# I am Getting Married **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [September 25, 2010, 1:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-getting-married/554998 "2010-09-25T13:47:38Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Tamerlane](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tamerlane/32/7602_2.png) [@Tamerlane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tamerlane)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2010, 3:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-getting-married/554998/21 "2010-09-26T03:28:49Z")
Congratulations :). ---
**Author:** ![China\_Guy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/779978/32.png) [@China\_Guy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/China_Guy)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2010, 5:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-getting-married/554998/22 "2010-09-26T05:11:23Z")
Congrats! ---
**Author:** ![gardentraveler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gardentraveler/32/3576_2.png) [@gardentraveler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gardentraveler)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2010, 5:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-getting-married/554998/23 "2010-09-26T05:18:50Z")
Excellent news! Congratulations, Paul and Kathy! ---
**Author:** ![outlierrn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/outlierrn/32/3005_2.png) [@outlierrn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/outlierrn)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2010, 8:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-getting-married/554998/24 "2010-09-26T08:22:29Z")
congradulations Paul ---
**Author:** ![rbroome](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/838e76/32.png) [@rbroome](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rbroome)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2010, 1:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-getting-married/554998/25 "2010-09-26T13:01:17Z")
> [@Paul\_in\_Qatar](#): > > Of course a close reading of some of my General Questions would have made this clear, but I am just bursting and need to tell everyone ‘officially.’ > > She Who Must Not Be Named dumped me a few months ago. We argued constantly, being in love with a Latina is like having an opera inside your head all the time. Lots of noise, lots of drama. > > Then Kathy found me on FaceBook. Kathy was the first girl I ever kissed. My high school sweetheart, we went to university together. Then, in her second summer she married someone else. > > Thirty-two years later and we are together again. It is like picking up a conversation again after all those years. It is so nice to be with her. She says nice things to me. I missed that. > > She is a widow lady now. John was killed in an industrial accident. > > We are in our fifties, and a relationship at our age is … different. Friendship and companionship are the main things. > > She has two children, both almost thirty. Imagine that! > > Changes are afoot for me (for both of us, really). Still, life is about change and I embrace it. > > I just wanted to tell you all. I am very happy. congrats! very pleased to hear the good news. ---
**Author:** ![C3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/c3/32/3108_2.png) [@C3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/C3)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2010, 1:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-getting-married/554998/26 "2010-09-26T13:23:08Z")
Congratulations! There’s a lot to be said for friendship & companionship as the basis for a good relationship. (BTW, I have an aunt & uncle named Paul and Kathy. I’ve always admired their marriage - they laugh together a lot. They celebrated their 50th anniversary not long ago.) ---
**Author:** ![Perciful](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/b38774/32.png) [@Perciful](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Perciful)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2010, 1:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-getting-married/554998/27 "2010-09-26T13:23:30Z")
Congrats! Wishing you the best. ---
**Author:** ![Paul\_in\_Qatar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ccd318/32.png) [@Paul\_in\_Qatar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Paul_in_Qatar)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2010, 3:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-getting-married/554998/28 "2010-09-26T15:27:25Z")
Thank you all. I am still over the moon about all this. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2010, 6:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-getting-married/554998/29 "2010-09-26T18:17:14Z")
> [@Paul\_in\_Qatar](#): > > > [@suranyi](#): > > > > I long ago discovered how important that is in my own relationships. When your SO (in my own case, my wife) says nice things to you regularly, it is the best feeling in the world. It makes you feel so secure. > > Yes, secure, that is it! > > Thank you all for your kind words. I feel like a kid again, being in love is fun. And it should be! Leave all the drama for the kids - they have the energy for it. I just want a happy, secure relationship and get a good night’s sleep. High fibre is okay, too. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![mischievous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@mischievous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mischievous)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2010, 10:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-getting-married/554998/30 "2010-09-26T22:19:37Z")
Paul, sweetie, I’m delighted you’ve found someone to be happy with and ecstatic that the other relationship is finally over. But, if I may inject a note of caution, I would like to suggest that you might hold off on marriage for a little while. You’ve just come out of a spectacularly long and spectacularly bad relationship, you and Kathy have both changed in the past thirty-odd years, and you’ve only been back in contact with her for a few months. Let yourself settle a little, so that you can approach marriage from a stronger place. If she’s the one, she’ll still be there for you. mischievous ---
**Author:** ![dogbutler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dogbutler/32/428_2.png) [@dogbutler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dogbutler)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2010, 2:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-getting-married/554998/31 "2010-09-27T02:52:28Z")
Congratulations! ---
**Author:** ![Atomic\_Mama](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b5ac83/32.png) [@Atomic\_Mama](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Atomic_Mama)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2010, 4:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-getting-married/554998/32 "2010-09-27T04:18:51Z")
Wow! Congrats! I just got married (for the second time) … at age 60. Was married for 17 years, from 20 through 37; divorced for 23 years … You’re right about it being totally “different” at this age. For me – I was totally cautious, and perhaps still am. How could anyone treat ME so right? I don’t know. But it seems to be working out/happening OK. Make that Fabulous. Astonishment ensues. Best to you and yours. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2010, 4:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-getting-married/554998/33 "2010-09-27T04:45:20Z")
How about a bachelor’s party in Pattaya? Hehehe. ---
**Author:** ![BaneSidhe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/c5a1d2/32.png) [@BaneSidhe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BaneSidhe)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2010, 4:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-getting-married/554998/34 "2010-09-27T04:49:35Z")
Congratulations!! ---
**Author:** ![ratatoskK](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ratatoskk/32/2987_2.png) [@ratatoskK](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ratatoskK)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2010, 12:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-getting-married/554998/35 "2010-09-27T12:36:24Z")
Congratulations! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Mollie\_Magill](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mollie_magill/32/20882_2.png) [@Mollie\_Magill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mollie_Magill)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2010, 2:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-getting-married/554998/36 "2010-09-27T14:01:57Z")
Say, **SkyBlueKayak** is claiming to be engaged to you, too. Does Kathy know about her? ---
**Author:** ![Shirley\_Ujest](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@Shirley\_Ujest](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shirley_Ujest)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2010, 2:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-getting-married/554998/37 "2010-09-27T14:25:21Z")
Congrats! _Flings confetti_ ---
**Author:** ![Gyrate](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gyrate/32/3588_2.png) [@Gyrate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gyrate)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2010, 2:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-getting-married/554998/38 "2010-09-27T14:51:10Z")
> [@Mollie\_Magill](#): > > Say, **SkyBlueKayak** is claiming to be engaged to you, too. > > Does Kathy know about her? You know what they say: what happens in Qatar… Congratulations and best wishes on the whole marriage thing. ---
**Author:** ![Askance](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/askance/32/8281_2.png) [@Askance](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Askance)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2010, 1:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-getting-married/554998/39 "2010-09-28T01:26:59Z")
So when do you change your dopername to **Paul In Kayak**? But seriously, what a great story. I hope - no, I know you guys will turn out great. Things like this just are better after 50, everyone is so much more relaxed and comfortable in their own skin I’ve found. ---
**Author:** ![sunstone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunstone/32/3372_2.png) [@sunstone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sunstone)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2010, 1:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-getting-married/554998/40 "2010-09-28T01:37:52Z")
Most excellent! Best wishes to you both! Love is special in our mature years. Enjoy. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-getting-married/554998.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-getting-married/554998.md?page=3)