One more thing on the power of unanimity opinion: I don’t think it has any. I am completely unmoved and unimpressed by an argument on any subject I can think of that boils down to: “A bunch of people are saying so, therefore it is right”. People are sheep. People want to be liked, they want approval, they like to be part of gang, they like to feel better than other people… for all these reasons people will agree with things publicly that they don’t in their hearts believe is true at all.
For all these reasons people will discard what they believe is true in their hearts and adopt things that they aren’t really comfortable with at all.
But I was raised by two free-thinking people who had spent their lives, each in their own way, bucking the system, the society, and rejecting completely the idea that value is found in numbers for their own sake. I was raised to believe that one must discover for onself if a thing is true or not, and to stand up for what I believe is truly right. Not to blindly cling to ignorance or my own cherished opinions formed of nothing but stubborness and desire, but to seek out the facts and the truth and if after doing so I find that my opinions or beliefs don’t necessarily conform to the majority, not to fear it. Because in and of itself, it means nothing.
I’ve lived for 52 years on this earth next week with that fundamental grounding, and it has served me very well.
To thine ownself be true.
On the other hand, I don’t go through life as an island of quirky opinions and beliefs that are rejected by everyone and think I’m stylin’, either. There are many people whose opinions I value and respect, because I know them to be intelligent, thoughtful, wise and well-rounded people. If I fail to win the support and respect of such people in my actions and deeds, then I definitely question myself. And thus I learn and grow.
But, opinions about my writing aside, because of course that’s opinion, I have not been very impressed with the legal reasoning around here, all due respect. And I’ve listened, believe me. You guys really had me going at one point on the subject of the LLC buyout… I was halfway to believing that I really had misread the cases all this time. It seemed impossible, but you never know. Which led to the Reese v. Darden post tearing it down sentence by sentence. (Which actually turned out to be a fantastic exercise and ultimately enormously comforting, since it nailed down that I was right.) And this is the same thing that happened last year… everyone kept telling me that I was just wrong, and the combined weight of Doper lawyers was supposed to convince me. Well, I have a very good brain and I love language, and no one was making any kind of solid argument that advice and information really are the same, they just kept telling me they were.
Then someone finally posted some cases that were intended to prove to me conclusively that answering a question about pancakes and bunnies could reasonably lead to devastating litigation. Oh, ok. A cite? An authority? very well then… so I read the cases, and nothing even close to that was in them.
I’m not closed minded at all. I want all the information I can get, please. If I’ve got it wrong, for god’s sake show me! I need to know!
But just repeating to me that it’s plainly X when it plainly is anything but and ignoring all the authority I keep offering that proves exactly the reverse just makes your opinion less and less valuable, no matter how multiplied it may be, I’m sorry, and it makes you look like you have an agenda, which also degrades the quality of your opinion.
But, I say sincerely, I don’t mind. I prefer the challenge of adversity to simple “you go, girl!”, although I like supportive comments, of course. But pure support doesnt’ teach you anything at all. I learned that in school when I finally got an English teacher than didnt’ fall all over themselves loving me to death and actually failed my first paper! THAT teacher taught me something. The others just made me feel good.