# I am wondering if anyone here told their parents when they lost their virginity **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [October 15, 2019, 7:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-wondering-if-anyone-here-told-their-parents-when-they-lost-their-virginity/841818 "2019-10-15T19:55:24Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Dunmurry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/d2c977/32.png) [@Dunmurry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunmurry)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2019, 7:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-wondering-if-anyone-here-told-their-parents-when-they-lost-their-virginity/841818/1 "2019-10-15T19:55:24Z")
Well I am posting this basically to say that I want to find out more about the funny and potentially embarrassing situation of telling their parents about losing their virginity and I would like to know if you told them or how you did it. However I would like to be a fly on the wall if they were saying it to their parents if they were very religious or something like that. And I appreciate that it may be different if people are married and things like this and I suppose alot of people might not tell their parents. By the way I believe there is some kind of disease people get or urinary tract infection through actually having sex alot after the first time having sex also. Also whether there is any requirement for a woman to pee after sex and if they have to pee after every time they have sex even if they are tired or if they do not even have to pee if they have to do it after having sex also. And I would like to find out more about people telling their parents or maybe not telling their parents when they lost their virginity and things about this. ---
**Author:** ![Slash1972](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slash1972/32/6461_2.png) [@Slash1972](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slash1972)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2019, 8:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-wondering-if-anyone-here-told-their-parents-when-they-lost-their-virginity/841818/2 "2019-10-15T20:15:15Z")
I told everybody! ---
**Author:** ![Shodan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Shodan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shodan)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2019, 8:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-wondering-if-anyone-here-told-their-parents-when-they-lost-their-virginity/841818/3 "2019-10-15T20:29:34Z")
> [@Dunmurry](#): > > By the way I believe there is some kind of disease people get or urinary tract infection through actually having sex alot after the first time having sex also. Maybe you mean [honeymoon cystitis](https://www.zavamed.com/uk/honeymoon-cystitis.html). > [@](#): > > Also whether there is any requirement for a woman to pee after sex and if they have to pee after every time they have sex even if they are tired or if they do not even have to pee if they have to do it after having sex also. I don’t know if it is required. IME it does tend to work out that way. > [@](#): > > And I would like to find out more about people telling their parents or maybe not telling their parents when they lost their virginity and things about this. I just let them assume. Regards, Shodan ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2019, 8:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-wondering-if-anyone-here-told-their-parents-when-they-lost-their-virginity/841818/4 "2019-10-15T20:38:10Z")
Parents? Hell no. But I was on the phone to my best friend before the guy had even driven away. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2019, 8:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-wondering-if-anyone-here-told-their-parents-when-they-lost-their-virginity/841818/5 "2019-10-15T20:40:31Z")
> [@Dunmurry](#): > > Well I am posting this basically to say that I want to find out more about the funny and potentially embarrassing situation of telling their parents about losing their virginity and I would like to know if you told them or how you did it. How the hell would I know? That’s their business. ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2019, 9:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-wondering-if-anyone-here-told-their-parents-when-they-lost-their-virginity/841818/6 "2019-10-15T21:50:24Z")
It was the night before my grandmother’s funeral. Not a chance I’d tell them. ---
**Author:** ![kenobi\_65](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kenobi_65/32/13178_2.png) [@kenobi\_65](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kenobi_65)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2019, 9:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-wondering-if-anyone-here-told-their-parents-when-they-lost-their-virginity/841818/7 "2019-10-15T21:58:00Z")
Nope, I never told them about it, though I imagine that they figured it out not too long after it happened. (I was 18 at that point, FWIW.) OTOH, the only time that I ever had a conversation with either of my parents about sex, at all, was when my wife and I were trying to conceive, and not having any success, and I had a talk with my mom about it. That was when I was in my early 30s, so, as far as my parents knew, I could theoretically have been a virgin up until that point. Hell, since my wife and I never did have a baby, my parents could have reasoned that we weren’t successful when we were “trying” because we weren’t actually succeeding in having sex, and that I might well **still** be a virgin to this day. Hmmmm… ---
**Author:** ![digs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/digs/32/14889_2.png) [@digs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/digs)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2019, 10:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-wondering-if-anyone-here-told-their-parents-when-they-lost-their-virginity/841818/8 "2019-10-15T22:22:06Z")
No, absolutely not. And I’m close with my folks and would tell them \*almost \*anything. To the OP: can we PLEASE at least PRETEND to have some personal boundaries? Let’s give people the respect that is their due, and not just share everything with them. To anyone reading this, ask yourself (like I have to) “Do people really want to know about this, or is this just my need to manufacture intimacy in my relationships?” I have a friend who shares/sneakbrags about the frequency and details of sex with his girlfriend. After he leaves (he’s too fragile to confront), we all give a collective “Eeeeeew…” I feel strongly about this because it’s a character flaw of mine, and my family. But one of us is trying to get over it… ---
