# I forgot my anniversary! **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 20, 2014, 3:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-forgot-my-anniversary/686524 "2014-04-20T03:29:29Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![picunurse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7bcc69/32.png) [@picunurse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/picunurse)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2014, 3:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-forgot-my-anniversary/686524/1 "2014-04-20T03:29:29Z")
Today is my 14th wedding anniversary. My husband is at work. I was paying bills, when I noticed the date. I just sent hubby a text, because, obviously, he forgot too. A text is as good as a card after 14 years, isn’t it? Well, we’ll celebrate tomorrow, by going to lunch at the same place we lunce a couple times a week. Who, better to celebrate with than the bar crowd? ---
**Author:** ![Napier](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/ce73a5/32.png) [@Napier](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Napier)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2014, 3:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-forgot-my-anniversary/686524/2 "2014-04-20T03:34:48Z")
I wish hubby had remembered. One year I remembered and my wife forgot, and it kind of vaccinated me against a lifetime of risk. ---
**Author:** ![Digital\_is\_the\_new\_Analog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a88e4f/32.png) [@Digital\_is\_the\_new\_Analog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Digital_is_the_new_Analog)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2014, 3:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-forgot-my-anniversary/686524/3 "2014-04-20T03:36:06Z")
I guess as long as you both forgot, it’s all good! In my family, we have a long tradition of celebrating holidays on the wrong day. Of course, we normally plan it out, but forgetting about it is a good reason, too. ---
**Author:** ![Little\_Pig](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c57346/32.png) [@Little\_Pig](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Pig)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2014, 3:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-forgot-my-anniversary/686524/4 "2014-04-20T03:53:18Z")
I would be sleeping on the couch for at least a week. No dinner either. ---
**Author:** ![don\_t\_ask](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e68b1a/32.png) [@don\_t\_ask](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/don_t_ask)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2014, 5:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-forgot-my-anniversary/686524/5 "2014-04-20T05:12:59Z")
I forgot one year and fortunately so did my wife. I was sitting around in the evening and suddenly realized. We just laughed about it. ---
**Author:** ![picunurse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7bcc69/32.png) [@picunurse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/picunurse)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2014, 5:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-forgot-my-anniversary/686524/6 "2014-04-20T05:42:32Z")
He gets a pass. He is scheduled for shoulder surgery in a couple weeks. he’s in a lot of pain and still goes to work for hard, 24 hour shifts. Not to mention he’s scared. He had the right one done a few years ago and was out of work for nearly 6 months. Six months of pain. he didn’t know if he’d ever go back to work. The surgeon is optomistic that this one will be easier, but it’s not his shoulder. ---
**Author:** ![FairyChatMom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fairychatmom/32/21825_2.png) [@FairyChatMom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FairyChatMom)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2014, 10:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-forgot-my-anniversary/686524/7 "2014-04-20T10:05:06Z")
My husband frequently confuses our anniversary date with his ex’s birthday - they’re one day apart. The funny thing is, he remembers the other date, but he doesn’t know why he remembers it. I only know it’s her b-day because I saw it on their marriage license. In any event, it’s not a big deal. We’ve been married 30 years, and the closest we’ve ever had to an anniversary celebration was a sorta-tradition of going to a Japanese Steak House every year, tho we missed this past year. My family was aghast that we didn’t do a big party for our 25th - they even offered to host, but we’re not big on celebrations. So I don’t entirely get when some people get all bent out of shape over forgetting. If a person gets really upset over something like this, maybe there are more issues in the relationship. Or not. What do I know - I ignore Valentine’s day, too. Anyway, Happy Anniversary and congrats on 14 years! And I hope your husband’s surgery is a success and he bounces back really fast! ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2014, 10:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-forgot-my-anniversary/686524/8 "2014-04-20T10:07:54Z")
I believe this was the premise for the pilot episode of “Friends with Better Lives”. ---
**Author:** ![ftg](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ftg/32/2801_2.png) [@ftg](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ftg)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2014, 1:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-forgot-my-anniversary/686524/9 "2014-04-20T13:10:38Z")
**Mrs. FtG** and I have done this. No big deal. ---
**Author:** ![kayT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayt/32/3633_2.png) [@kayT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayT)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2014, 1:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-forgot-my-anniversary/686524/10 "2014-04-20T13:17:31Z")
My husband and I lived together for almost 20 years when we finally got married (so I could be on his insurance and we could retire). We got married on my parents’ anniversary so I could remember it. We’ve been married a few years now (8? maybe?) and I think we have only remembered it once. Usually sometime toward the end of the month (we married on June 12) something matrimonial will come up and one of us will say, Hey, we did it again! We forgot! So, I can certainly understand both the OP and her DH forgetting. Hope you had a good day anyway and a good lunch, OP. ---
