# I had a first date last night and have a question **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [July 17, 2016, 11:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-had-a-first-date-last-night-and-have-a-question/760168 "2016-07-17T23:48:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![cg16](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a698b9/32.png) [@cg16](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cg16)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2016, 11:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-had-a-first-date-last-night-and-have-a-question/760168/1 "2016-07-17T23:48:01Z")
Date lasted about two hours, lot of laughter and hugged at the end. She asked my last relationship and we discussed different types of food. I told her to let me know when she arrived through text and her text was “hey, I’m home!” followed by “i hope you made it home before it started raining” So when I call tomorrow to ask her out again do you think she will accept based on those texts last night? ---
**Author:** ![Velocity](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/velocity/32/18006_2.png) [@Velocity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Velocity)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2016, 11:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-had-a-first-date-last-night-and-have-a-question/760168/2 "2016-07-17T23:50:05Z")
Uh, yeah, pretty likely? ---
**Author:** ![snfaulkner](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/snfaulkner/32/433_2.png) [@snfaulkner](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/snfaulkner)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2016, 11:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-had-a-first-date-last-night-and-have-a-question/760168/3 "2016-07-17T23:52:26Z")
Only one way to find out…get on the internet and ask a bunch of strangers who know next to nothing of you or her. OR, you could just, you know, call her and ask. ---
**Author:** ![PastTense](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pasttense/32/14550_2.png) [@PastTense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PastTense)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2016, 11:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-had-a-first-date-last-night-and-have-a-question/760168/4 "2016-07-17T23:53:18Z")
Who knows? People are fickle. ---
**Author:** ![cg16](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a698b9/32.png) [@cg16](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cg16)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2016, 11:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-had-a-first-date-last-night-and-have-a-question/760168/5 "2016-07-17T23:53:21Z")
> [@snfaulkner](#): > > Only one way to find out…get on the internet and ask a bunch of strangers who know next to nothing of you or her. > > OR, you could just, you know, call her and ask. well I will get my answer tomorrow but just wanted to know based on those texts what do my chances look like. ---
**Author:** ![Velocity](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/velocity/32/18006_2.png) [@Velocity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Velocity)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2016, 11:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-had-a-first-date-last-night-and-have-a-question/760168/6 "2016-07-17T23:56:33Z")
> [@cg16](#): > > well I will get my answer tomorrow but just wanted to know based on those texts what do my chances look like. I’d say about 75% chance yes. ---
**Author:** ![cg16](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a698b9/32.png) [@cg16](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cg16)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2016, 12:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-had-a-first-date-last-night-and-have-a-question/760168/7 "2016-07-18T00:00:23Z")
> [@Velocity](#): > > I’d say about 75% chance yes. I guess it was because of the mixed signal I was getting during the date. When she was telling me what types of food I should try in a enthusiastic way. I was saying to myself, “me or us” lol ---
**Author:** ![Shagnasty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9dc877/32.png) [@Shagnasty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shagnasty)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2016, 12:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-had-a-first-date-last-night-and-have-a-question/760168/8 "2016-07-18T00:02:24Z")
> [@cg16](#): > > …what do my chances look like. Most of the betting lines in Vegas are running with an 8 point spread in your favor right now with heavy betting activity especially among Asian and Middle Eastern gamblers. I have $100 wagered that she will accept but remember, you could still blow this if you under-prepare for this game and I really don’t like to lose money if you catch my drift. Good luck, we’re all counting on you. ---
