# I got accused of being a pedophile today... **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [October 2, 2002, 1:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-got-accused-of-being-a-pedophile-today/130482 "2002-10-02T01:58:47Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![chique](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4491bb/32.png) [@chique](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chique)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2002, 10:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-got-accused-of-being-a-pedophile-today/130482/61 "2002-10-04T22:53:30Z")
No, there is a case where a man was arrested for **attempting to buy** an 8 year old child. Had he made the statement and then never followed through, he wouldn’t have been arrested for squat. I see nothing in **Chekmate’s** OP where he said he constantly hung around the girl; just that he was cool to his younger brother and his friends when they are around. Anyone who would twist this into something it’s not has a sick mind, AFAIC. ---
**Author:** ![Garfield226](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Garfield226](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Garfield226)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2002, 10:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-got-accused-of-being-a-pedophile-today/130482/62 "2002-10-04T22:54:19Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Snugglebear \* > **Garfield226 I explain how I overreacted. I don’t see how my posts have been inchoherant. This must really be ruining your day. :rolleyes:** Well, that was somewhat incoherant itself… “Garfield226 I explain how I overreacted.” Now, I assume you’re addressing me, but conventionally one uses a comment after addressing someone, so I wasn’t sure. Then you said “I explain how I overreacted.” Now, I first took this to mean “I explain **ed** how I overreacted,” but nowhere in the thread did I find such an explanation. So, I cannot understand this post. Therefore, it is incoherent. At least it matches the other ones. Oh, and my day isn’t ruined. Much to the contrary, I was rather depressed before I found this thread, and now my life is renewed with the mission of fighting ignorance. Thank you. > [@](#): > > _originally posted by **FeFe** _ > No where in this post has anyone said that he tried to have sex with the kid. which is kinda what he said with the title… This is also incoherent to me. Yes, no one has said that he tried to have sex with the kid. I agree with you. I don’t get the second part…you’re saying that **HE’s** saying that he tried to have sex with the kid? And on preview… **FeFe** , sorry, try again. HE TOOK ACTION. He CAME TO BUY THE KID. I can say I’m going to go out and buy some beer tonight, and even though I’m underage, you can’t do a thing. If I went to buy the beer, you can bet I could end up in jail. See the difference? ---
**Author:** ![Snugglebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ee7513/32.png) [@Snugglebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snugglebear)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2002, 11:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-got-accused-of-being-a-pedophile-today/130482/63 "2002-10-04T23:07:05Z")
Garfield226 you still haven’t explained anything to me as to how I am overreacting or inchoherant. A typo isn’t inchoherant to me. :wally ---
**Author:** ![Turbo\_Dog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ce73a5/32.png) [@Turbo\_Dog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Turbo_Dog)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2002, 11:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-got-accused-of-being-a-pedophile-today/130482/64 "2002-10-04T23:18:28Z")
It would be perverted if **Checkmate** walked to a playground, randomly selected a little girl and started tickling him. I’d probably kick him through the woods. This is not the case here. These are neighborhood friends that have been playing for years. Obviously with parental consent. Today she thought he did something wrong. He says nothing bad happened. Sadly, that’s how things go sometimes and he can’t keep doing what he used to with one of the neighboorhood friends. Growing up changes things like that. I’m not even gonna get started on **Snugglebear** who really needs to read up on law, among many other things. ---
**Author:** ![brad\_d](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/50afbb/32.png) [@brad\_d](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/brad_d)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2002, 11:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-got-accused-of-being-a-pedophile-today/130482/65 "2002-10-04T23:25:33Z")
I’m in complete agreement with **MaxTheVool** and **Turbo Dog**. I fail completely to understand the perspective of those posters telling **Chekmate** that he should consider himself lucky to “only have gotten off with a warning.” Do some of you folks seriously think this incident warranted prosecution?!? He learned a lesson from this, all right - a very depressing one, IMO. **FeFe** , I guess we’re going to have to disagree, then. You may support it, but I’m horrified at the prospect of punishing people for having illegal thoughts. And like **Garfield226** says, preparatory action is a completely different ballgame from simple contemplation (or at least it ought to be, IMO). ---
**Author:** ![FeFe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/919ad9/32.png) [@FeFe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FeFe)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2002, 11:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-got-accused-of-being-a-pedophile-today/130482/66 "2002-10-04T23:27:06Z")
Frist off the man siad to someone else “i’m thinking of buying a child”. that was my point that yes that in its self isn’t 100% right. but then man was then dumb enough to do it. its the only thing I have been able to find so far. And yes I see the difference beer isn’t a sex crime. I don’t remember if it was on the news or somewhere else that I heard it… It was sometime ago. And it may or may not have been put to law though I think it was… Also it wasn’t b\c you want to have sex with her your going to jail. It was someone had to hear you say you are planning on haveing sex with someone underage, and then take that to the cops from there the cops can go have a talk to you to see what they think and go from there. But they are looking into ppl SAYING they are going to go out and commit a sex crime a lot more then they would ‘say some dumb ass kid going out and buying beer.’ If I can find it i’ll post it if not i’m just going to asume that it wasn’t put to law. b\c i’m pretty sure I heard about it when it was still going though all the stages it has to go thought to be passed into law. he siad “I got accused of being a pedophile today…” pedophile is having sex with a child. no where in the post did it say he had sex with her or tried to. I just wanted to know where pedophile came into the post since if he is posting things the way they really happened nothing anywhere could be taken as that just that the girl didn’t like being tickled anymore and he didn’t stop. ---
