# I gazed upon my dead children (very long and very sad, I'm afraid) **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [March 26, 2003, 3:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-gazed-upon-my-dead-children-very-long-and-very-sad-im-afraid/164294 "2003-03-26T15:18:11Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![BoBettie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/4af34b/32.png) [@BoBettie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BoBettie)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2003, 10:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-gazed-upon-my-dead-children-very-long-and-very-sad-im-afraid/164294/61 "2003-03-26T22:27:09Z")
I’m terribly sorry to hear of your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Slainte](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a698b9/32.png) [@Slainte](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slainte)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2003, 10:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-gazed-upon-my-dead-children-very-long-and-very-sad-im-afraid/164294/62 "2003-03-26T22:46:57Z")
**zut** & \*\* mrs zut\*\*, you’re in my positive thoughts/good vibes/prayers. ---
**Author:** ![Bad\_News\_Baboon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/5fc32e/32.png) [@Bad\_News\_Baboon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bad_News_Baboon)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2003, 10:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-gazed-upon-my-dead-children-very-long-and-very-sad-im-afraid/164294/63 "2003-03-26T22:51:03Z")
I wish for your children everlasting happiness and light. Going through the treatments myself, I know how sad and difficult your path is. My sincerest sympathies. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Angel\_of\_the\_Lord](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/angel_of_the_lord/32/2949_2.png) [@Angel\_of\_the\_Lord](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angel_of_the_Lord)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2003, 11:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-gazed-upon-my-dead-children-very-long-and-very-sad-im-afraid/164294/64 "2003-03-26T23:11:47Z")
I haven’t cried over a post in a really long time. I’m crying now. ::hugs zut & mrs. zut:: I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine what it would be like. You’re in my–and a lot of other Dopers’–thoughts and prayers. ---
**Author:** ![Verrain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/46a35a/32.png) [@Verrain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Verrain)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2003, 11:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-gazed-upon-my-dead-children-very-long-and-very-sad-im-afraid/164294/65 "2003-03-26T23:16:41Z")
My deepest condolences to you and your wife. You will all be in my thoughts and prayers. ---
**Author:** ![Howard\_Juneau](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/bb73d2/32.png) [@Howard\_Juneau](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Howard_Juneau)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2003, 11:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-gazed-upon-my-dead-children-very-long-and-very-sad-im-afraid/164294/66 "2003-03-26T23:31:07Z")
**zut** and **mrs. zut** , My deepest sympathies on the loss of your beautiful son and daughter. My wife and I lost a daughter through miscarriage last year, and if this isn’t as sad as the world could get, it sure oughtta be. The OP mentioned Numbers 14:18, but my attention was drawn to verses 14:17 and 14:19. “…let the power of my Lord be great…” to give you comfort in the days ahead and rest in “the greatness of [God’s] mercy…” Thanks for sharing in the midst of your pain – you’re in my prayers ---
**Author:** ![Weirddave](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/919ad9/32.png) [@Weirddave](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Weirddave)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2003, 11:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-gazed-upon-my-dead-children-very-long-and-very-sad-im-afraid/164294/67 "2003-03-26T23:33:45Z")
God bless you and your wife, zut. I share your sorrow and your OP let me share your tears as well. ---
**Author:** ![cadolphin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c37758/32.png) [@cadolphin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cadolphin)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2003, 11:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-gazed-upon-my-dead-children-very-long-and-very-sad-im-afraid/164294/68 "2003-03-26T23:41:14Z")
The tears are flowing down my cheeks reducing my ability to see clearly. I hope I’m hitting the correct keys. I don’t know what to say to help you. I wish I did. I wish all the pain in the world would just go away. **GREAT BIG BEAR HUGS {{{{{{{zut and Mrs. zut}}}}}}}}}}** Kathy and Ric ---
**Author:** ![Giraffe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giraffe/32/129_2.png) [@Giraffe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giraffe)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2003, 11:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-gazed-upon-my-dead-children-very-long-and-very-sad-im-afraid/164294/69 "2003-03-26T23:45:27Z")
It took me a while to work up the nerve to open this thread. I’m both glad and sorry that I did, because it’s easier not to remember that things like this happen. I’m so sorry for you and your wife, **zut**. ---