**Author:** ![Rigamarole](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/77aa72/32.png) [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2016, 12:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-had-a-first-date-last-night-and-have-a-question/760168/9 "2016-07-18T00:56:18Z")
> [@Shagnasty](#): > > Most of the betting lines in Vegas are running with an 8 point spread in your favor right now with heavy betting activity especially among Asian and Middle Eastern gamblers. I have $100 wagered that she will accept but remember, you could still blow this if you under-prepare for this game and I really don’t like to lose money if you catch my drift. Good luck, we’re all counting on you. [But what’s the vig on this action](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ipfeVOW00r4)? ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2016, 1:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-had-a-first-date-last-night-and-have-a-question/760168/10 "2016-07-18T01:34:03Z")
I’m going to go ahead and say no. If she really liked you that much, you would be at her place, not texting. It sounds like she probably had an ok time. But that’s about it. ---
**Author:** ![HMS\_Irruncible](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hms_irruncible/32/7394_2.png) [@HMS\_Irruncible](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HMS_Irruncible)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2016, 1:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-had-a-first-date-last-night-and-have-a-question/760168/11 "2016-07-18T01:38:39Z")
> [@cg16](#): > > Date lasted about two hours, lot of laughter and hugged at the end. She asked my last relationship and we discussed different types of food. I told her to let me know when she arrived through text and her text was > > “hey, I’m home!” followed by “i hope you made it home before it started raining” > > So when I call tomorrow to ask her out again do you think she will accept based on those texts last night? Alright. You were right to bring this here. So the first thing to say is “ha i did beat the rain” and then you say “how about u”. Then for 35 hours, radio silence, and you say ‘what u doin 2moro’. Then 25 hours, then name a time and place, and show up 20 minutes late. You’re welcome. ---
**Author:** ![cg16](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a698b9/32.png) [@cg16](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cg16)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2016, 1:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-had-a-first-date-last-night-and-have-a-question/760168/12 "2016-07-18T01:39:36Z")
> [@msmith537](#): > > I’m going to go ahead and say no. If she really liked you that much, you would be at her place, not texting. It sounds like she probably had an ok time. But that’s about it. she is not that type of woman ---
**Author:** ![Jackmannii](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jackmannii/32/311_2.png) [@Jackmannii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jackmannii)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2016, 1:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-had-a-first-date-last-night-and-have-a-question/760168/13 "2016-07-18T01:57:38Z")
> [@cg16](#): > > she is not that type of woman What type of food did she say she likes? If she hankers after hot spicy food, your odds are a lot better than if she’s into Greek yogurt and GMO/gluten-free crap. ---
**Author:** ![cg16](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a698b9/32.png) [@cg16](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cg16)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2016, 1:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-had-a-first-date-last-night-and-have-a-question/760168/14 "2016-07-18T01:59:44Z")
> [@Jackmannii](#): > > What type of food did she say she likes? > > If she hankers after hot spicy food, your odds are a lot better than if she’s into Greek yogurt and GMO/gluten-free crap. Mexican and Italian ---
**Author:** ![Joey\_P](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/919ad9/32.png) [@Joey\_P](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Joey_P)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2016, 2:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-had-a-first-date-last-night-and-have-a-question/760168/15 "2016-07-18T02:04:13Z")
> [@Velocity](#): > > Uh, yeah, pretty likely? I’d say “uh no, not necessarily” plenty of my dates include next day [text] banter that includes back and forths where she specifically says she had a good time and even agrees that we should get together again. But when it comes time to actually making another date, that’s the last I’ll hear from her. I’ve learned in my years of online dating some people feel a need/compulsion/habit to reply to _everything_ piece of communication they receive. I went on one date, a while back, where I found out she didn’t even like me (like that), turned out she was just replying because that’s what she did. When we were on the date she even mentioned that she wasn’t actually interested in me (again, in a romantic way, she seemed to like me just fine otherwise). In online dating, if if I’m not interesting in someone, if I don’t see myself, at the very least, on a date with them in the next few weeks, I don’t reply. This girl was very new to the online dating scene and I told her that it’s totally okay to not reply to someone, in fact, when someone emails her and she opens up a conversation with them, as far as they’re concerned, she’s interested because ‘she wrote back’ (she figured that part out). I told her if she must reply, she has to start out by telling them she’s not interested, otherwise she’s basically leading them on, especially if they’re just concentrating on her for the moment. To make it all even more fucked up…she’s the one that contacted me first. Anyways, back to the OP, while the next days texts are a good sign, they don’t guarantee anything. The best thing to try to do is set up a second date before the first one is over, but I always feel a bit bad since if they’re not interested that might put them in the awkward position of having to say no. It’s a lot easier to just ignore a text (and I’m okay with that). ---
