-the-wife/409406/143 "2007-06-28T20:46:31Z")
[QUOTE=Mosier] Can something be disrespectful if there is no offense meant, and no offense taken? [/QUOTE] No. Meaning the offense is the point in disrespect, isn’t it? ---
**Author:** ![jackelope](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a6a055/32.png) [@jackelope](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jackelope)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2007, 9:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-absolutely-despise-the-wife/409406/144 "2007-06-28T21:23:41Z")
[QUOTE=Argent Towers] For all the talk about the OP being lame, it sure has generated a lot of responses. [/QUOTE] Including 132 of them since the OP last checked in at post #12. ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2007, 12:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-absolutely-despise-the-wife/409406/145 "2007-06-29T00:41:11Z")
[QUOTE=Mellivora capensis] I’m really slow today, so you’re going to have to explain this one to me. 😕 [/QUOTE] > [@your earlier post](#): > > If they develop a puzzled look, I simply say that \ is the woman I’m currently married to, dating etc etc. It’s not necessarily a given that the woman you are dating is the same as the one you are married to. I left off the etc., etc., which I can only assume would be friends with benefits. It can tough for your friends to keep track of these things, and potentially embarassing if they mix it up. ---
**Author:** ![CanvasShoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/74df32/32.png) [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2007, 1:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-absolutely-despise-the-wife/409406/146 "2007-06-29T01:06:48Z")
[QUOTE=Malacandra] Blowed if I know who these nice nympho types are though, I swear I never met one. 😛 [/QUOTE] Hehe… Mal, meet Shoes, Shoes, Mal… 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Yookeroo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/yookeroo/32/323_2.png) [@Yookeroo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yookeroo)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2007, 5:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-absolutely-despise-the-wife/409406/147 "2007-06-29T05:09:25Z")
[QUOTE=Atrael] Oh come on…I **know** I’ve seen worse than this. [/QUOTE] Searching on Pit threads that **VCO3** has started will probably turn up a few. ---
**Author:** ![dynamitedave](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ed655f/32.png) [@dynamitedave](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dynamitedave)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2007, 5:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-absolutely-despise-the-wife/409406/148 "2007-06-29T05:16:55Z")
[QUOTE=CanvasShoes] A LOT nicer. Actually, it’s sort of cute. 🙂 [/QUOTE] Ah, **CanvasShoes** , so, er, are you exothermic whilst slumberous? 😛 ---
**Author:** ![danceswithcats](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/9e8a1a/32.png) [@danceswithcats](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/danceswithcats)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2007, 6:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-absolutely-despise-the-wife/409406/149 "2007-06-29T06:37:26Z")
Hoo boy. I can’t believe I actually read all three pages. I have to give the OP a hearty, Meh. To make a retro reference to your wife, call her POSSLQ, that acronym which blessed the 1980 census. (Person of Opposite Sex Sharing Living Quarters) _Tell me darling, tell me true would you be my POSSLQ?_ BTW, **Telperien** Jinx the Cat was actually a liberal archetype expressing displeasure at the man who would become Attorney General under President Ronald Reagan, Edwin Meese III. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Malacandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Malacandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malacandra)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2007, 7:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-absolutely-despise-the-wife/409406/150 "2007-06-29T07:50:39Z")
[QUOTE=CanvasShoes] Hehe… Mal, meet Shoes, Shoes, Mal… 😃 [/QUOTE] And separated by a mere 140 degrees of longitude. :smack: 😃 > [@danceswithcats](#): > > BTW, \*\*Telperien \*\* Jinx the Cat was actually a liberal archetype expressing displeasure at the man who would become Attorney General under President Ronald Reagan, Edwin Meese III. I suppose many a chessplayer during the first half of the 20th century might have privately fumed something about hating Mieses to pieces, but if anyone but \*\*glee \*\* gets the reference I’ll be a little surprised. ---
**Author:** ![Knorf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/58956e/32.png) [@Knorf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Knorf)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2007, 7:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-absolutely-despise-the-wife/409406/151 "2007-06-29T07:58:14Z")
[QUOTE=VCO3] Come on, bro, if you’re going to do a driveby, at least go for “teh.” Or make a Lolcat, “I’m in Yr thread, shittin’ teh lame.” [/QUOTE] It’s a BBQ thread, you mashed potato brain–if you wanted a real discussion, start a thread in IMHO. In here, it’s perfectly fine for someone to point out that the rant of the OP is lame, pathetic, stupid, or whatever, and do so in sentiment expressed with maturity, or not. “Lame.” I concur. Also, it was kind of funny. Which your OP was not. ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2007, 8:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-absolutely-despise-the-wife/409406/152 "2007-06-29T08:02:25Z")