**Author:** ![kambuckta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/53a042/32.png) [@kambuckta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kambuckta)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2019, 10:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-wondering-if-anyone-here-told-their-parents-when-they-lost-their-virginity/841818/9 "2019-10-15T22:40:49Z")
Nope, not a word. But I guess my mum figured out I wasn’t a virgin anymore when she quietly came home one afternoon (didn’t hear her car, the bloody dog didn’t bark!!) and found my boyfriend’s head firmly between my thighs. THAT was a tad embarrassing and we never spoke of it again. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![harmonicamoon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/65b543/32.png) [@harmonicamoon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/harmonicamoon)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2019, 10:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-wondering-if-anyone-here-told-their-parents-when-they-lost-their-virginity/841818/10 "2019-10-15T22:49:06Z")
Nope. The subject wasn’t discussed in the house. I learned about sex from drawings in the school bathrooms. ---
**Author:** ![Happy\_Lendervedder](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/happy_lendervedder/32/8488_2.png) [@Happy\_Lendervedder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Happy_Lendervedder)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2019, 10:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-wondering-if-anyone-here-told-their-parents-when-they-lost-their-virginity/841818/11 "2019-10-15T22:49:30Z")
Heck nope. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2019, 10:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-wondering-if-anyone-here-told-their-parents-when-they-lost-their-virginity/841818/12 "2019-10-15T22:49:42Z")
> [@dropzone](#): > > It was the night before my grandmother’s funeral. Not a chance I’d tell them. Mine was the night before my Calculus final, which I aced. Till the day they died, both of my parents thought I was still a virgin. We NEVER talked about sex. ---
**Author:** ![Procrustus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/procrustus/32/2994_2.png) [@Procrustus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Procrustus)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2019, 10:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-wondering-if-anyone-here-told-their-parents-when-they-lost-their-virginity/841818/13 "2019-10-15T22:55:21Z")
Nope. And my Kids better not tell me about theirs. ---
**Author:** ![DorkVader](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/73ab20/32.png) [@DorkVader](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DorkVader)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2019, 10:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-wondering-if-anyone-here-told-their-parents-when-they-lost-their-virginity/841818/14 "2019-10-15T22:56:59Z")
I never did, and I’m not sure when my parents just assumed, but I was 16 when Mom asked if I needed her to buy some condoms for me one Friday evening as I was heading out. ---
**Author:** ![Alpha\_Twit](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alpha_twit/32/265_2.png) [@Alpha\_Twit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alpha_Twit)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2019, 11:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-wondering-if-anyone-here-told-their-parents-when-they-lost-their-virginity/841818/15 "2019-10-15T23:14:39Z")
I never told them,…but. Standard small town cliche. Two teenagers parked down by the river when Barney Fife shines a 19 cell Mag-Lite through the window and tells us to move along. Dad was on the reserve force - he knew. ---
**Author:** ![ZPG\_Zealot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/e47c2d/32.png) [@ZPG\_Zealot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZPG_Zealot)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2019, 11:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-wondering-if-anyone-here-told-their-parents-when-they-lost-their-virginity/841818/16 "2019-10-15T23:15:48Z")
I handed the sheet from my wedding night to my mother-in-law the next morning with a smirk on my face. I think my parents were probably still around at the time, but I honestly didn’t give a damn what they thought. ---
**Author:** ![Baron\_Greenback](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/baron_greenback/32/48_2.png) [@Baron\_Greenback](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baron_Greenback)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2019, 11:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-wondering-if-anyone-here-told-their-parents-when-they-lost-their-virginity/841818/17 "2019-10-15T23:20:14Z")
Parents aren’t aliens from another planet **Dunmurry**. They’ve usually got a pretty good idea of what’s going on with their offspring’s sexual development, having been in the same position(s) themselves at some point. Frankie Boyle offers some wise words here: [![](https://img.youtube.com/vi/D9qOUDHgzpM/hqdefault.jpg "Frankie Boyle - Wanking") ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D9qOUDHgzpM) ---
**Author:** ![Acsenray](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/acsenray/32/4519_2.png) [@Acsenray](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acsenray)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2019, 11:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-wondering-if-anyone-here-told-their-parents-when-they-lost-their-virginity/841818/18 "2019-10-15T23:21:52Z")
Of course I didn’t tell them. My sex life has never been my parents’ business. ---
**Author:** ![notfrommensa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/f14d63/32.png) [@notfrommensa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/notfrommensa)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2019, 11:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-wondering-if-anyone-here-told-their-parents-when-they-lost-their-virginity/841818/19 "2019-10-15T23:53:11Z")
No. Never talked to them. I remember playing golf one Friday evening with buddy who lived off the 2nd tee box. His 16 yr old daughter came out to the tee, and told him she was going on a date. Dad told her to be careful and not pregnant. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2019, 12:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-wondering-if-anyone-here-told-their-parents-when-they-lost-their-virginity/841818/20 "2019-10-16T00:54:54Z")
Noooooooooo! Saying that, I was pretty sure I knew when it happened for Son-of-a-wrek. And I insisted his Dad have a talk with him about safe sex, condoms, and being a gentleman. Seems to have worked out for him. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-am-wondering-if-anyone-here-told-their-parents-when-they-lost-their-virginity/841818.md?page=2)