**Author:** ![cg16](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a698b9/32.png) [@cg16](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cg16)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2016, 2:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-had-a-first-date-last-night-and-have-a-question/760168/16 "2016-07-18T02:10:16Z")
> [@Joey\_P](#): > > I’d say “uh no, not necessarily” plenty of my dates include next day [text] banter that includes back and forths where she specifically says she had a good time and even agrees that we should get together again. But when it comes time to actually making another date, that’s the last I’ll hear from her. > > I’ve learned in my years of online dating some people feel a need/compulsion/habit to reply to _everything_ piece of communication they receive. > > I went on one date, a while back, where I found out she didn’t even like me (like that), turned out she was just replying because that’s what she did. When we were on the date she even mentioned that she wasn’t actually interested in me (again, in a romantic way, she seemed to like me just fine otherwise). In online dating, if if I’m not interesting in someone, if I don’t see myself, at the very least, on a date with them in the next few weeks, I don’t reply. This girl was very new to the online dating scene and I told her that it’s totally okay to not reply to someone, in fact, when someone emails her and she opens up a conversation with them, as far as they’re concerned, she’s interested because ‘she wrote back’ (she figured that part out). I told her if she must reply, she has to start out by telling them she’s not interested, otherwise she’s basically leading them on, especially if they’re just concentrating on her for the moment. > To make it all even more fucked up…she’s the one that contacted me first. > > Anyways, back to the OP, while the next days texts are a good sign, they don’t guarantee anything. The best thing to try to do is set up a second date before the first one is over, but I always feel a bit bad since if they’re not interested that might put them in the awkward position of having to say no. It’s a lot easier to just ignore a text (and I’m okay with that). That sounds like a good idea but I was getting this mixed signal and wasn’t sure when she was telling me the new places I should try. She wasn’t saying WE SHOULD but instead saying I SHOULD lol ---
**Author:** ![Philster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/13edae/32.png) [@Philster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Philster)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2016, 3:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-had-a-first-date-last-night-and-have-a-question/760168/17 "2016-07-18T15:05:41Z")
90% chance of a second date. 10% chance of a third date. You’re in and getting a second date because the 1st was okay. She sounds reasonable. Communication consistent with signs pointing to date #2. Good there. However, given that you’re on here, and making this mechanical and analytical, I’d wager against a third date… and I’d wager a lot. . ---
**Author:** ![cg16](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a698b9/32.png) [@cg16](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cg16)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2016, 3:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-had-a-first-date-last-night-and-have-a-question/760168/18 "2016-07-18T15:09:50Z")
> [@Philster](#): > > 90% chance of a second date. > > 10% chance of a third date. > > You’re in and getting a second date because the 1st was okay. She sounds reasonable. Communication consistent with signs pointing to date #2. Good there. > > However, given that you’re on here, and making this mechanical and analytical, I’d wager against a third date… and I’d wager a lot. > > . Would be nice if I can meet someone else on her level to compete with her. But that won’t be easy ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2016, 3:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-had-a-first-date-last-night-and-have-a-question/760168/19 "2016-07-18T15:11:25Z")
> [@cg16](#): > > Mexican and Italian Ahhh, a spaghetti western babe. ---
**Author:** ![Philster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/13edae/32.png) [@Philster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Philster)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2016, 4:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-had-a-first-date-last-night-and-have-a-question/760168/20 "2016-07-18T16:15:27Z")
> [@cg16](#): > > Would be nice if I can meet someone else on her level to compete with her. But that won’t be easy What is that supposed to mean? Did you forget the ‘sarcasm’ notation? [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-had-a-first-date-last-night-and-have-a-question/760168.md?page=2)