# I enjoy a good spanking. **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 5, 2009, 9:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-enjoy-a-good-spanking/512734 "2009-10-05T21:49:43Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Mister\_Rik](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mister_rik/32/491_2.png) [@Mister\_Rik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mister_Rik)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2009, 9:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-enjoy-a-good-spanking/512734/1 "2009-10-05T21:49:43Z")
So … who’s a spanko around here? In addition to the options above, feel free to include your orientation, and/or whether you prefer to spank/be spanked by the opposite sex or the same sex. Also, how old were you when you first realized you were a spanko? Me: Straight male, top, female partners. 13-14 when I first realized my inclinations. ---
**Author:** ![kittenblue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/ba8739/32.png) [@kittenblue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kittenblue)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2009, 2:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-enjoy-a-good-spanking/512734/2 "2009-10-06T02:12:26Z")
I’m not sure I understand the concept of top, bottom and switch. Do you mean do I like getting spanked when I’m on top, on the bottom, or using a switch instead of a hand? ---
**Author:** ![Chessic\_Sense](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7c8e57/32.png) [@Chessic\_Sense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chessic_Sense)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2009, 2:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-enjoy-a-good-spanking/512734/3 "2009-10-06T02:18:01Z")
Top= spanker Bottom = spankee Switch = either ---
**Author:** ![Red\_Skeezix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/aca169/32.png) [@Red\_Skeezix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Red_Skeezix)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2009, 2:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-enjoy-a-good-spanking/512734/4 "2009-10-06T02:29:59Z")
Straight male, bottom, females only please. ---
**Author:** ![Qin\_Shi\_Huangdi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/f04885/32.png) [@Qin\_Shi\_Huangdi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qin_Shi_Huangdi)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2009, 2:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-enjoy-a-good-spanking/512734/5 "2009-10-06T02:36:43Z")
Possibly anyone voting on this poll needs psychological treatment IMHO. Why is there no “I don’t enjoy spanking and think it’s a perversion/sin” choice? ---
**Author:** ![OfficeGirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/97f17d/32.png) [@OfficeGirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OfficeGirl)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2009, 2:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-enjoy-a-good-spanking/512734/6 "2009-10-06T02:42:25Z")
My kink came into bloom in January of this year, though I’d always known I liked to be spanked. It wasn’t until January that I discovered the “other stuff” and it was because some thread on here mentioned [bondage.com](http://bondage.com). I ventured over there and the rest is history. I’m still finding out all sorts of new and crazy things about my own sexuality. I’m 31, female, and most definitely a bottom/slave/sub type. ---
**Author:** ![Ann\_Onimous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ea5d25/32.png) [@Ann\_Onimous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ann_Onimous)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2009, 2:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-enjoy-a-good-spanking/512734/7 "2009-10-06T02:44:04Z")
To each his/her own, **Curtis**. There are some people who think straight missionary sex is a perversion, because there’s so much more out there. It takes all kinds. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2009, 3:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-enjoy-a-good-spanking/512734/8 "2009-10-06T03:21:53Z")
If liking a little spanky spank is wrong, I don’t want to be right. Not enough to hurt, mind you, just a little extra blood flow to the area at juuuuust the right time… I’m digging it. Geez, **Curtis LeMay** - uptight fundamentalist much? ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2009, 3:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-enjoy-a-good-spanking/512734/9 "2009-10-06T03:45:52Z")
> [@Curtis LeMay](#): > > Possibly anyone voting on this poll needs psychological treatment IMHO. Why is there no “I don’t enjoy spanking and think it’s a perversion/sin” choice? I agree with you that there needs to be a “Not interested” option. I disagree with the “judging others” aspect of the rest of what you said, though. Seems awfully close to a personal attack. I also think there should be another option, “I haven’t tried it yet.” That would get my vote. ---
**Author:** ![Covered\_In\_Bees](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7ab992/32.png) [@Covered\_In\_Bees](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Covered_In_Bees)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2009, 4:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-enjoy-a-good-spanking/512734/10 "2009-10-06T04:12:24Z")
Damn! I had no idea spanking was an inclination. I thought it was something that was pretty damn normal among two people having enthusiastic sex. I had no idea there was all this nomenclature of bottoms tops and that if gender mattered. _shrugs_ Male that likes to spank a girl during sex now and then. Does position actually matter, people can be and do the spanking from most any of them. And don’t be too hard on **Curtis**. He/she posted in a now locked thread that h/s is like 15 or 16 years old. ---
