# I am so upset right now **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 1, 2011, 6:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-so-upset-right-now/566065 "2011-01-01T18:19:10Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Al\_Bundy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e79b87/32.png) [@Al\_Bundy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Al_Bundy)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2011, 9:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-so-upset-right-now/566065/21 "2011-01-01T21:19:26Z")
The Internet is a nasty place. In a way this person did you a favor in bringing it to your attention before worse things happened. Luckily and hopefully, this individual only gets his kicks from this simple online text type abuse. Much more serious things can happen. Stay in private mode in Facebook if you have to be there at all. ---
**Author:** ![needscoffee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/needscoffee/32/1076_2.png) [@needscoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/needscoffee)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2011, 9:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-so-upset-right-now/566065/22 "2011-01-01T21:58:33Z")
You KNOW it can’t be someone who knows you in person, because he got ALL the information wrong. Therefore, he was just randomly sending the same message to random people. Just like cold-dialing a phone. Put it behind you. Start another Facebook account (use a new email address like GMail or YahooMail) with better privacy settings. Don’t let a stupid kid dictate to you how you should feel or what you can do. You just may end up reconnecting with people who truly know you and like you. ---
**Author:** ![LurkerInNJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ed655f/32.png) [@LurkerInNJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LurkerInNJ)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2011, 10:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-so-upset-right-now/566065/23 "2011-01-01T22:06:26Z")
I got curious while waiting for a delivery to arrive and googled the first sentence, and there appears to be a lengthy internet fight with hundreds of posts going on between someone using the name Lisa/lisalan (and a host of other usernames according to some claims on that board) and a lot of other people at another forum, with an extended version of what you posted here in response to insults by this other Lisa. Are you sure it was random? It just seems an incredible coincidence that the participant in that fight would have the same username, photos and comments as a perfect stranger. ---
**Author:** ![lavenderviolet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/cdc98d/32.png) [@lavenderviolet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lavenderviolet)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2011, 10:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-so-upset-right-now/566065/24 "2011-01-01T22:20:17Z")
It’s amazing how rude people can be on the internet. Even on this board, some people say very rude things they would never say in real life. Or look at the comments on a news story posted on Yahoo sometimes. A lot of people just start acting like animals when they’re anonymous. It has nothing to do with you. People who want to be internet bullies will just pick on anyone they think they can hurt. I personally wouldn’t delete my facebook over this. I’d just make sure it is private from now on. Oh, and last I checked, facebook wasn’t a beauty contest anyway. Most of us aren’t on facebook trying to get dates, so who cares about looks on there? ---
**Author:** ![Teacake](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e9bcb4/32.png) [@Teacake](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Teacake)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2011, 10:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-so-upset-right-now/566065/25 "2011-01-01T22:30:49Z")
That’s very interesting, **Lurker**. **Lisalan** , care to comment? ---
**Author:** ![Harmonious\_Discord](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/74df32/32.png) [@Harmonious\_Discord](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Harmonious_Discord)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2011, 11:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-so-upset-right-now/566065/26 "2011-01-01T23:51:25Z")
This is the same person that would just start yelling at checkouts all because you’re waiting behind her. You look’n at me bitch. Don’t you be look’n at me bitch! I gonna beat your ass bitch. Bitch thinks she can be look’n at me! I’ll teach that bitch be look’n at me.😉 ---
**Author:** ![ExistentialistDesperado33](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a183cd/32.png) [@ExistentialistDesperado33](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ExistentialistDesperado33)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2011, 1:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-so-upset-right-now/566065/27 "2011-01-02T01:35:34Z")
Hey there lisalan, I wouldn’t let this adolescent a-hole get to you because they obviously have no depth or emotional intelligence at all. An important thing i have learned about people and communicating on the net is you meet all kinds - from the most friendly empathic intelligent ppl to the most rude ignorant stupid insensitive idiots, the net is like a magnifying glass as it allows you to meet more ppl -& the chance of meeting a-holes also increases. please dont give it anymore worry as this person obviously has got issues and you are a better more intelligent person than they are. I would say that they are immature and think it’s fun to send messages like that (they may not be entirely bad, more ignorant because they haven’t experienced any real emotional pain so they lack empathy) I bet that when they grow up a little and face any kind of dissapointment they will think back and regret what they have done. Hope you can try and stay positive and forget the negative… take care x 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2011, 5:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-so-upset-right-now/566065/28 "2011-01-02T05:28:20Z")
Next time ask the troll to post a picture of him/herself. ---
**Author:** ![CanvasShoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/74df32/32.png) [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2011, 6:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-so-upset-right-now/566065/29 "2011-01-02T06:34:40Z")
> [@lisalan](#): > > 😕 > …snip… > > Why would someone say something so mean to another human being? > Great way to start my New Years. > I guess this is more of a rant…thanks for listening. I’ve always had self-esteem issues and this hasn’t helped them one bit. I’m really sorry. Yes, what other posters have said. There have long been people like this online. I’m guessing that now that they get quickly banned or moderated on most public boards and forums, the only way they can get their sick twisted fun, is to attack people like you. I’m guessing it’s some pimply-faced 13 year old in his mom’s basement or some roid-raged out “hipper than thou” fratboy who’s all brawn and no brain (or soul). I’m so sorry that happened to you on New Year’s especially, the time we all want to look forward to having a fresh slate. Think about it this way, you KNOW that what he said isn’t true, so you know you can move on and keep being the great person you are, but he’s going to carry that nasty poison around in him forever. ---
