# I don't like blowjobs **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 11, 2001, 5:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-like-blowjobs/65069 "2001-05-11T05:07:30Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![cuauhtemoc](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ecb155/32.png) [@cuauhtemoc](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cuauhtemoc)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2001, 5:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-like-blowjobs/65069/1 "2001-05-11T05:07:30Z")
Allright, I may have mislead you. I have enjoyed receiving oral sex from women in the past, but I have to say it’s not the thrill for me that it seems to be for most men. In other words, I don’t _dislike_ it, but it’s not in my top five favorite things to do sexually, maybe not even in the top ten. Here are some reasons: 1. I like to _participate_. Getting head is just _sitting_ there. What am I supposed to do with my hands? 2. It’s lonely. In a blowjob she’s all the way down there and I’m all the way up here. If I wanted to get off by myself I would have gone to my room and jerked off. 3. Hi Opal! 4. It’s such a ubiquitous male fantasy. Every woman is convinced that’s what you _really_ want, you’re just too bashful to ask for it. Then she’ll get that sexy look in her eyes and start creeping down, and then I have to pretend to be excited. “Whoo boy,” I have to say. “Oral sex. I can hardly wait.” Either that or be seen as unappreciative. 5. There’s all this pressure to come, which makes it take forever. And if I don’t climax then she feels bad, thinks I don’t like her, thinks she’s a bad lover… the dysfunction goes on and on. And saying “No really, I don’t _like_ blowjobs” rarely helps matters at all. 6. I like to hear the sounds a woman makes when we’re being intimate. And I like it to be something more articulate than “Mmmpphhh… MMMPPHHhh!!!” I like man-on-top, woman-on-top, dog-style, spoon, golf-course, handjobs, footjobs, cunnilingus, phone, cyber, toys, and all sorts of other depraved things, but… I, **cuautemhoc** , am not particularly taken with the whole fellatio thing. Anyone else? Or am I alone in this? ---
**Author:** ![mdf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/dbc845/32.png) [@mdf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mdf)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2001, 5:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-like-blowjobs/65069/2 "2001-05-11T05:14:54Z")
Boy, it sure is quiet in here… [sub]Sorry, it was just too easy.[/sub] -mdf ---
**Author:** ![JillGat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/9fc29f/32.png) [@JillGat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JillGat)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2001, 5:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-like-blowjobs/65069/3 "2001-05-11T05:16:06Z")
I way prefer intercourse to oral sex for the reasons you mentioned, but mainly I wanted to say I’ve been to Cuautemhoc, Mexico a number of times and it’s a nice town. - Jill ---
**Author:** ![Mercutio](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/51bf81/32.png) [@Mercutio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mercutio)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2001, 5:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-like-blowjobs/65069/4 "2001-05-11T05:19:01Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by cuautemhoc \* > > 1. I like to _participate_. Getting head is just _sitting_ there. What am I supposed to do with my hands? Keep her hair out of her face, duh. > [@](#): > > 1. It’s lonely. In a blowjob she’s all the way down there and I’m all the way up here. If I wanted to get off by myself I would have gone to my room and jerked off. Do the woman a favor, reach down there and give her some nipple play. > [@](#): > > 1. It’s such a ubiquitous male fantasy. Every woman is convinced that’s what you _really_ want, you’re just too bashful to ask for it. Then she’ll get that sexy look in her eyes and start creeping down, and then I have to pretend to be excited. “Whoo boy,” I have to say. “Oral sex. I can hardly wait.” Either that or be seen as unappreciative. It’s sexual stimulation to your penis, of course men want it. > [@](#): > > 1. There’s all this pressure to come, which makes it take forever. And if I don’t climax then she feels bad, thinks I don’t like her, thinks she’s a bad lover… the dysfunction goes on and on. And saying “No really, I don’t _like_ blowjobs” rarely helps matters at all. Men also feel real insecure if they don’t make women climax, what can you do? > [@](#): > > 1. I like to hear the sounds a woman makes when we’re being intimate. And I like it to be something more articulate than “Mmmpphhh… MMMPPHHhh!!!” See _Nipple Play_ You’re welcomed. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Fairy\_Princess\_Kitty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/df705f/32.png) [@Fairy\_Princess\_Kitty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fairy_Princess_Kitty)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2001, 5:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-like-blowjobs/65069/5 "2001-05-11T05:31:53Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by cuautemhoc \* > \*\*1. I like to _participate_. Getting head is just _sitting_ there. What am I supposed to do with my hands? > > 1. It’s lonely. In a blowjob she’s all the way down there and I’m all the way up here. If I wanted to get off by myself I would have gone to my room and jerked off. > \*\* Well I don’t know about other women but I love it when the guy strokes my cheek or massages my shoulders and this sweet spot of my mine on the back of my neck under my hair. Heck, I just like all the sweet little things a guy can do. I’m not sure if that’s enough participation for you, but it’s a great way to communicate non-verbally. Just my two cents. Kitty ---
**Author:** ![Badtz\_Maru](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e36b37/32.png) [@Badtz\_Maru](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Badtz_Maru)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2001, 5:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-like-blowjobs/65069/6 "2001-05-11T05:45:44Z")
I enjoy some of the sensations, but I’ve only reached orgasm through oral sex ONCE and I feel like that was a fluke. I agree about not feeling like you are participating, and about the woman being far away from you, as well. It also sucks having to comfort the woman later, "Of course it felt good, no you didn’t do anything wrong’, etc. ---
