# I am not the other woman anymore. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [September 3, 2000, 6:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-not-the-other-woman-anymore/31876 "2000-09-03T18:13:21Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 14\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Soda](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/cc9497/32.png) [@Soda](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Soda)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2000, 6:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-not-the-other-woman-anymore/31876/41 "2000-09-04T06:40:48Z")
Thank you, thank you, thank you. I don’t feel a bit better yet, despite all your kind words and encouragements. But it’s a long process, and I suppose I’ll get there in the end. Sadly though, we don’t have Ben and Jerry’s over here. I can’t even be miserable in style. ---
**Author:** ![tatertot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c37758/32.png) [@tatertot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tatertot)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2000, 11:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-not-the-other-woman-anymore/31876/42 "2000-09-04T11:56:52Z")
{{{{{{soda}}}}}}} Hey, I’ve got all the Ben & Jerry’s you could want over here…seriously, come down for a weekend. There is nothing like a vacation for making you feel better. Plus, I just met the cutest guy last night, 27, a musician, very nice. I can’t use him, so I thought I’d save him for a friend. 🙂 (BTW, have you tried Pizza Hut for the B & Js? They sell it at the Pizza Hut’s here) ---
**Author:** ![Spiny\_Norman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9de0a6/32.png) [@Spiny\_Norman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spiny_Norman)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2000, 12:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-not-the-other-woman-anymore/31876/43 "2000-09-04T12:22:58Z")
Soda, you’ve done a great thing and you’ll be happy you did later. My hat’s off to you, really - you’ve shown some class. Right now, FWIW, a cyberhug: {{{{{Soda}}}}} - and forget the icecream, go for a long run instead. One can’t be miserable and out of breath at the sametime, plus you’ll sleep better. Or go visit tater - she’s a sweetie. S. Norman ---
**Author:** ![tatertot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c37758/32.png) [@tatertot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tatertot)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2000, 12:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-not-the-other-woman-anymore/31876/44 "2000-09-04T12:32:44Z")
Okay, since my theory is that when one is heartbroken the best thing to do is make zany plans, how about this one? Soda, me, you and S. Norman need to all meet up in Hamburg (which is way closer to Sweden than Heidelberg) and cruise up and down the Reeperbahn laughing at the Japanese tourists. I shall bring a pimp hat for S. Norman to wear…it’ll be priceless. Where’s Anniz, she needs to get into this, too. And then us three ladies can have a slumberparty, and talk about how cute S. Norman is, cry over our lost loves and make voodoo dolls. When’s the next holiday weekend in Sweden? 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Spiny\_Norman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9de0a6/32.png) [@Spiny\_Norman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spiny_Norman)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2000, 12:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-not-the-other-woman-anymore/31876/45 "2000-09-04T12:52:44Z")
tater, that’s not a bad plan at all! And no, my judgement isn’t at all swayed by the thought of escorting soda, Anniz & your charming self through the wicked streets of Hamburg, nope, perish the thought! Come up with a date, ladies - I’ll fill up the fridge (I’ll even see if I can find some B&J), but please bring your own voodoo accoutrements. We’ll cruise the reeperbahn, hit the bars and check out the Fischmarket Sunday morning. S. Norman PS: tater, what does a pimp hat look like ? ---
**Author:** ![tatertot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c37758/32.png) [@tatertot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tatertot)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2000, 1:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-not-the-other-woman-anymore/31876/46 "2000-09-04T13:05:49Z")
Think Shaft. 🙂 And **soda** , please seriously consider this. Take the time you need to grieve privatly, of course, but don’t bury yourself away. We’re here for you if you need us. ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2000, 3:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-not-the-other-woman-anymore/31876/47 "2000-09-04T15:44:09Z")
How long before withdrawal sets in? For me, usually 2 weeks. ---
**Author:** ![Nika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/ba9def/32.png) [@Nika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nika)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2000, 4:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-not-the-other-woman-anymore/31876/48 "2000-09-04T16:14:13Z")
Congratulations if you feel that you did the right thing! It is hard to make a decision like that. You had to pick between what you thought your heart was saying and what your head was saying. I hope that you are okay, but I think that you will be in the long run. {{{{{SODA}}}}} ---
**Author:** ![Welfy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/e56c9b/32.png) [@Welfy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Welfy)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2000, 6:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-not-the-other-woman-anymore/31876/49 "2000-09-04T18:18:36Z")
It took guts to do that, soda. I’ve gained a lot of respect for you. I hope if I’m ever in the same situation I’d be able to do the same thing. ---
**Author:** ![Prosser](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/cc9497/32.png) [@Prosser](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Prosser)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2000, 6:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-not-the-other-woman-anymore/31876/50 "2000-09-04T18:30:23Z")
Soda, It took strength to stand up for your convictions, especially when dealing with highly explosive emotions. I have tremendous respect for you. ---
**Author:** ![Darqangelle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecccb3/32.png) [@Darqangelle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Darqangelle)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2000, 7:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-not-the-other-woman-anymore/31876/51 "2000-09-04T19:11:50Z")
_Kiss on the forehead_ _Gentle grasp of the shoulder_ _Applause_ …as for ice cream, I’ll be coming in to Stockholm next week for a few days (ok, it’s on the other side of the country, but hey… you got a week!) 🙂 , you want me to bring you anything? ---
**Author:** ![TVeblen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/4bbf92/32.png) [@TVeblen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TVeblen)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2000, 8:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-not-the-other-woman-anymore/31876/52 "2000-09-04T20:11:30Z")
**Soda** , your fine heart saw in your brother’s family something that gave you courage to do something hard, but right. It hurts now, a _lot_, but did the right thing. There’s someone out there for you, and when you meet him, he’ll be worth the waiting. Best of all, you’ll be able to love him back without bitter past regrets. Consider yourself firmly hugged. Curl up in your fuzzy blanket, eat the most decadent treats you can find, and consider getting together with S.Norman and crew. A lot of people here think you’re the greatest thing on two feet, and would love to help you through the heartache. {{{{soda}}}} Veb ---
**Author:** ![Dylan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e95f7d/32.png) [@Dylan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dylan)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2000, 9:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-not-the-other-woman-anymore/31876/53 "2000-09-04T21:06:03Z")
As a member of the human race, I sincerely thank you, Soda, for not contributing purposely to the infliction of emotional pain on another human being. I too, am immensely proud of your decision…I wish you well in every way…and am sending hugely positive vibes your way… ---
**Author:** ![yosemite](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/3ab097/32.png) [@yosemite](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/yosemite)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2000, 9:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-not-the-other-woman-anymore/31876/54 "2000-09-04T21:28:58Z")
Bless you bless you bless you. All our good thoughts go out to you. Your pain will be eased, because you **did the right thing**. I am so proud of you. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-not-the-other-woman-anymore/31876.md?page=2)