# I did it...... its over. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [May 9, 2001, 12:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-did-it-its-over/64819 "2001-05-09T00:04:36Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![kellibelli](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e480ec/32.png) [@kellibelli](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kellibelli)\ **Post date:** [May 9, 2001, 12:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-did-it-its-over/64819/1 "2001-05-09T00:04:36Z")
I called him today and asked if her was busy (he works at home) and if I could pop over. He met me at the door, and I handed him a box of stuff he had left here… and said “this isnt working out”. He nodded. I said: “You arent suprised.” he said: “no” I said: “well, that was easy. No hard feelings, I wish you well… take care.” He replied in kind and I left. The whole breakup lasted two minutes flat. As Manda JO said in this thread: [http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=70153](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=70153) I think he told me about his parents disapproval to force me into a position where I gave up, so he didnt have to. What a gutless wonder!! Did I dodge a bullet there or what? I feel so releived now its pathetic. I REALLY didnt want to hurt his feelings, but obviously he doesnt have any feelings that his parents dont give him anyway ~shakes head~ he seemed so promising. Its already like I never went out with him at all… I wanted to love him for all the things thta were right about him, but couldnt… I thought there was something _wrong_ with me that I couldnt fall madly for such a wonderful guy, but MAYBE it was some sort of self preservation… some survival instinct that _just knew_ there was something wrong with this one. So here it is, the edge of summer, and I find myself single again… this time I dont mind so much. Thanks for the help on the other thread, which I didnt want to dredge up since the OP (Should I break it off) is now a done deal. ---
**Author:** ![rocking\_chair](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rocking_chair/32/2918_2.png) [@rocking\_chair](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rocking_chair)\ **Post date:** [May 9, 2001, 12:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-did-it-its-over/64819/2 "2001-05-09T00:16:27Z")
wow. it’s good to hear things went easily. would you like a cadbury mini egg? ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [May 9, 2001, 12:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-did-it-its-over/64819/3 "2001-05-09T00:16:33Z")
I wasted three years on a nice guy who wasn’t right for me, never was, never would be, and when we broke up, it was the same kind of feeling for me - relief that I wouldn’t have to agonize over what to do anymore. On the plus side, because I broke up with him, I was free and single when I met my (now) fiance 3 months later. It’s an old cliche, but I think it’s true; when it’s right, you just know it (and the flip side; when it’s wrong, you also know it, even if you spend a couple of years convincing yourself otherwise :)) ---
**Author:** ![Kilt-wearin\_man](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/82dd89/32.png) [@Kilt-wearin\_man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kilt-wearin_man)\ **Post date:** [May 9, 2001, 7:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-did-it-its-over/64819/4 "2001-05-09T19:57:18Z")
Kelli, I wouldn’t say you dodged a bullet. I’d say you dodged a potentially life-ruining artillery shell. Congratulations, and I’m glad you aren’t suffering for what had to be done. ---
**Author:** ![BoBettie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/4af34b/32.png) [@BoBettie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BoBettie)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2001, 12:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-did-it-its-over/64819/5 "2001-05-10T00:30:18Z")
You did learn a very valuable lesson in all of this. You are a fun, loveable person who CAN have a good time and be with a man, just not THIS man. (I think prior to this relationship you were doubting that). Take good care of yourself, and try not to get too all in a funk over it. You met one nice guy, you can meet more! Zette [nasty catty voice] Besides, you don’t want a man who can’t shit without asking his mommy’s permission- trust me on this one! [/nasty catty voice] ---
**Author:** ![kellibelli](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e480ec/32.png) [@kellibelli](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kellibelli)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2001, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-did-it-its-over/64819/6 "2001-05-10T01:24:36Z")
Thanks guys 🙂 I am not gonna let it bother me, I feel only mildly bad, and thats due to the way I REALLY wanted it to work out. On paper, he was perfect. I felt like a big failure that I couldnt find the love in me I THOUGHT I should feel. I went out with mom today, and I felt years younger! Like a huge burden has been lifted from me! I cleaned the car out tonight to get ready for camping season - I am just gonna leave it packed to go at a moments notice. I plan on being very busy with the kids this summer! I hope my ex’s parents find him a nice sheltered virgin who will they will be happy with. I truly hope I dont turn my boys into apron-stringed puppets like that. (Mom actually said she refuses to die just so she can make sure I dont!) Thanks again… kellibelli ---
**Author:** ![Cerowyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/82dd89/32.png) [@Cerowyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cerowyn)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2001, 6:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-did-it-its-over/64819/7 "2001-05-10T06:15:13Z")
Well, you don’t know me from Adam (gods, I hope that’s not your ex’s name…), but I just thought I’d pop in and say that when I read your [original thread](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=70153), I hoped you would end it. I didn’t say anything then, but now I feel free to say: you made the right choice. ---
**Author:** ![Dragwyr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dragwyr/32/2855_2.png) [@Dragwyr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dragwyr)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2001, 11:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-did-it-its-over/64819/8 "2001-05-10T11:35:05Z")
Break-up’s can be very hard on people. I’m glad yours was relatively painless. It will make it easier to move onward. I"m glad for you.