**Author:** ![cuauhtemoc](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ecb155/32.png) [@cuauhtemoc](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cuauhtemoc)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2001, 5:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-like-blowjobs/65069/7 "2001-05-11T05:50:42Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Mercutio \* > Keep her hair out of her face, duh. What does this have to do with anything? Where did you get the idea that there’s a hair-in-the-face problem here? > [@](#): > > Do the woman a favor, reach down there and give her some nipple play. So she’s working away, her lips and tongue are getting numb, and as her mounting frustration at the dick that is slowly going limp in her mouth reaches its apex your suggestion is that I… grab her tits. I’m willing to bet that’s your solution to everything, Merc. > [@](#): > > It’s sexual stimulation to your penis, of course men want it. I’m going to blow you, Merc. And you are going to like it. Why? Because it is sexual stimulation to your penis, and all men want it. Be here in an hour. > [@](#): > > Men also feel real insecure if they don’t make women climax, what can you do? And it’s a damn shame, isn’t it? It doesn’t always have to be about the orgasm. Why can’t people just enjoy the _ride_, man? > [@](#): > > See _Nipple Play_ And this solves the articulation problem how? You seem to be neglecting to address the fundamental issue of the DICK in her MOUTH. ---
**Author:** ![Icarus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/icarus/32/72_2.png) [@Icarus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Icarus)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2001, 5:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-like-blowjobs/65069/8 "2001-05-11T05:55:34Z")
DUH! TV, that what it’s for… ---
**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2001, 5:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-like-blowjobs/65069/9 "2001-05-11T05:57:05Z")
Not so unusual. I’ve know (biblically) a couple of guys who felt the same way, for many of the same reasons. That said: > [@](#): > > 1. I like to _participate_. Getting head is just _sitting_ there. What am I supposed to do with my hands? > > 2. It’s lonely. In a blowjob she’s all the way down there and I’m all the way up here. If I wanted to get off by myself I would have gone to my room and jerked off. > \*\* Two words. Sixty. Nine. You should have quite enough to do with your hand, and she won’t be way down there. Also keep in mind that where ever she is you are not jerking off alone. She’s down there getting a kick out of your excitment (not that you should fake it, but…you don’t have to think of it as lonely.) \*\* > [@](#): > > 1. It’s such a ubiquitous male fantasy. Every woman is convinced that’s what you _really_ want, you’re just too bashful to ask for it. Then she’ll get that sexy look in her eyes and start creeping down, and then I have to pretend to be excited. “Whoo boy,” I have to say. “Oral sex. I can hardly wait.” Either that or be seen as unappreciative.\*\* Well…I’ve felt the same way about cunnilingus. But maybe she’s just doing it because she likes it. \*\* > [@](#): > > 1. There’s all this pressure to come, which makes it take forever. And if I don’t climax then she feels bad, thinks I don’t like her, thinks she’s a bad lover… the dysfunction goes on and on. And saying “No really, I don’t _like_ blowjobs” rarely helps matters at all.\*\* Like she necessarily want to do it till you come? Even if she likes giving head? I suspect if you gather her into your arms and say (or pantomime) “I am driven to such paradoximes of lust that I must fuck you right now!” you won’t hear too many objections. \*\* > [@](#): > > 1. I like to hear the sounds a woman makes when we’re being intimate. And I like it to be something more articulate than “Mmmpphhh… MMMPPHHhh!!!”\*\* see Sixty-Nine. \*\* [/QUOTE] ---
**Author:** ![Fairy\_Princess\_Kitty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/df705f/32.png) [@Fairy\_Princess\_Kitty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fairy_Princess_Kitty)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2001, 6:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-like-blowjobs/65069/10 "2001-05-11T06:13:48Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by betenoir \* > \*\*Also keep in mind that where ever she is you are not jerking off alone. She’s down there getting a kick out of your excitment (not that you should fake it, but…you don’t have to think of it as lonely.) > \*\* I know it’s kind of silly, but I just wanted to agree here. If you want to involve the girl then you can find someway to do it. I get really turned on by pleasuring the guy because I love him and I just want him to feel good. If the girl enjoys what she’s doing and wants to do it then don’t worry about her too much, don’t ignore her either, but she’s getting a kick out it. I usually either wish I could curl up in his arms afterwards or ride him like a dime store pony. Kitty ---
**Author:** ![Coldfire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a587f6/32.png) [@Coldfire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Coldfire)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2001, 9:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-like-blowjobs/65069/11 "2001-05-11T09:45:15Z")
One of my favourite passtimes whilst on the receiving end of oral sex is to, ahem, stroke the ladies bottom (this is assuming that that’s actually possible at the time). What can I say, I’m an ass man, I suppose. But I have to ask, regarding the OP: **golf course**? Is this the location of choice, or some position I’m unaware of? ---
