# I did a nice gesture.....we'll see if it's appreciated or not **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 14, 2019, 4:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-did-a-nice-gesture-well-see-if-its-appreciated-or-not/835515 "2019-06-14T16:54:42Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![madmonk28](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/madmonk28/32/20811_2.png) [@madmonk28](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/madmonk28)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2019, 9:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-did-a-nice-gesture-well-see-if-its-appreciated-or-not/835515/81 "2019-06-15T21:36:14Z")
> [@UltraVires](#): > > I don’t get anything when I click the link. Could you describe what it says? It’s a scrolling graphic of the words “Thank You.” ---
**Author:** ![not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/not_what_you_d_expect/32/3246_2.png) [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/not_what_you_d_expect)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2019, 9:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-did-a-nice-gesture-well-see-if-its-appreciated-or-not/835515/82 "2019-06-15T21:44:03Z")
> [@LiveFree](#): > > And here was her response. At least 6 times. > > [http://i68.tinypic.com/2m2xoaf.gif](http://i68.tinypic.com/2m2xoaf.gif) Well, she knows you know where she lives. I’d be nervous as hell about confronting you, so I’d probably thank you, but I’d start looking for a home alarm. If you’d made the offer in person, I might have even offered you lunch in appreciation. Then maybe we could have become friends, but now, I’d be much less open to that. ---
**Author:** ![LiveFree](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/5e9695/32.png) [@LiveFree](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LiveFree)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2019, 9:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-did-a-nice-gesture-well-see-if-its-appreciated-or-not/835515/83 "2019-06-15T21:55:13Z")
> [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](#): > > Well, she knows you know where she lives. I’d be nervous as hell about confronting you, so I’d probably thank you, but I’d start looking for a home alarm. If you’d made the offer in person, I might have even offered you lunch in appreciation. Then maybe we could have become friends, but now, I’d be much less open to that. She’s not nervous about confronting ANYONE. And we’re already friends. She’s bold and a straightforward lady. > [@lingyi](#): > > Probably would have been more lopsided if everyone read his other threads (“I’m not a stalker” and “Changing a tire on a locked car…Alarm question”) before voting! Hey lingyi, go fuck yourself. > [@raventhief](#): > > Interesting. 87.5% of current respondents, knowing only LiveFree’s side of events indicate that they would be weirded out. One might assume that his version of things would be more complimentary toward him, and yet. . That is an overwhelmingly negative response. > > But! Gymlady was effusive in her gratitude (6 times, huh?) Yes, definitely 6 times. ---
**Author:** ![Hilarity\_N.Suze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hilarity_n.suze/32/6223_2.png) [@Hilarity\_N.Suze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hilarity_N.Suze)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2019, 9:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-did-a-nice-gesture-well-see-if-its-appreciated-or-not/835515/84 "2019-06-15T21:59:57Z")
> [@lingyi](#): > > Jealous husband/boyfriend comes home and sees freshly mowed lawn. > > Asks wife/girlfriend who did it. She says she doesn’t know. > > He talks to neighbors thinking they might have done it. Told it was some guy they never saw before. > > Fun ensues! :smack: :smack: :smack: I’m just thinking Woody Harrelson in True Detective: “You don’t mow another guy’s lawn!” ---
**Author:** ![LiveFree](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/5e9695/32.png) [@LiveFree](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LiveFree)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2019, 10:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-did-a-nice-gesture-well-see-if-its-appreciated-or-not/835515/85 "2019-06-15T22:07:57Z")
> [@Hilarity\_N.Suze](#): > > I’m just thinking Woody Harrelson in True Detective: “You don’t mow another guy’s lawn!” I’ll make this more interesting. First of all, she isn’t married or have a boyfriend. And not that this matters, she’s in her late fifties. And to add more…I’ve probably cut 25,000+ lawns in my lifetime. ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2019, 10:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-did-a-nice-gesture-well-see-if-its-appreciated-or-not/835515/86 "2019-06-15T22:19:26Z")
> [@LiveFree](#): > > She’s not nervous about confronting ANYONE. And we’re already friends. She’s bold and a straightforward lady. Even bold and straightforward ladies who are not nervous about confronting people may choose not to confront someone if they feel that it is in their best interest not to do so. It’s quite possible that she’s okay with what you did. It’s also quite possible that she is “managing” you for now. BTW - What does her age have to do with anything? ---
**Author:** ![lingyi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/d2c977/32.png) [@lingyi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lingyi)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2019, 10:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-did-a-nice-gesture-well-see-if-its-appreciated-or-not/835515/87 "2019-06-15T22:21:42Z")
> [@LiveFree](#): > > She’s not nervous about confronting ANYONE. And we’re already friends. She’s bold and a straightforward lady. > > Hey lingyi, go fuck yourself. > > Yes, definitely 6 times. But, but, I just posted information that “available to the public!” 😛 ---
**Author:** ![LiveFree](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/5e9695/32.png) [@LiveFree](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LiveFree)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2019, 10:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-did-a-nice-gesture-well-see-if-its-appreciated-or-not/835515/88 "2019-06-15T22:23:32Z")
> [@lingyi](#): > > But, but, I just posted information that “available to the public!” 😛 Good one. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![LiveFree](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/5e9695/32.png) [@LiveFree](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LiveFree)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2019, 10:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-did-a-nice-gesture-well-see-if-its-appreciated-or-not/835515/89 "2019-06-15T22:26:19Z")