**Author:** ![saje](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/saje/32/3631_2.png) [@saje](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/saje)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2014, 1:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-forgot-my-anniversary/686524/11 "2014-04-20T13:18:26Z")
Yep, my husband and I have forgotten it a number of times over the years. Sometimes one of us, sometimes both, it’s something to laugh about. We’re still together and enjoy our day-to-day marriage, which is what’s important. ---
**Author:** ![enipla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/54ee81/32.png) [@enipla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/enipla)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2014, 2:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-forgot-my-anniversary/686524/12 "2014-04-20T14:05:51Z")
For my best friends wedding gift, some 22 years ago, my mom painted a brick for the couple. A standard building brick. My mom is a gifted artist and the brick looks to be covered in ivy. And in gold letters, their wedding date. It’s sits on my friends mantle. As a reminder. They don’t forget the brick. ---
**Author:** ![Pai325](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/c68b51/32.png) [@Pai325](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pai325)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2014, 2:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-forgot-my-anniversary/686524/13 "2014-04-20T14:46:01Z")
We usually remember, and get each other cards, but it’s not a big deal and we don’t do anything special. He has had to work on it most years, and it’s only since he retired that we know he is off. We usually met at McDonald’s or Arby’s for a quick bite, and now that he has retired maybe we will up that to the Chinese buffet or Chipotle. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2014, 5:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-forgot-my-anniversary/686524/14 "2014-04-20T17:19:26Z")
Years ago, we both made an agreement to celebrate everything one day late, in case one of us forgot. Of course we started forgetting that too, so went to two days late. As of now, neither of us can remember how many days late everything gets celebrated, so we just celebrate whenever we feel like it. This year we plan to combine Halloween and Christmas, making for a very kick-ass tree (e.g. black cats pulling a sleigh and elves in nooses). ---
**Author:** ![AuntiePam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/f19dbf/32.png) [@AuntiePam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AuntiePam)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2014, 5:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-forgot-my-anniversary/686524/15 "2014-04-20T17:39:45Z")
We were married at 11 a.m. on 11/1 – 11 friends in attendance – that makes it easier. Until we have to stop and think – was it 11/1 or 11/11? ---
**Author:** ![Clothahump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/51bf81/32.png) [@Clothahump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Clothahump)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2014, 5:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-forgot-my-anniversary/686524/16 "2014-04-20T17:51:41Z")
We just celebrated our 252nd anniversary. I do them monthly. It’s about the only way I have to keep SWMBO on her toes. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![turner](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/22d042/32.png) [@turner](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/turner)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2014, 11:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-forgot-my-anniversary/686524/17 "2014-04-20T23:10:08Z")
Maybe a bit off topic, but re:is a text as good as a card. For years now, for our anniversary, my wife and I will go out somewhere for dinner, then stop in a Walmart, go to the card section, pick out cards, hand them to each other, then put them back and leave. Sometimes we’ll even get each other two!🙂 ---
**Author:** ![picunurse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7bcc69/32.png) [@picunurse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/picunurse)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2014, 11:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-forgot-my-anniversary/686524/18 "2014-04-20T23:28:46Z")
> [@FairyChatMom](#): > > My husband frequently confuses our anniversary date with his ex’s birthday - they’re one day apart. The funny thing is, he remembers the other date, but he doesn’t know why he remembers it. I only know it’s her b-day because I saw it on their marriage license. In any event, it’s not a big deal. > > We’ve been married 30 years, and the closest we’ve ever had to an anniversary celebration was a sorta-tradition of going to a Japanese Steak House every year, tho we missed this past year. My family was aghast that we didn’t do a big party for our 25th - they even offered to host, but we’re not big on celebrations. > > So I don’t entirely get when some people get all bent out of shape over forgetting. If a person gets really upset over something like this, maybe there are more issues in the relationship. Or not. What do I know - I ignore Valentine’s day, too. > Anyway, Happy Anniversary and congrats on 14 years! And I hope your husband’s surgery is a success and he bounces back really fast! My ex always remembered his dad’s birthday, but not mine…they were the same day! :dubious: ---
**Author:** ![DrumBum](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e79b87/32.png) [@DrumBum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrumBum)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2014, 3:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-forgot-my-anniversary/686524/19 "2014-04-21T15:16:24Z")
Our anniversary and Ms. DrumBum’s birthday fall on the same day so while there is a bit of cost savings to this, forgetting it could be fairly catastrophic. I best make some reservations now since both are coming up next month. ---
**Author:** ![picunurse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7bcc69/32.png) [@picunurse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/picunurse)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2014, 11:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-forgot-my-anniversary/686524/20 "2014-04-21T23:38:28Z")
> [@DrumBum](#): > > Our anniversary and Ms. DrumBum’s birthday fall on the same day so while there is a bit of cost savings to this, forgetting it could be fairly catastrophic. I best make some reservations now since both are coming up next month. 😃 Glad I could help! [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-forgot-my-anniversary/686524.md?page=2)