[QUOTE=Lucky 13] As far as Japanese words for spouse: I’ve noticed that on some anime, a married woman sometimes calls her husband “anata” - literally, “you”. Nobody seems to mind. Also, I read some years ago that it is customary for couples with children to call each other “Mother” and “Father”, and becoming “Grandmother” and “Grandfather” once grandchildren arrive. Any Dopers in Japan, is this common? [/QUOTE] While the easiest definition is ‘you,’ as with most Japanese un-pronouns it’s much more complicated. ‘Anata’ is most often used in two situations. In formal documents such as surveys and forms, it is a very polite and cold ‘you.’ It’s also used in romantic situations to mean something close to ‘my dear.’ I’m not sure about the couples and “mother-father” question, but if my memory serves me correctly I do believe that is common. I dont live in Japan though, so stay tuned. ---
**Author:** ![Mellivora\_capensis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8797f3/32.png) [@Mellivora\_capensis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mellivora_capensis)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2007, 8:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-absolutely-despise-the-wife/409406/153 "2007-06-29T08:05:35Z")
[QUOTE=TokyoPlayer] It’s not necessarily a given that the woman you are dating is the same as the one you are married to. I left off the etc., etc., which I can only assume would be friends with benefits. It can tough for your friends to keep track of these things, and potentially embarassing if they mix it up. [/QUOTE] Ah :smack: Thanks. ---
**Author:** ![ForumBot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ee59a6/32.png) [@ForumBot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ForumBot)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2007, 8:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-absolutely-despise-the-wife/409406/154 "2007-06-29T08:24:52Z")
I am very sorry for referring to my loved one in this way. I will now return to calling her **ForumWife** ---
**Author:** ![Aspidistra](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aspidistra/32/3894_2.png) [@Aspidistra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aspidistra)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2007, 9:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-absolutely-despise-the-wife/409406/155 "2007-06-29T09:31:31Z")
Ooooh … and I’d almost forgotten that previous entry into the ‘Most Able-bodied-ly Challenged Threads of the SDMB’ competition. Anyway, I like this thread much better as a thread about “Amusing Conversations Which Have Been Had With The Main Squeeze”. And I’d think we’re about to be MPSIMSed right about now, aren’t we? I mean, it’s not even as if anyone has said fuck ye…oh bugger. ---
**Author:** ![Broomstick](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/broomstick/32/246_2.png) [@Broomstick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Broomstick)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2007, 10:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-absolutely-despise-the-wife/409406/156 "2007-06-29T10:11:41Z")
[QUOTE=VCO3] But this is too far - it’s a direct refusal to even acknowledge your significant other with the title and sense of pride that should be reserved only for someone to which you’ve pledged your life. **My** wife. Mine. “The reason I get up in the morning.” [/QUOTE] Well, you see, I don’t _own_ my spouse. So… **my** car, **my** shoe, **my** left thumb… but “the husband” or “the wife” because you don’t own another person. Of course, context, tone, etc. all count for a great deal. Though frankly, it never really bothered me much one way or the other. ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2007, 12:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-absolutely-despise-the-wife/409406/157 "2007-06-29T12:59:30Z")
[QUOTE=Aspidistra] Ooooh … and I’d almost forgotten that previous entry into the ‘Most Able-bodied-ly Challenged Threads of the SDMB’ competition. Anyway, I like this thread much better as a thread about “Amusing Conversations Which Have Been Had With The Main Squeeze”. And I’d think we’re about to be MPSIMSed right about now, aren’t we? I mean, it’s not even as if anyone has said fuck ye…oh bugger. [/QUOTE] Where did people get this idea that swearing wasn’t permitted in MPSIMS? You can’t insult a poster there, is all. ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2007, 1:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-absolutely-despise-the-wife/409406/158 "2007-06-29T13:30:51Z")
[QUOTE=Autolycus] While the easiest definition is ‘you,’ as with most Japanese un-pronouns it’s much more complicated. ‘Anata’ is most often used in two situations. In formal documents such as surveys and forms, it is a very polite and cold ‘you.’ It’s also used in romantic situations to mean something close to ‘my dear.’ I’m not sure about the couples and “mother-father” question, but if my memory serves me correctly I do believe that is common. I dont live in Japan though, so stay tuned. [/QUOTE] Psst. Post 123. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2007, 5:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-absolutely-despise-the-wife/409406/159 "2007-06-29T17:29:25Z")
[QUOTE=Telperien] Where did people get this idea that swearing wasn’t permitted in MPSIMS? You can’t insult a poster there, is all. [/QUOTE] In fact, I think I’m going to go swear there right now. ---
**Author:** ![Sierra\_Indigo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f0a364/32.png) [@Sierra\_Indigo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sierra_Indigo)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2007, 11:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-absolutely-despise-the-wife/409406/160 "2007-06-29T23:39:26Z")
[QUOTE=featherlou] In fact, I think I’m going to go swear there right now. [/QUOTE] You would do that, wouldn’t you ya tosspot 😉 I call my husband “The Husband”. As well as “Hubby”, “My Hubby”, “Chris” and “Fuck you, Prick!” He calls me “Wife”, “The Wife”, “My Wife”, “Siobhan” and “You Crazy Lady” What we specifically call each other isn’t important. The way in which we call each other is the important thing. And he’s always got a lot of love in his voice for me. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-absolutely-despise-the-wife/409406.md?page=7) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-absolutely-despise-the-wife/409406.md?page=9)