**Author:** ![Persephone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ecc23a/32.png) [@Persephone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Persephone)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2003, 11:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-gazed-upon-my-dead-children-very-long-and-very-sad-im-afraid/164294/70 "2003-03-26T23:46:02Z")
((( **zut** and family))) You and your loved ones are in my thoughts. I will second, too, what **Cranky** said about the Michigan Dopers. Please join us sometime. ---
**Author:** ![Rasa](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rasa/32/3578_2.png) [@Rasa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rasa)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2003, 11:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-gazed-upon-my-dead-children-very-long-and-very-sad-im-afraid/164294/71 "2003-03-26T23:56:07Z")
I can’t read this thread and not post anything, but… I’m at a loss. I’m so very sorry for your family’s loss. ---
**Author:** ![Regina](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/d78d45/32.png) [@Regina](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Regina)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2003, 12:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-gazed-upon-my-dead-children-very-long-and-very-sad-im-afraid/164294/72 "2003-03-27T00:10:20Z")
So incredibly sad.☹ I too am reminded that my petty problems are as _nothing_ and thank you for having the courage to share this awful event. Please don’t think you are being punished. You don’t deserve it. I don’t know what to say without sounding trite, but wanted to add my voice of support. ---
**Author:** ![PunditLisa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/4af34b/32.png) [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2003, 12:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-gazed-upon-my-dead-children-very-long-and-very-sad-im-afraid/164294/73 "2003-03-27T00:24:25Z")
Aw, man, that is so heart-breaking, zut. Don’t feel guilty about your decision to reduce the pregnancy. You were trying to give the remaining children the best chance to live. It didn’t turn out the way you wanted but it was still the right decision and 100% yours to make. Your son and your daughter were enveloped in the warmth of their parents’ love their entire life. They were wanted so very much. I’m so sorry that you, and they, didn’t get to experience the joy I know the twins would have brought you. ---
**Author:** ![Becky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/c4cdca/32.png) [@Becky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Becky)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2003, 12:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-gazed-upon-my-dead-children-very-long-and-very-sad-im-afraid/164294/74 "2003-03-27T00:27:23Z")
Oh, my. {{{{{{{zut and zut’s wife}}}}}}} {{{{{{{everyone else}}}}}}} ---
**Author:** ![truthbot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e9bcb4/32.png) [@truthbot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/truthbot)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2003, 12:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-gazed-upon-my-dead-children-very-long-and-very-sad-im-afraid/164294/75 "2003-03-27T00:27:27Z")
I’m so very sorry, Zut. You and your wife will be in my thoughts. ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2003, 12:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-gazed-upon-my-dead-children-very-long-and-very-sad-im-afraid/164294/76 "2003-03-27T00:36:15Z")
Inadequate as it is, all I can offer is my condolences. I’m deeply sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Geek\_Mecha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/ecae2f/32.png) [@Geek\_Mecha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Geek_Mecha)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2003, 12:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-gazed-upon-my-dead-children-very-long-and-very-sad-im-afraid/164294/77 "2003-03-27T00:37:10Z")
I’m very sorry for your loss. Please take care. ---
**Author:** ![lno](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/a8b319/32.png) [@lno](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lno)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2003, 12:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-gazed-upon-my-dead-children-very-long-and-very-sad-im-afraid/164294/78 "2003-03-27T00:48:06Z")
Thank you for sharing that, **zut**. Please take care. ---
**Author:** ![Searching\_For\_Truth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4da419/32.png) [@Searching\_For\_Truth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Searching_For_Truth)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2003, 1:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-gazed-upon-my-dead-children-very-long-and-very-sad-im-afraid/164294/79 "2003-03-27T01:00:12Z")
I am so sorry for your loss. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers. I’m glad that you were comfortable enough to share your story with us, as painful as it is. I hope that the act of telling it provides some relief and alleviates your pain. I hope it eases your grief, also, to know that we are thinking of you and your wife. ---
**Author:** ![rocking\_chair](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rocking_chair/32/2918_2.png) [@rocking\_chair](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rocking_chair)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2003, 1:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-gazed-upon-my-dead-children-very-long-and-very-sad-im-afraid/164294/80 "2003-03-27T01:19:33Z")
i am so very sorry. y’all are in my thoughts and prayers. thank you for sharing your son and daughter with us. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-gazed-upon-my-dead-children-very-long-and-very-sad-im-afraid/164294.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-gazed-upon-my-dead-children-very-long-and-very-sad-im-afraid/164294.md?page=5)