**Author:** ![needscoffee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/needscoffee/32/1076_2.png) [@needscoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/needscoffee)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2011, 6:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-so-upset-right-now/566065/30 "2011-01-02T06:41:05Z")
> [@LurkerInNJ](#): > > I got curious while waiting for a delivery to arrive and googled the first sentence, and there appears to be a lengthy internet fight with hundreds of posts going on between someone using the name Lisa/lisalan (and a host of other usernames according to some claims on that board) and a lot of other people at another forum, with an extended version of what you posted here in response to insults by this other Lisa. > > Are you sure it was random? It just seems an incredible coincidence that the participant in that fight would have the same username, photos and comments as a perfect stranger. Still waiting to hear back from the OP on this… ---
**Author:** ![Inner\_Stickler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inner_stickler/32/318_2.png) [@Inner\_Stickler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inner_Stickler)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2011, 8:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-so-upset-right-now/566065/31 "2011-01-02T08:43:07Z")
We’ll be waiting for a good long while, I think. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2011, 8:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-so-upset-right-now/566065/32 "2011-01-02T08:48:33Z")
**Lisalan** , you have my sympathy. Just yesterday I received a very angry and very obscene message from someone who had obviously hit the “Reply ALL” button by mistake. Even after realizing the message wasn’t intended for me, I still took it personally. ---
**Author:** ![Koxinga](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/4af34b/32.png) [@Koxinga](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Koxinga)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2011, 9:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-so-upset-right-now/566065/33 "2011-01-02T09:37:06Z")
There are plenty of Chinese people with large eyes. :dubious: Nor are all Asian people Chinese. ---
**Author:** ![Koxinga](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/4af34b/32.png) [@Koxinga](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Koxinga)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2011, 9:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-so-upset-right-now/566065/34 "2011-01-02T09:43:00Z")
Wanted to ETA to say, of course there’s no excuse for what that anonymous troll said, but – it’s the Internet, you know? Maybe go read through some Youtube comments next time to psychologically prepare yourself . . . ---
**Author:** ![Captain\_Amazing](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/6de8d8/32.png) [@Captain\_Amazing](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Captain_Amazing)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2011, 9:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-so-upset-right-now/566065/35 "2011-01-02T09:48:13Z")
> [@lisalan](#): > > I just don’t understand why this person said things like this like the short leg comment when it is so obvious my legs are long or the asian comment when my eyes are very large…that kind of thing. Oh and they managed to insult a whole race in that message. > I’m just a very analytical person and I feel I always need to know the reasons why. They did it because they wanted to upset you. There’s not really anything more complicated than that. ---
**Author:** ![Zebra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c0e974/32.png) [@Zebra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zebra)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2011, 9:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-so-upset-right-now/566065/36 "2011-01-02T09:53:53Z")
That message tells us far more about the person who wrote the message than it tells about you. ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2011, 12:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-so-upset-right-now/566065/37 "2011-01-02T12:04:55Z")
> [@needscoffee](#): > > Still waiting to hear back from the OP on this… Well, I just googled the first sentence, and I found nothing. I did with both the first sentence of the OP and the first sentence of the response. \*\* I would like LurkerInNJ\*\* to explain their comment before asking anything of **lisalan**. It looks awfully suspicious. ETA: If you wonder, I googled it because I couldn’t understand the comment. Lisalan has no picture here, and did not give out her Facebook account. ---
**Author:** ![jz78817](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jz78817/32/1028_2.png) [@jz78817](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jz78817)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2011, 12:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-so-upset-right-now/566065/38 "2011-01-02T12:09:59Z")
> [@BigT](#): > > Well, I just googled the first sentence, and I found nothing. I did with both the first sentence of the OP and the first sentence of the response. > \*\* > I would like LurkerInNJ\*\* to explain their comment before asking anything of **lisalan**. It looks awfully suspicious. > > ETA: If you wonder, I googled it because I couldn’t understand the comment. Lisalan has no picture here, and did not give out her Facebook account. yeah, now I’m thinking we’ve been had: [http://www.topix.com/forum/state/co/TR9CUMNO7HAA1FEE2/p13](http://www.topix.com/forum/state/co/TR9CUMNO7HAA1FEE2/p13) ETA: it’s Topix, so the level of discourse is just a bit lower than here. be warned. ---
**Author:** ![Koxinga](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/4af34b/32.png) [@Koxinga](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Koxinga)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2011, 12:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-so-upset-right-now/566065/39 "2011-01-02T12:17:12Z")
Or our Lisa here might have been targeted in a case of mistaken identity. ---
**Author:** ![jz78817](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jz78817/32/1028_2.png) [@jz78817](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jz78817)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2011, 12:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-so-upset-right-now/566065/40 "2011-01-02T12:23:57Z")
entirely possible. failed to consider that. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-so-upset-right-now/566065.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-so-upset-right-now/566065.md?page=3)