**Author:** ![FeFe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/919ad9/32.png) [@FeFe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FeFe)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2002, 11:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-got-accused-of-being-a-pedophile-today/130482/67 "2002-10-04T23:31:44Z")
having the thoughts is just sick in my mind but where I was going with that is saying to others that you have them. which in my book is very sick. and no that wed link I posted was not what I was talking about it was the closest thing I have found so far and i’m still looking. “And like Garfield226 says, preparatory action is a completely different ballgame from simple contemplation (or at least it ought to be, IMO).” Yes I think it is to. All i’m saying is that I THINK THERE HAS BEEN A LAW PASSED AT LEAST HERE THAT SAYS CONTEMPLATION IS A MISDAMINOER… But i’m not 100% sure. ---
**Author:** ![chique](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4491bb/32.png) [@chique](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chique)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2002, 11:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-got-accused-of-being-a-pedophile-today/130482/68 "2002-10-04T23:38:34Z")
> [@](#): > > _Originally posted by SnuggleBear_ > \*\*Garfield226 you still haven’t explained anything to me as to how I am overreacting or inchoherant. \*\* If that last post by **FeFe** wasn’t incoherent I don’t know what is. Anyone else reminded of [url=http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=42639\*\*RosieWolf et al.? ---
**Author:** ![Garfield226](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Garfield226](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Garfield226)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2002, 11:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-got-accused-of-being-a-pedophile-today/130482/69 "2002-10-04T23:38:39Z")
Ok, I just explained how I didn’t understand your last post. Therefore it was incoherant. So I guess you meant by it that I’m supposed to explain how you’re incoherant. Ok. > [@](#): > > _originally posted by Snugglebear_ > If it were my 12 year old daughter you would be in for a “love letter” from me dude. Love letter? I thought you wouldn’t like the guy…why would you want to send him a love letter? Oh, it’s in quotes. That must mean it’s sarcastic. But wait, so you actually meant he’d be in for a hate letter? Sounds pretty overreactive to me. Don’t bother trying to find out the circumstances, don’t worry that he’s been spending five years hanging out with your daughter and all the other neighborhood kids, don’t allow for the fact that she might have been the one to make a mistake in interpretation…I’m not saying don’t trust her, I’m not saying call her a liar, all I’m saying is don’t act with blind rage. > [@](#): > > My suggestion if you are not convicted with agg. sexual battery is join the military. They’ll teach you tickle me elmo is for kids…Real quick So we go from his playing with neighborhood kids to possibly being convicted with aggravated sexual battery in what, a couple days. Way to presume guilty until proven innocent! And you’re giving him advice! I’m sure it was accepted with the same spirit in which it was given. I can only hope it was… > [@](#): > > You DO NOT touch children without the parents consent. > EVER ! Here’s a thought…how about we don’t threaten and yell at _me_? Sound good? Notice how I did that without commanding anyone, or using excalamation points or all caps? > [@](#): > > Have you ever concidered the rethorical skills of a 12 year old? I was pretty sharp when I was twelve and I knew when something was wrong. > I do not take checkmate’s post at face value. Yes, yes I have. A lot of them aren’t too smart. And some who are are smart enough to _intentionally_ say things like that “just to see what will happen” or whatever. And again, I’m sorry you didn’t take his post at face value. I thought there was something a bit off about you and FeFe’s posts too, but I took them at face value (approx .00073 Canadian cents). > [@](#): > > You can also be convicted of Attemped Agg. Sexual Battery for even being suspected of touching a child. Yes it’s true. > Even thinking of commiting a sex crime is punishable. Thank goodness for it too. As has already been explained to you numerous times, that’s simply not true. I suppose you could be convicted if you were set up or something, but other than that… THINKING of anything is not punishable. How does anyone know what I’m thinking? I could be thinking of ANYTHING. Sometimes I don’t even know what I’m thinking. Who’s responsible then? And on preview: > [@](#): > > _Originally posted by FeFe_ > pedophile is having sex with a child. no where in the post did it say he had sex with her or tried to. I just wanted to know where pedophile came into the post since if he is posting things the way they really happened nothing anywhere could be taken as that just that the girl didn’t like being tickled anymore and he didn’t stop. This is becoming surreal… Pedophile came into it because HE WAS ACCUSED OF BEING ONE. THAT’S WHAT REALLY HAPPENED. He was accused of it. He posted what really happened, no one else took it as anything more than what he posted except for a few people. And please point out where he says he didn’t stop. I’m having trouble finding that part. Thanks. ---
