# I don't understand Blow Jobs **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 6, 2003, 4:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-understand-blow-jobs/153218 "2003-02-06T16:09:44Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![dragongirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b38774/32.png) [@dragongirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dragongirl)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2003, 4:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-understand-blow-jobs/153218/1 "2003-02-06T16:09:44Z")
Don’t get the wrong idea here, I’m not looking for instructions or tips. It seems to me that blow jobs are **very** important to men. I’m trying to understand why. I know it feels good, but I’m wondering if there is more to it that just the feeling. I enjoy getting oral sex, but if it never happened again, it wouldn’t be the end of my world or anything. But with the men I know, it’s a terrible thing to even think about. Not enough to end an otherwise good relationship, but enough to depress them quite a bit. I’ve heard the theory about men wanting to spread their seed around, but since blow jobs don’t result in pregnancy, that doesn’t seem to work here. What is it that makes it so important ? Does it make you feel powerful ? I’m thinking of the position where the lady is on her knees. Accepted ? Is there something about being a man that makes it oral sex more important ? ---
**Author:** ![LolaCocaCola](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7cd45c/32.png) [@LolaCocaCola](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LolaCocaCola)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2003, 4:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-understand-blow-jobs/153218/2 "2003-02-06T16:15:15Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by dragongirl \* > **I enjoy getting oral sex, but if it never happened again, it wouldn’t be the end of my world or anything.** :dubious: ---
**Author:** ![Meatros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Meatros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Meatros)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2003, 4:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-understand-blow-jobs/153218/3 "2003-02-06T16:16:01Z")
> [@](#): > > It seems to me that blow jobs are very important to men. I’m trying to understand why. I know it feels good, but I’m wondering if there is more to it that just the feeling. IMO-BJs feel very good. For me, it’s not about power or anything like that. It’s a _different_ feeling. Also, when recieving head, you don’t have to move; I suppose I’m being very selfish, but you can fully concentrate on the sensation. ---
**Author:** ![NinetyWt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/cc9497/32.png) [@NinetyWt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NinetyWt)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2003, 4:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-understand-blow-jobs/153218/4 "2003-02-06T16:16:54Z")
I asked my sweety about this, shortly after we met. He tried to explain how it was for him. Somehow, it’s so magical to have the experience of orgasm without the physical presence of the lady’s legs etc. all around you. I’ts like … a short cut, so to speak. A short cut to Heaven. And you know how guys like to take short cuts !!! ;). YMMV. ---
**Author:** ![NinetyWt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/cc9497/32.png) [@NinetyWt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NinetyWt)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2003, 4:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-understand-blow-jobs/153218/5 "2003-02-06T16:18:05Z")
!!! **Triple-post ???** Meatros, you gotta get back to work 😃 ---
**Author:** ![EVO95](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/df705f/32.png) [@EVO95](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EVO95)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2003, 4:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-understand-blow-jobs/153218/6 "2003-02-06T16:19:50Z")
And it’s a _lot_ easier to drive a car that way. ---
**Author:** ![Revtim](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/revtim/32/1042_2.png) [@Revtim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Revtim)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2003, 4:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-understand-blow-jobs/153218/7 "2003-02-06T16:21:25Z")
I think Richard Jeni said it best. It combines the two things guys like the most: having sex and doing nothing at all. ---
**Author:** ![Meatros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Meatros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Meatros)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2003, 4:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-understand-blow-jobs/153218/8 "2003-02-06T16:26:48Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by NinetyWt \* > \*\*!!! **Triple-post ???** Meatros, you gotta get back to work 😃 \*\* 😃 True, but I felt I just _couldn’t ignore this!_ 😃 ---
**Author:** ![merge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9f8e36/32.png) [@merge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/merge)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2003, 4:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-understand-blow-jobs/153218/9 "2003-02-06T16:31:22Z")
If you do not have a penis… you will never understand… It has nothing to do with a power trip!! ---
**Author:** ![Urban\_Ranger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/e9c0ed/32.png) [@Urban\_Ranger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Urban_Ranger)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2003, 4:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-understand-blow-jobs/153218/10 "2003-02-06T16:39:59Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by dragongirl \* > Is there something about being a man that makes it oral sex more important ? Because men are pigs. Or at least a large number of them. ---
**Author:** ![Malacandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Malacandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malacandra)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2003, 4:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-understand-blow-jobs/153218/11 "2003-02-06T16:40:39Z")
Of course it’s not a power trip. [simple explanation] If you can train your pussy to suck and lick, you need never give another blow-job again, unless you want to. [/simple explanation] On the other hand, I am living proof that it is possible to face the prospect of going for the rest of your life without one. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Meatros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Meatros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Meatros)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2003, 4:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-understand-blow-jobs/153218/12 "2003-02-06T16:45:09Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Urban Ranger \* > \*\*Because men are pigs. Or at least a large number of them. \*\* Care to elaborate? ---
