# I Give Up on Sex **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [March 17, 2001, 2:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-give-up-on-sex/58323 "2001-03-17T02:15:25Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 16\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Dr.Pinky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/848f3c/32.png) [@Dr.Pinky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dr.Pinky)\ **Post date:** [March 17, 2001, 1:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-give-up-on-sex/58323/21 "2001-03-17T13:46:01Z")
Pammipoo is half right. There’s nothing like self-declared celibacy (or the start of a monogamous relationship, which amounts to the same thing) to cause random desirable women (& matt\_mcl) to start dropping their panties in your general direction. I’m not sure why this is true; perhaps the universe is just perverse. Unfortunately, it can’t be faked. Enjoy this evening; I predict favorable results if you get out of the house tonight 😉 ---
**Author:** ![dublos](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/f08c70/32.png) [@dublos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dublos)\ **Post date:** [March 17, 2001, 2:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-give-up-on-sex/58323/22 "2001-03-17T14:31:36Z")
Euty, To quote Mr. Spider Robinson on sex > [@](#): > > I can see fingers and a tongue from here; anything else is gravy. So if the problem you have decided to alude to without truly sharing your pain is a problem with the main thrust systems, then you’re just concentrating too much on the wrong part. If, as aluded to in some other replies, the problem is you’re not finding sexual partners, then you need to re-evaluate where you’re looking, and how you’re looking. If it’s none of the above, how about throwing the open minds and compassionate hearts of the SDMB a bone and actually telling us what’s got you down so we can share your pain and get on to the healing? If you treat your pain as something to poke fun at, we’ll all happily join you in poking fun at your pain and our own till you’re ready, but till then, don’t take us to task for joining you in whatever manner we’re able to with the information you give us. -Doug ---
**Author:** ![Silver\_Fire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a88e4f/32.png) [@Silver\_Fire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silver_Fire)\ **Post date:** [March 17, 2001, 7:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-give-up-on-sex/58323/23 "2001-03-17T19:56:57Z")
Me too. The really sad thing is, I have a loooong time to live. Unless of course, I _do_ decide to jump in front of a train. Or a city bus. Or a Mack truck. In any case, I’m done. I wonder if it’s too late to become a nun… And FTR, I don’t think it’s a joke Euty. I’m right next to you in that boat. And it’s my turn to drive. ---
**Author:** ![Mercutio](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/51bf81/32.png) [@Mercutio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mercutio)\ **Post date:** [March 17, 2001, 8:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-give-up-on-sex/58323/24 "2001-03-17T20:22:24Z")
How can you give up on something you’ve never had? 😃 [sub]Well _some_body had to say it…[/sub] I feel for you Euty, but not in the “I feel for you and your shaft of man love in the dark” sort of way. Buck up. I love a good sex pun ---
**Author:** ![The\_Mermaid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a183cd/32.png) [@The\_Mermaid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Mermaid)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2001, 1:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-give-up-on-sex/58323/25 "2001-03-18T01:07:39Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by astro \* > \*\*It’s because you’re circumcised. ;j > > \*\* Ok Everybody I brought the economy size Box o Rocks™. Who wants first crack at 'em? :giving Astro a sorta, kinda, meanish look: :rolleyes: On a more serious note, Euty my heart aches for you. I am not in possession of all the facts concerning your sex life or lack thereof, but I know enough to know that you are one of the sweetest, smartest, all around greatest guys on this whole damn board. In my mind, that makes you damn sexy. Whatever the problem is, it ain’t you. You deserve better. Hang in there. ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2001, 1:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-give-up-on-sex/58323/26 "2001-03-18T01:37:21Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by The Mermaid \* > \*\* > > > [@](#): > > > > \*Originally posted by astro \* > > \*\*It’s because you’re circumcised. ;j > > > > \*\* > > Ok Everybody I brought the economy size Box o Rocks™. Who wants first crack at 'em? > > :giving Astro a sorta, kinda, meanish look: :rolleyes: > On a more serious note, Euty my heart aches for you. I am not in possession of all the facts concerning your sex life or lack thereof, but I know enough to know that you are one of the sweetest, smartest, all around greatest guys on this whole damn board. In my mind, that makes you damn sexy. Whatever the problem is, it ain’t you. You deserve better. Hang in there. \*\* I don’t mind a meanish look but the OP’s descriptions was fairly vague at the point that I responded, as several respondents have attested to. I didn’t know (and still don’t) if its a physical dysfunction issue, a “tired of relationships” complaint or a “can’t get no satisfaction/girly action statement”. If it’s a physical dysfunction issue there’s not much we can do other than say (((poor Euty))) as the potential causes for this sort or thing are beyond number and he needs to see a medical professional for real help. If it’s one of the latter categories (which is what I thought) some comedic relief per the since departed, and un-missed JDT’s rantings was what I was aiming at. If you want to aim your econo size box o’ rocks at my head go ahead. ---
**Author:** ![Gambit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e0b2c6/32.png) [@Gambit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gambit)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2001, 4:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-give-up-on-sex/58323/27 "2001-03-18T04:56:42Z")
Eutychus55: I won’t go as far as to assume that everyone is wired the same way, but here’s some advice from someone who’s done the declared celibacy thing for five years now… After a few years of not having sex, you actually begin to miss physical intimacy more then the sex itself. My physical withdrawal (some people do go through sexual withdrawal) took about two years, which is to say that it took two years before my body stopped saying (in a very commanding voice,) “YOU MUST SCREW RIGHT NOW!” It wasn’t easy, but if you’re serious about your OP and aren’t approaching declared celibacy for the wrong reasons, you can make it through. It’s funny that I should bump into this post. I recently ran into a rather beautiful young woman whom I pursued for a time. Five years ago my first thought upon seeing her would have been, “let’s do it,” but standing there, all I really wanted to know of her was how it felt to kiss her. Of course, you might experience something completely different, but I think that if someone is honestly committed to the idea of putting sex aside for a time, they can begin to grow in ways they weren’t able to before. ---