**Author:** ![Mister\_Rik](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mister_rik/32/491_2.png) [@Mister\_Rik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mister_Rik)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2009, 4:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-enjoy-a-good-spanking/512734/11 "2009-10-06T04:54:17Z")
> [@BigT](#): > > I agree with you that there needs to be a “Not interested” option. I disagree with the “judging others” aspect of the rest of what you said, though. Seems awfully close to a personal attack. I also think there should be another option, “I haven’t tried it yet.” That would get my vote. Rather, I should have made the question more specific, like so: “Of those here who enjoy erotic spanking, where in the spectrum do you fall?” If you are interested but simply haven’t tried it yet, then just answer where you feel you would fit if you had tried it. My conversations with other spankos online have shown me that many, if not most people with this “kink” realize they’re turned on by the idea of spanking long before they have the opportunity to do it for real. For example, I knew I wanted to spank the girls when I was 13-14 years old (even started writing my own erotic spanking fiction when I was 15 — which was of course ridiculously bad), but didn’t have the opportunity to actually spank a sexual partner until I was 23. > [@Covered\_In\_Bees](#): > > Damn! I had no idea spanking was an inclination. I thought it was something that was pretty damn normal among two people having enthusiastic sex. I had no idea there was all this nomenclature of bottoms tops and that if gender mattered. Well, I’m speaking specifically about actual get-yourself-over-my-knee/bent-over-the-back-of-the-sofa spanking, possibly involving implements like paddles and straps, possibly with the spankings being long, drawn-out affairs that may or may not leave marks and produce tears, used as a form of foreplay, maybe with some roleplaying involved, as opposed to a simple “smack that ass” while doing somebody from behind. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Covered\_In\_Bees](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7ab992/32.png) [@Covered\_In\_Bees](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Covered_In_Bees)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2009, 4:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-enjoy-a-good-spanking/512734/12 "2009-10-06T04:56:59Z")
> [@](#): > > Well, I’m speaking specifically about actual get-yourself-over-my-knee/bent-over-the-back-of-the-sofa spanking, possibly involving implements like paddles and straps, possibly with the spankings being long, drawn-out affairs that may or may not leave marks and produce tears, used as a form of foreplay, maybe with some roleplaying involved, as opposed to a simple “smack that ass” while doing somebody from behind. Thanks for the clarification. I now submit my vote of “No.” 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Rico](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rico/32/3582_2.png) [@Rico](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rico)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2009, 4:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-enjoy-a-good-spanking/512734/13 "2009-10-06T04:59:53Z")
> [@Curtis LeMay](#): > > Possibly anyone voting on this poll needs psychological treatment IMHO. Why is there no “I don’t enjoy spanking and think it’s a perversion/sin” choice? \ **MODERATOR WARNING** Threadshitting. Curtis, I thought you were trying to make friends here. If you don’t like the topic, stay out of it. Don’t come in and call everyone in the thread a pervert and a sinner. \ ---
**Author:** ![tumbleddown](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e9bcb4/32.png) [@tumbleddown](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tumbleddown)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2009, 5:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-enjoy-a-good-spanking/512734/14 "2009-10-06T05:18:05Z")
So far I’m the only female top amongst the kinkos here? What’s up with that? Where are my femme dommes? ---
**Author:** ![Tranquilis](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tranquilis/32/3639_2.png) [@Tranquilis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tranquilis)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2009, 5:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-enjoy-a-good-spanking/512734/15 "2009-10-06T05:27:30Z")
Straight male, top. ---
**Author:** ![Hypnagogic\_Jerk](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hypnagogic_jerk/32/4252_2.png) [@Hypnagogic\_Jerk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hypnagogic_Jerk)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2009, 5:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-enjoy-a-good-spanking/512734/16 "2009-10-06T05:28:11Z")
I unfortunately have never been able to try it, since my exes didn’t want to try to spank me. Well, one of them did try, but without much enthusiasm; I think the idea of “beating me up” skeeved her out. I’m still hoping to find a partner who’ll be into it, and I’d also like to try spanking my partner. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2009, 5:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-enjoy-a-good-spanking/512734/17 "2009-10-06T05:32:45Z")
Bi male-bottom. ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2009, 5:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-enjoy-a-good-spanking/512734/18 "2009-10-06T05:39:12Z")
Gay male top. If I had the right partner, I might consider trying the other side sometime. Though my experience attempting bondage as a bottom was a complete disaster so who knows. ---
**Author:** ![Ann\_Onimous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ea5d25/32.png) [@Ann\_Onimous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ann_Onimous)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2009, 4:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-enjoy-a-good-spanking/512734/19 "2009-10-06T16:54:52Z")
Okay, totally weird answer here. I’m in a wonderful monogamous hetero relationship, but consider myself bi: I answered switch. Bottom with males, but top with females. ---
**Author:** ![MsWhatsit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/eb8c5e/32.png) [@MsWhatsit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MsWhatsit)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2009, 4:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-enjoy-a-good-spanking/512734/20 "2009-10-06T16:59:45Z")
I would just like to register my objection to the term “spanko.” It sounds like a game on The Price Is Right, or possibly something you would bread a chicken cutlet with. Straight female, bottom. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-enjoy-a-good-spanking/512734.md?page=2)