**Author:** ![Snugglebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ee7513/32.png) [@Snugglebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snugglebear)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2002, 11:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-got-accused-of-being-a-pedophile-today/130482/70 "2002-10-04T23:45:23Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Turbo Dog \* > I’m not even gonna get started on **Snugglebear** who really needs to read up on law, among many other things. \*\* Oh please do get started on me. I would like you to tell me where it says that sexual misconduct is not punisable by law. ---
**Author:** ![Turbo\_Dog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ce73a5/32.png) [@Turbo\_Dog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Turbo_Dog)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2002, 11:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-got-accused-of-being-a-pedophile-today/130482/71 "2002-10-04T23:49:48Z")
I would like you to tell me where it says that sexual misconduct took place. ---
**Author:** ![Snugglebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ee7513/32.png) [@Snugglebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snugglebear)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2002, 11:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-got-accused-of-being-a-pedophile-today/130482/72 "2002-10-04T23:52:50Z")
I said my peace. Checkmate was wrong. He could be convicted if the girls parents decided to persue a case against him. If it were my daughter I would not handel it lightly. Garfield226 go henny peck somebody else. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Garfield226](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Garfield226](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Garfield226)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2002, 11:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-got-accused-of-being-a-pedophile-today/130482/73 "2002-10-04T23:57:18Z")
IOW, “You’ve backed me into a corner, so I’m going to shut up now.” Ok. ---
**Author:** ![chique](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4491bb/32.png) [@chique](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chique)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2002, 11:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-got-accused-of-being-a-pedophile-today/130482/74 "2002-10-04T23:57:40Z")
> [@](#): > > I said my **piece**. Checkmate was wrong. He could be convicted if the **girl’s** parents decided to **pursue** a case against him. If **she** were my daughter I would not **handle** it lightly. > Garfield226 go **henny peck** \* somebody else. ::thwaps **Snugglebear** and **FeFe** with a dictionary :: \*-Iffy. Where I’m from it’s ‘henpeck’ but regional differences and all… [sub]I know, it’s petty, I’m sorry, but it’s getting on my nerves.[/sub] ---
**Author:** ![Snugglebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ee7513/32.png) [@Snugglebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snugglebear)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2002, 11:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-got-accused-of-being-a-pedophile-today/130482/75 "2002-10-04T23:58:08Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Chekmate \* > \*\* and have been known to tickle the girl (12 now). Well, today I tickled her, as I have done a hundred times before, and apparently, she runs back and tells her Mom that I “touched her inappropriatly.” \*\* Right here… ---
**Author:** ![Scotticher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9c0ed/32.png) [@Scotticher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scotticher)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2002, 11:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-got-accused-of-being-a-pedophile-today/130482/76 "2002-10-04T23:59:13Z")
Garf…let it go. There is no point in continuing this current discussion, hon. Poor **Chekmate** got caught in a situation where he wasn’t doing anything wrong, but circumstances changed and fear rules these days and he got chastised. It stinks that everyone is so paranoid that they don’t allow any kind of playful physical contact with a child after a certain age…despite the fact that it is innocent and with only the purest of intentions. Sheesh, I am so glad I was raised in a time when it was fine and even encouraged for people to hug a child, or tickle them, or any of that sort of thing. Of course, I hug everyone anyway, and I haven’t been arrested yet…but you may have to bail me out one of these days, my dearest. So save your pennies. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Snugglebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ee7513/32.png) [@Snugglebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snugglebear)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2002, 12:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-got-accused-of-being-a-pedophile-today/130482/77 "2002-10-05T00:01:50Z")
You didn’t back me into a corner. I just said all I want to about this. ---
**Author:** ![Garfield226](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Garfield226](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Garfield226)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2002, 12:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-got-accused-of-being-a-pedophile-today/130482/78 "2002-10-05T00:04:18Z")
\ [sub]psst…you forgot the opening tag…[/sub] ---
**Author:** ![elfkin477](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a9a28c/32.png) [@elfkin477](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elfkin477)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2002, 12:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-got-accused-of-being-a-pedophile-today/130482/79 "2002-10-05T00:09:13Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by FeFe \* > **beer isn’t a sex crime** Band name!! [sub] come on, someone had to say it.[/sub]😛 ---
**Author:** ![Turbo\_Dog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ce73a5/32.png) [@Turbo\_Dog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Turbo_Dog)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2002, 12:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-got-accused-of-being-a-pedophile-today/130482/80 "2002-10-05T00:10:30Z")
No such thing as burden of proof in some people’s world. Just errant thoughts. Hell lock my ass up. In just an hour today I am guilty of assault (when I wanted to kick my boss), sexual harrassment (when I wanted to hit on a co-worker), sexual misconduct (for what I wanted to do to her in the boardroom), reckless driving and assault on a minor (for wanting to chase down the punk kid who cut me off on the freeway), and child abuse and incest (because I tickled my 5 year old daughter and she got mad at me). [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-got-accused-of-being-a-pedophile-today/130482.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-got-accused-of-being-a-pedophile-today/130482.md?page=5)