**Author:** ![evilbeth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/evilbeth/32/2268_2.png) [@evilbeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/evilbeth)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2001, 4:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-give-up-on-sex/58323/28 "2001-03-18T04:57:47Z")
{{{{{Patrick}}}}} Sweetie, listen to **The Mermaid** –she’s completely right. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Mermaid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a183cd/32.png) [@The\_Mermaid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Mermaid)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2001, 6:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-give-up-on-sex/58323/29 "2001-03-18T06:06:03Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by astro \* > . . . . .some comedic relief per the since departed, and un-missed JDT’s rantings was what I was aiming at. If you want to aim your econo size box o’ rocks at my head go ahead. > \*\* **Astro** I actually thought your JDTism was funny but you know any reference to him requires us to throw at least one harmless imaginary rock in your direction. Of course I would aim to miss though. 🙂 :giving Astro a not-at-all and very unmean look: 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Cyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a88e4f/32.png) [@Cyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyn)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2001, 6:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-give-up-on-sex/58323/30 "2001-03-18T06:19:41Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Eutychus55 \* > \*\*Yep. Had enough trying. Nothing works anymore. 'Bout time I faced the fact that my sex life is over for this lifetime. > > Sorry, ladies. \*\* As a fine young lady, I bestow my forgiveness upon you, but somewhere there’s a fine young lady who will bestow otherwise upon you if you will face the fact that you are having a bad moment in time. It ain’t over till it’s over, baby ---
**Author:** ![techchick68](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ea5d25/32.png) [@techchick68](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/techchick68)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2001, 6:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-give-up-on-sex/58323/31 "2001-03-18T06:56:38Z")
I’ve heard of this thing called sex and I forget what it is, could someone kindly explain to me what it is? \< been so long the only thing that happens down there the cleaning of said area and that’s hardly exciting \> ---
**Author:** ![Tansu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/67e7ee/32.png) [@Tansu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tansu)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2001, 11:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-give-up-on-sex/58323/32 "2001-03-18T11:54:13Z")
Come on, Venus Aphrodite, give Euty a break. > [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by techchick68 \* > \*\*\< been so long the only thing that happens down there the cleaning of said area and that’s hardly exciting \> \*\* That can’t be right. Bathtime should be fun time 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Eutychus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a3d4f5/32.png) [@Eutychus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eutychus)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2001, 9:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-give-up-on-sex/58323/33 "2001-03-19T09:07:10Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Cyn \* > \*\*It ain’t over till it’s over, baby \*\* “Forever caught in desert lands, one has to learn to disbelieve the sea.” ---
**Author:** ![Albert\_Rose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9de053/32.png) [@Albert\_Rose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Albert_Rose)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2001, 10:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-give-up-on-sex/58323/34 "2001-03-19T10:57:55Z")
> [@](#): > > _originally posted by techchick68_ > I’ve heard of this thing called sex and I forget what it is, could someone kindly explain to me what it is? I think it may have something to do with bananas. Should we start a thread in GQ? ---
**Author:** ![MrVisible](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/46a35a/32.png) [@MrVisible](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MrVisible)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2001, 3:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-give-up-on-sex/58323/35 "2001-03-19T15:49:47Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Eutychus55 \* > **"Forever caught in desert lands, one has to learn to disbelieve the sea."** But a prison in sand Is a haven in hell, For a gaol can give you a goal And as to giving up sex, I have to go along with you, Euty. Heck with it. I’m happier single, and celibate. ---
**Author:** ![Broken\_Doll](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bbce88/32.png) [@Broken\_Doll](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Broken_Doll)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2001, 3:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-give-up-on-sex/58323/36 "2001-03-20T03:01:51Z")
I know what you mean, Euty. I may be 18, young and nubile, but I give up on sex. I give up on trying to find someone, as well. Alas, I shall become a hermit. Eh, I’ll change my mind next week when the hormones kick in. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-give-up-on-sex/58323.md?page=1)