> [@Green\_Bean](#): > > Even bold and straightforward ladies who are not nervous about confronting people may choose not to confront someone if they feel that it is in their best interest not to do so. > > It’s quite possible that she’s okay with what you did. It’s also quite possible that she is “managing” you for now. > BTW - What does her age have to do with anything? She was appreciative, no doubt in my mind. She doesn’t mix words. Like I said, she is NOT afraid to confront anyone. Age…I helped out an OLD lady. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Dewey\_Finn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dewey_finn/32/4222_2.png) [@Dewey\_Finn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dewey_Finn)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2019, 10:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-did-a-nice-gesture-well-see-if-its-appreciated-or-not/835515/90 "2019-06-15T22:30:49Z")
Wait. “Late fifties” means old lady? I had _no_ idea. ---
**Author:** ![LiveFree](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/5e9695/32.png) [@LiveFree](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LiveFree)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2019, 10:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-did-a-nice-gesture-well-see-if-its-appreciated-or-not/835515/91 "2019-06-15T22:34:40Z")
> [@Dewey\_Finn](#): > > Wait. “Late fifties” means old lady? I had _no_ idea. Thought I’d get someone’s goat with that. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Dewey\_Finn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dewey_finn/32/4222_2.png) [@Dewey\_Finn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dewey_Finn)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2019, 10:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-did-a-nice-gesture-well-see-if-its-appreciated-or-not/835515/92 "2019-06-15T22:38:08Z")
So you’re trolling here. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2019, 10:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-did-a-nice-gesture-well-see-if-its-appreciated-or-not/835515/93 "2019-06-15T22:40:19Z")
> [@LiveFree](#): > > Age…I helped out an OLD lady. 🙂 What does that have to do with it? Old ladies don’t get stalked? :dubious: So you got lucky this time. Point is, not EVERYONE would appreciate it. ---
**Author:** ![Hilarity\_N.Suze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hilarity_n.suze/32/6223_2.png) [@Hilarity\_N.Suze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hilarity_N.Suze)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2019, 10:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-did-a-nice-gesture-well-see-if-its-appreciated-or-not/835515/94 "2019-06-15T22:55:16Z")
> [@LiveFree](#): > > I’ll make this more interesting. > > First of all, she isn’t married or have a boyfriend. And not that this matters, she’s in her late fifties. > And to add more…I’ve probably cut 25,000+ lawns in my lifetime. I don’t see what any of that has to do with anything. Are you saying it’s okay since no “guy” was involved? ---
**Author:** ![LiveFree](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/5e9695/32.png) [@LiveFree](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LiveFree)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2019, 11:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-did-a-nice-gesture-well-see-if-its-appreciated-or-not/835515/95 "2019-06-15T23:09:06Z")
> [@Hilarity\_N.Suze](#): > > I don’t see what any of that has to do with anything. Are you saying it’s okay since no “guy” was involved? Absolutely not. I was ANSWERING someone’s post. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2019, 11:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-did-a-nice-gesture-well-see-if-its-appreciated-or-not/835515/96 "2019-06-15T23:53:34Z")
> [@LiveFree](#): > > And we’re already friends. Clearly. > [@LiveFree](#): > > She doesn’t mix words. “Mince”, the word is “mince”. ---
**Author:** ![UltraVires](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/ecccb3/32.png) [@UltraVires](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UltraVires)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2019, 11:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-did-a-nice-gesture-well-see-if-its-appreciated-or-not/835515/97 "2019-06-15T23:59:35Z")
> [@LiveFree](#): > > She was appreciative, no doubt in my mind. She doesn’t mix words. Like I said, she is NOT afraid to confront anyone. > > Age…I helped out an OLD lady. 🙂 Come on now. You can’t tell me that you’re not trying to hook up with this lady. I don’t care her age, you want her, right? Just be honest. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![BlankSlate](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/blankslate/32/80_2.png) [@BlankSlate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BlankSlate)\ **Post date:** [June 16, 2019, 12:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-did-a-nice-gesture-well-see-if-its-appreciated-or-not/835515/98 "2019-06-16T00:24:43Z")
> [@LiveFree](#): > > I’ll make this more interesting. > > First of all, she isn’t married or have a boyfriend. And not that this matters, she’s in her late fifties. > And to add more…I’ve probably cut 25,000+ lawns in my lifetime. If you cut two lawns a day, every day of the year, it would take 34 years to cut 25,000 lawns. So who’s older? You or the damsel in distress? ---
**Author:** ![engineer\_comp\_geek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/engineer_comp_geek/32/504_2.png) [@engineer\_comp\_geek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/engineer_comp_geek)\ **Post date:** [June 16, 2019, 1:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-did-a-nice-gesture-well-see-if-its-appreciated-or-not/835515/99 "2019-06-16T01:03:22Z")
**Moderator Warning** > [@LiveFree](#): > > Hey lingyi, go fuck yourself. This wasn’t even permitted in the Pit until recently. It’s definitely not appropriate in this forum. This is an official warning. ---
**Author:** ![engineer\_comp\_geek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/engineer_comp_geek/32/504_2.png) [@engineer\_comp\_geek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/engineer_comp_geek)\ **Post date:** [June 16, 2019, 1:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-did-a-nice-gesture-well-see-if-its-appreciated-or-not/835515/100 "2019-06-16T01:06:26Z")
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