**Author:** ![Carina42](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/439d5e/32.png) [@Carina42](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Carina42)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2001, 12:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-like-blowjobs/65069/12 "2001-05-11T12:01:33Z")
I was wondering about the golf course thing too. If it’s not location, maybe something to do with little hard white balls & long crooked sticks? 😃 I’ll just say…it’s not lonely. I enjoy it. Sit back & enjoy. If you can’t come that way (not so unusual) then finish up with any position that is mutually pleasurable. And…if you really don’t get a kick out of blow jobs, don’t do it! If someone told me it wasn’t thier favourite thing, it’s no big deal. After all, there’s always golf course sex… ---
**Author:** ![plnnr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7ea924/32.png) [@plnnr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/plnnr)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2001, 12:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-like-blowjobs/65069/13 "2001-05-11T12:21:25Z")
What we have here…is a failure…to communicate. I’d worry less about hurting her feelings, wondering what to do with your hands, etc. than I would about why these are issues in the first place. Pay attention to what’s going on and go where it takes both of you. Pretty soon you’re both in a position that’s comfortable, exciting, hot as hell, and satisfying. You’re thinking waaaaaay to much. ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2001, 12:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-like-blowjobs/65069/14 "2001-05-11T12:28:38Z")
My name is ahunter and I don’t like blow jobs. I actively dislike them. The sudden complete disappearance of any symptom of sexual arousal on my part, plus the clammy pallor of my skin, is usually sufficient to dissuade girlfriends from trying it more than once. ---
**Author:** ![Edward\_The\_Head](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ce73a5/32.png) [@Edward\_The\_Head](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Edward_The_Head)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2001, 12:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-like-blowjobs/65069/15 "2001-05-11T12:51:35Z")
I feel your lack of pleasure. I too dont really go for BJs too much. and yes I play with the nipples, neck, nose, toes, hair, butt, eyes you name it. I usually only let the woman go for a few minutes the onto something else. like giving. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![waxteeth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/258eb7/32.png) [@waxteeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/waxteeth)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2001, 1:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-like-blowjobs/65069/16 "2001-05-11T13:18:37Z")
It’s amazing what you can learn at the SDMB. My viewpoint/perspective/worldview/beliefs/whatever you want to call it is challenged almost every time I log on here. Whether it’s a big deal or a trivial matter I always learn about something I was not aware (ignorant) of. I can’t relate to the OP in any way. Still processing this information as if I am translating hieroglyphics. ---
**Author:** ![vanilla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/f19dbf/32.png) [@vanilla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vanilla)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2001, 1:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-like-blowjobs/65069/17 "2001-05-11T13:33:03Z")
I was wondering too; golfcourse? Though i have an idea… ---
**Author:** ![CalMeacham](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/calmeacham/32/35_2.png) [@CalMeacham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CalMeacham)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2001, 1:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-like-blowjobs/65069/18 "2001-05-11T13:33:32Z")
Your problem is that you’re not a dolphin: [http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=70563](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=70563) ---
**Author:** ![Coldfire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a587f6/32.png) [@Coldfire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Coldfire)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2001, 1:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-like-blowjobs/65069/19 "2001-05-11T13:41:31Z")
Something terrible just happened. While looking at this thread title, a song popped into my head. I only had to change the lyrics slightly to make it work. And now it won’t get out of my head, so I’m gonna make you suffer, too. **TELL ME WHY… I don’t like blow jobs…** ---
**Author:** ![Ukulele\_Ike](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/df788c/32.png) [@Ukulele\_Ike](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ukulele_Ike)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2001, 1:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-like-blowjobs/65069/20 "2001-05-11T13:50:52Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Coldfire \* > \*\*One of my favourite passtimes whilst on the receiving end of oral sex is to, ahem, stroke the ladies bottom \*\* Either you have _incredibly_ long arms, or the lady has extended her legs up towards your face, which means she might be hinting at something. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-like-blowjobs/65069.md?page=2)