**Author:** ![CuriousCanuck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/d2c977/32.png) [@CuriousCanuck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CuriousCanuck)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2003, 4:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-understand-blow-jobs/153218/13 "2003-02-06T16:45:25Z")
I love orally pleasuring a woman… could do it for hours on end if allowed to. I once dated a woman that didn’t enjoy receiving and didn’t understand why I enjoyed it so much (giving and receiving). There is just something about it. both giving and receiving has it’s elements f being in control, yet not having any sort of control… It also gives me great pleasure to pleasure my partner and I also get pleasure out of receiving knowing that she enjoyed it as well… Man, thinking about this is making me long for an SO again… been single about 6 months too long lol… (about 12 months total) ---
**Author:** ![tanookie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/48db29/32.png) [@tanookie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tanookie)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2003, 4:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-understand-blow-jobs/153218/14 "2003-02-06T16:55:36Z")
my husband and I both enjoy giving/getting oral sex. It is freeing to be able to concentrate solely on your own pleasure and it is also quite intimate to have someone kiss you there 🙂 It is also great to give your partner such pleasures… I don’t feel it is about power or control but about making the other person feel good. Kind of like a massage in just the right place 😉 I hardly think him a pig for enjoying head and I must admit I would be quite depressed to have to give it up! (both the giving and the getting) ---
**Author:** ![Giraffe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giraffe/32/129_2.png) [@Giraffe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giraffe)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2003, 5:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-understand-blow-jobs/153218/15 "2003-02-06T17:05:03Z")
It’s important to have variety in one’s sex life. Different positions, different sexual acts, different colored wigs on the goat, etc. The question is not why oral sex is important to men, but why are there still women who don’t think (receiving) it is important? Some women can’t even _have_ orgasms through intercourse alone. And many women (in my experience) have their best orgasms from oral stimulation. In summary, when everyone is licking everyone else, the world will be a better place. Thank you, and good night. ---
**Author:** ![Bearflag70](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Bearflag70](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bearflag70)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2003, 5:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-understand-blow-jobs/153218/16 "2003-02-06T17:06:47Z")
Beyond the pure physical feeling and the laziness thing, there is a sort of power and control aspect. However, the power and control is _hers_, not mine. I get a sense of intimacy by “yielding” to her and giving her total control over my vulnerable bits. There’s something satisfying about knowing that she could crush me in a second, yet she has decided not to take advantage of my trust. ---
**Author:** ![Siege](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dbc845/32.png) [@Siege](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siege)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2003, 5:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-understand-blow-jobs/153218/17 "2003-02-06T17:18:04Z")
Actually, my problem’s the opposite. I don’t understand why some women _don’t_ like giving blow jobs. Granted I haven’t got a lot of experience here, but I can’t see why someone wouldn’t want to do something which gives her partner so much pleasure, although I admit the taste leaves a lot to be desired. To me, one of the things sex is about is _mutual_ pleasure, and oral sex gives so much. Then again, in my case, it’s also always gone both ways. Sorry to hijack, but this really confuses me. CJ ---
**Author:** ![grettle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/aeb1de/32.png) [@grettle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/grettle)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2003, 5:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-understand-blow-jobs/153218/18 "2003-02-06T17:24:45Z")
> [@](#): > > different colored wigs on the goat, etc. **Giraffe** it is your fault that everyone in this computer lab at school thinks I have lost my mind. thanks 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bosda_di_chi_of_tricor/32/16845_2.png) [@Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosda_Di_Chi_of_Tricor)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2003, 5:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-understand-blow-jobs/153218/19 "2003-02-06T17:28:02Z")
> [@](#): > > I don’t understand Blow Jobs Well, to understand them better, you have to practice! Practice, practice, practice! Here, let me help. 😉 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Angel\_of\_the\_Lord](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/angel_of_the_lord/32/2949_2.png) [@Angel\_of\_the\_Lord](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angel_of_the_Lord)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2003, 5:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-understand-blow-jobs/153218/20 "2003-02-06T17:32:02Z")
See, I can understand not wanting to give head for a short amount of time. I got really sick this summer, and for a few months afterwards–for some reason that I don’t know–a lot of things made me nauseous. Giving head happened to be one of them (that didn’t last very long, though swallowing et. al. did). And, in case you think I’m just being a brat, chinese food, any spicy food, mashed potatoes, and Sprite/7-up did the same thing. Long term, however…it’s too much fun. It’s a way to satiate my desire for control and slightly sadistic (not S&M, really; hard to explain, but I’m not in the scene) urges without hurting my SO. This, of course, comes with a caveat–if we haven’t seen each other for x amount of weeks, I’ll give head–but there’d _better_ be something else going on, too, 'else I tend to get a bit bitchy (and the sadistic side gets harder to control…leads to some amusing scenarios). [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-dont-understand-blow-jobs/153218.md?page=2)